If you’ve spent any time on Pinterest in the past year, you would have noticed the increase in ads from a certain non-diet diet company. My streams were bombarded, and despite reporting them as irrelevant or worse, they would still be there. It was not ideal, especially for a site called out for its problematic associations with eating disorder ideation in its early days. HuffPost covers the issues and their actions taken in 2012. But it seems the users weren’t the only ones feeling meh about the diet ads.
Well, it happened; Pinterest bans weight loss ads!
In a news post on their website, the company said it would also not allow ads promoting or discussing weight loss or weight loss products or ads referencing body mass index (BMI) or similar indexes. This policy came into effect July 1st, 2021, referencing a pathway to a weight-loss ad-free summer. Something that was suggested to them through their relationship with The National Eating Disorders Association. Here is the announcement post and some quotes from the article making the announcement.
Ads promoting healthy lifestyles and habits or fitness services and products will still be allowed, as long as they don’t focus on weight loss.
This policy change was developed with the guidance and advice of NEDA. “The National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) applauds Pinterest for taking a leadership position as the first platform to prohibit all ads with weight-loss language and imagery. NEDA is encouraged by this necessary step in prioritizing the mental health and well-being of Pinners, especially those impacted by diet culture, body shaming, and eating disorders. We are hopeful this global policy will encourage other organizations and companies to reflect on potentially harmful ad messages and to establish their own working policies that will create meaningful change,” said Elizabeth Thompson, Interim CEO for the National Eating Disorders Association.
(Also taken from Pinterest news page)
source: Pinterest newsroom
In the Pinterest bans weight loss ads announcement article, Pinterest talks a lot about body neutrality. A move towards living and existing in a body that serves you and isn’t defined by how it looks or performs. This is something that I’ve been working towards for myself. A move that takes me away from the body positive movement that has become so co-opted and overrun. Instead, I’m moving towards something that frees me from this conversation entirely. Imagine that, a world free from discussions about the worthiness of bodies; what would be possible then?
Imagine being free from discussions about restrictions, diet pills, the newest fad diet or no-diet-diet or whatever it is being framed as. As women, predominately, imagine the time we would free up to discuss more of what matters to us. We would be free to discuss more of what collectively keeps us in our place. More of what we need and want without the restrictions of a culture focused on our bodies. I think about that all the time, how often we are controlled by this narrative of being attractive, small, or this generation’s version of perfect. What could we be doing instead?
This feels like a step in the right direction for me.
So, what do you think about Pinterest banning weight loss ads? Do you think diet ads should be banned on all social media sites? Pinterest has done it. And there are restrictions when it comes to weight loss on Facebook and Instagram. Is it time to pull the rug from under the diet industry and get back to a place where we treat each person and their body’s needs individually?
Looking for ways to get your confidence back? Maybe you’ve had a rough time recently, a break-up, challenges with your mental health, or you’ve had a baby, and this is about body confidence. If you’ve read some of my recent posts, you know I’ve been struggling with my confidence lately, too. Body confidence mostly, but isn’t it interesting how it finds itself in all areas of your life. And so, I decided to share what’s been working for me to get my confidence back. Because maybe they’ll work for you too.
However you lost your confidence, these simple steps to getting your self-confidence back will put you on the right path. They’re gentle, don’t worry. And not one of them suggests you change who you are. Confidence is personal to every one of us; in your heart (guts, maybe), you know what you’re doing. There are many different ways to go about this, but rebuilding your self-confidence is an inside job.
Get your confidence back after a rough spot.
Look for reasons to smile.
Sometimes when things happen to us, they shake our confidence to the very core. We don’t know who we are or what we stand for in a world that seems suddenly uninviting. So, flip that switch. Change things up by showing the world you know that good things happen too, that you won’t be kept down forever, and that warmth trumps cold every time. This is your reminder to look for things to be grateful for. All the good things in this world, about yourself and your current situation. The things that make you smile. It may sound like a simplistic way to look at it (smile and the world smiles with you), but I’ve always found truth in that. Find your smile again; it’s the secret to a happy life.
Get physical
It’s not just about those happy hormones that go pumping through the system with a bit of exercise. Getting your body moving is about reconnecting with it in a way that makes you get your confidence back. When many of us lose our confidence (misplaced it somewhere, haha), it shows up as a disconnect. Not just from who we are and what we want, but from the very foundation of us; the body that we live in. Reconnecting take practice, and practice leads to confidence. So, if there’s not something you do now that centres you in your body, try taking something up!
A little polish and shine
Get a haircut, buy some new clothes, take a long bath or generally do something that makes you feel good about yourself on the outside. That includes things like standing up straight, smiling at strangers and generally considering yourself hot stuff. For the fun of it, not because anyone, anywhere says. Have some fun with being charismatic. You are the main character (as the Gen Z’s say) in your own life, so start showing up like that. To boost your confidence, look for ways to celebrate yourself, whatever that looks like for you. Celebrate your wins, all of those ticks on your checklist, no matter how big or small.
Spend some time with yourself
You may think being alone with yourself is the last thing I’d recommend for getting your confidence back after a rough spot. But it’s not. I find that spending time in my own company helps me focus on what I need or want, how I feel about things and who I am in general. Yes, that will all be tested in the real world one day, but it helps to know where you stand before that happens. Take the time, get to know yourself a little better. When I lose confidence in myself and my abilities, I don’t know who I am or what I want anymore. Taking this time to sit with that and ask those questions always opens a door. Even if that door is just a tiny sliver of light way off in the distance, one of you taught me that, and I’ll never forget it.
Take a look around you.
Are the people around you there to hype you up or support you in being your best self? Do your surroundings reflect the person you are? For this final step, take a look around you and see what works and what doesn’t. Maybe it’s time to say goodbye to someone who doesn’t really fit into your life anymore. We all need love and support around us, so this isn’t a suggestion to cut all ties. But look for those who support you and celebrate them. Let the rest fall away. The same goes for your surroundings at work and home. Could your desk use a tidy, or is it time to roll up your sleeves and get some cleaning done around your home? Whatever it is, make room for who you are now; it’s time to clean house.
Recently I spoke about how my mojo feels like it packed up and left. Which, when you directly relate it to this blog, means taking photos of myself mostly. It’s what connects me to you and ultimately does well in the general search/Pinterest/SEO world. But I’ve been struggling to get in front of a camera. That’s the long and the short of it.
My body has changed in the last year or two. It looks different, and I look different, and that can be hard to reconcile in photos. I look at them and don’t like what I see—discarding most of them, not feeling like I could post others. I know I’m not the only one in this boat. When I think about what the world has been through in the past two years, it boggles my mind. But we did it. We made it here.
Today I’m going to say what is troubling me out loud in the hopes that by confronting it, it will diminish. By pushing myself to get out and taking the photos anyway, it reminds me of who I am. I am more than my body or face or how I look in photos. I’m a person with plenty to offer, and the way I do that is by showing up for people on the internet. Come what may.
Once, I credited taking outfit photos for the blog every week with my strong positive body image. When you stare at pictures of yourself week after week, set after set, you get a little numb to your features, your faults and flaws. It just blurs into what is; nothing good or bad about it. I’m reminding myself of that right now when the little voice in my head does its worst.
And, if, like me, you miss out, opt out or make excuses to avoid being in front of the camera. Consider this post your reminder to stop doing that! You’re perfect just the way you are, and I don’t ever want your body or how you look to define that for you. We will do the work and show up, just as we are, and I know things will change for us.
How can I be so sure about that? I know because I’ve done it before. This blog has changed my life in many ways than I give it credit for. Have I mentioned that? When I started blogging didn’t have a single photo of myself to use as a profile photo (so I decided to blog anonymously, lol). Entire pieces of my history and life are gone, left to the vagueness of memory—an untrustworthy source at the best of times.
As I participated more, took the photos (and kept them!), the documentation of my life streamed along behind me; the people and places, the highs and lows. I want that for myself again. For there to be a record that I was here and I lived a big, exciting, joyful life. I want to be in the middle, undeniably living; I want to show up. Let that be my promise to you; that’s what I’ll do. Even when I don’t want to or don’t feel like it, imperfectly perfect, I’ll be here.
Have you ever looked at someone and thought, I wish I had that kind of confidence? Have you ever felt like everyone has confidence figured out but you? Well, team, what would you say if I said confidence looks different on everybody? And not just the body confidence side of things, but the confidence to start tat business, learn something new or stand up for yourself or others. Confidence comes in all shapes and sizes, and there is certainly no one size fits all method of having it.
I know that it can be a hard-fought battle, this whole confidence thing. But taker it from someone with some time spent in the trenches, the wins far outweigh the losses. When you find a way to step into being who you are, instead of worrying about what other people think of you, it’s life-changing. It will literally alter the way you live your life; day-to-day and in the long term.
But that’s not to say that you hit that perfect balance once and you stay there. You won’t. Some days I feel like my anxiety will crush me if I leave the house. While other days I am taken by surprise when someone seems to think that their opinion of me and my choices should matter to me. Because it doesn’t. I run my life, make all the choices (for better or worse) and live with the outcomes of that. Days like the later take a practice of being confident. Small habits and reminders day in and day out.
It takes finding what works for you!
Want to start improving your own self-confidence?
My best confidence tip would be to question everything. If you think you shouldn’t wear or do something, ask yourself why? Ask yourself who said so? Who says I can’t live my life exactly as I see fit? Do I care about their opinion? Why do I care? I find that when I continue to question when the limitations I put my myself or the negative conversations I have. Then they start to have less of an impact. I’m free or at least know where the bullshit comes from and can choose for myself. There’s power in knowing what motivates you to do things. It’s the secret to everything.
Then I think that you should fill your life with examples of people who are living life confidently; whether it be through body image and confidence books or social media. Seek out examples of what you want or where you want to be. Not to compare and find yourself lacking, but to inspire you to move forward, soak up their knowledge and keep from reinventing the wheel. Nothing has served me more in this life than curating the content I see on social media. Mute or unfollow accounts that make you feel bad (for whatever reason) or that no longer serves your goals. I know I’d love to have you follow my accounts if you’re willing? Find me at Suger Coat It everywhere, or start with Instagram here.
And stick around, because sharing my story and giving reminders to live life confidently is what this blog is about.
wearing confidence swimwear amenia top and bottom (size US20 – custom sizes available at no extra cost, gifted)
If you feel like you’re under pressure from the diet industry machine to change your body in some way in the new year, think of how body image for girls must feel. New year, new who? Diet plans and ‘get healthy’ resolutions disguising less than ideal ways to treat yourself. It’s a minefield out there even now.
While we do our best to keep conversations about holiday weight, fitness resolutions and diet talk away from them (or I hope you do), they hear it. All of it. And it impacts them and the way they see their body. The choices you make and actions that you take impact them and what they grow up to believe is normal. Reasonable. Required, even.
So, with that in mind, I decided to put together a list of books for girls that will start some conversations and, hopefully, help them figure this whole thing out. I know that I found a lot of great stuff in them for myself too. So, if you’re looking for something for yourself, check out this post I pulled together for books for adults around body image.
Some of them are aimed at body image for girls in the younger audience, while others would be better for teens.
I thought the time for this post had passed. Back when we first went into lockdown, it was a hot topic to discuss gaining weight, being ashamed of that, and generally cracking jokes at coming out of quarantine (gasp!) fat. Then it tapered off, and I thought, okay, good, I don’t have to say anything.
But hello, it’s back.
And not just because our friends in Victoria are back in lockdown or that second wave clusters are popping up all over the shop. But because it seems, the I don’t fit my clothes angst is cropping up again along with the ‘jokes’. I am to tell you one thing, friend. You didn’t fail if your pants don’t fit. You didn’t somehow do quarantine wrong or let yourself go.
It’s been a lot; a lot to handle and a lot to process. For some, especially those with a past of disordered eating, conversations about panic buying and lack of certain foods have been triggering. Unstable incomes and new work from home arrangements with partners or children have challenged us. Maybe there are cracks in your world that you hadn’t seen before the glaring light of a global pandemic was shone on them.
Let’s say; you’ve had other things to worry about.
Consider for a moment that the way your body reacted to this time in our lives was as it should. Maybe it needed those reserves or the comfort of your favourite meal, beverage or treat. Who is to say that’s wrong? Who is to say that your body isn’t better off without the restriction and boundaries of your everyday life. What if this is how it was meant to be all along?
I want to you think about that next time you are faced with a situation, conversation or thought about how things should look. Not because your health or wellness doesn’t matter, but because they do. I don’t know how long we will be living life this way. But I do know that you shouldn’t live your life waiting for the next thing to come along. Find some peace in your situation now.
What would you say if I told you that I don’t think your partner should be your reason for your positive body image? My boyfriend loves my body, he embraces my curves, but I just can’t see it, she said. They love my body, me? Not so much, they said. I see it and hear it all over the internet in Groups and mentioned in the comments. It’s worrying, to say the least. I worry about these people. Almost as much as the ones that say their partner doesn’t like their body.
But, my friend, your body image is NOT your partner’s job. It’s yours.
Not just because they could change their mind, leave or even not end up being who you thought they were. But because this sort of work should never be an outside job. You are responsible for doing the work to disassemble the conversation you are having about your body. Unfair, I know. You didn’t start this rubbish, and you certainly didn’t put it there. But the work is for you to do.
Your body image is not your partner’s job. Unfortunately, if you are looking for someone to deem you beautiful, it’s always dependant on them. If you need a parent or friend to tell you that you’re worthy of love; they may not be capable of that.
And yes, I think it is helpful, valuable even to have someone in your corner it can’t be the be-all and end-all. For me, when I’ve struggled to see myself, Kel has been great. He has been supportive, constructive and has never brought up my body without me starting the conversation. There are some tips in this article for helping your partner love their body when they don’t. But treat this love and support, when you get it, as a bonus.
A cherry on top of your body image.
Not the whole sundae.
We put so much stock into how our partner feels about our body we stop doing the work if I’m being straight with you here. We need to stop valuing ourselves by how attractive we are (or think we are) to someone and start doing the work to shift our beliefs around what a good body is. Spoiler alert, it’s actually got nothing to do with how it looks. Annette on the Facebook page has it right, we need to move past the idea of being seen as attractive, beautiful or sexy to someone else, even to ourselves. It’s time to start seeing the value in our body for being our feet on the ground in this world. A means to an end.
Are you at the start of your body positivity journey? Looking for books to help you improve your body image? You came to the right place. Seriously. This is a post I’ve meant to write for years. It’s a question that comes up time after time. Where do I start? I want to improve my body image, but where do I begin?
For me, the place to begin has always been in books. Of course, books and Google these days, but you get the point. Some of them are about the history and politics of fat activism, a place you should start if you want the roots of the modern body positivity movement. Others are more personal tellings of experience with having a body seen as different.
All of them will change your mind.
My story with body image started with blogging. For the decade that followed my entry into high school, my only goal year after year was to lose weight. Lose MORE weight. To be smaller, to fit in better, to change. Can you picture that? An entire life dedicated to something that matters very little? Maybe you can imagine it, and that’s why you’re here. Perhaps you don’t want your where you see yourself in 5 years goal to be THINNER. For me, being challenged in my thinking shifted something in me.
Even as I exercised or dieted (on this blog, I know it was a thing), I was tearing down this idea I had. A model that ignored who I am as a person and focused my attention on my body and outward appearance. But one day, the real question appeared; am I just a body or a pretty face? Is that the value I bring to this world, or am I more?
If I felt that I was more than how attractive someone else found me, why are all my efforts so focused on my outward appearance? WHY am I handing over this one life of mine to this hamster wheel? In answering that question for myself, everything changed.
Because, of course, I’m more than a body. You are too.
My value isn’t in how attractive someone finds me or how beautiful ‘they’ think I am. My worth isn’t in this body at all. And, my friend, neither is yours. So, if you came here as a way to start to change your mind about that. To improve your body image and see yourself as a whole person, you are in the right place. We begin here because maybe one day, that question will make it crystal clear for you too. And the switch will be switched. You’ll be forever changed, and bad days will be bad days. Good things, big love for yourself, will be yours.
Here it is—my list of books to read to improve your body image.
{I have used Amazon AU to link to the books listed below to easily reference them all in one place. Click the book cover, and a new window will open. However, if you can, please contact and purchase any books through your local bookshop or directly from the author. They need us to support them now more than ever.}
In the past, I’ve talked about how I improved my body image and confidence, and this dealt with ‘feedback’ on this blog. So, if you’re interested in that, head to the post. It even has a video from the Suger Coat It YouTube channel if watching is more your thing. Finally, you can run into the Confident You archives or search for the keywords that interest you in the sidebar (it will be under this post on mobile).
I know that undoing what we were conditioned to believe about ourselves takes time and work. You can’t wake up one morning and forget everything ‘they’ told you. But, that said, don’t let that get you down because the upside of that is that YOU are in control now. What you say goes. Start rebuilding your body image; start now.
I want to talk about something with you. It’s about the way that women invest so much energy into controlling our bodies. You know the story; food, dieting, exercises, surgeries and all that beauty standards b.s. Patriarchy, blah, blah, blah. At this time of year, between the summer body hype, food and drink excesses, and family expectations conversations.
It’s a lot.
I have a thought for you about how to frame ALL of that for a more positive experience. For you, because that’s what matters to me. We’ve all been there. Stuck in the cycle of endless, honestly wasteful, conversations that don’t add to our experience as a person. They go on and on never once changing anything. I mean low-carb will always be low-carb, and women will always be expected to care more about how attractive they are. But what if…
Next time you look in the mirror, find yourself in a conversation about weight or berate yourself for food choices, I want you to ask yourself one thing. Ask yourself, what could I be doing instead? Seriously. WHAT is there, in this whole world of possibility, for me to be doing now that would be a better use of my time. Go big or think small, whatever it is that breaks you out of it.
What could I be doing instead?
And not because you should always be productive or busy, but because who knows what you COULD achieve if you just stopped. Imagine it for a moment. Take all that you spend in these conversations with others or yourself and imagine. You could take up a new hobby or finally do that thing you’ve always wanted to do. Maybe you’d eat the thing and not worry about it. Perhaps, without giving a thought to what others might think, you pull on those swimmers and jump in!?
I had a memory pop up on Facebook of the first video back when I relaunched my YouTube channel. For a while there, I got really good at keeping to my weekly schedule. Thanks to that, my progression with filming and editing was fast, and I enjoyed making videos. Tricky and somewhat time-consuming (isn’t everything you’re learning?) I started to enjoy the challenge.
For a while there, I stuck to a routine of one upload a week. I got into it and celebrated some little milestones along the way. Even making a milestone video celebrating how consistency had got me there. Then I stopped. The rhythm fell apart.
When I recorded footage or whatever I was making that week, I was never happy with what I got. I started being overly critical of it and wishing, again, that I was better already. I’d look at myself on the screen and hate the way I looked. I felt stupid and completely incapable of delivering the content I wanted to.
Making videos became this horrible experience.
The pressure I put on my shoulders, the critical voice, and the frustration won. Sad to say it, but that’s exactly what happened. I couldn’t face it anymore, so I stopped. I wasn’t in a great space mentally, and the last thing I needed was another way to fail (real or imagined). Something meant to be fun, and a way to learn some new skills became just too hard. Quitting was easier. Quitting was something that the little voice could get behind.
Has that ever happened to you? Surely I’m not the only one who has been chased away from something they like by that little voice? When I look back on my life, there are a few things I can see this show up in. To throw it was back, I gave up ballet and later swimming because of that voice. Then as an adult, I’ve been afraid to dive back into my business because of ways I’ve failed in the past. It’s scary how that little voice can take just a grain of truth and twist it until it seems insurmountable.
But one thing you can say about me is that I’m determined. Recently, I tried again with a studio vlog, quickly realising that what I do is hard to relate to in a vlog. But the urge to try again was there, maybe because I feel like I’m in a better position with my mental health. Maybe because I watch more YouTube than TV these days, but whatever it is, the fire has been relit.
I’m not making any promises.
I have no idea what type of videos I even want to make. It’s fun, actually. Kel and I bought a drone (more on that another time) so that could feature. Maybe I’ll do a Lookbook or some personal style thing. Maybe I’ll do more tutorials or how-to videos. The world is my oyster. I am sure that I won’t let being critical of myself get in the way anymore.
Wish me luck! And if you’re interested in following along, keeping me accountable or something like that, I’ll put some of my videos and a link to YouTube below.
First, my knee started acting like a jerk. Then I got the chest infection to top all chest infections. Then while I was sick I picked up a rash that proceeded to cover my entire body in leopard-like spots. I’ve never really been that into animal print, I’m not keen on wearing it on my skin forever. But that wasn’t all, then I coughed so hard I put my back out. I ended up crying bent over at a 45-degree angle to the floor like a wounded animal of some description. It’s been a long month, to say the least.
I’m falling apart over here, people!
It’s frustrating as hell. I miss my body when it was well. Not thinking about it and feeling capable of doing whatever I needed to do. I miss a time when the only thing ‘wrong’ with it was that other people felt weird about its fatness. This isn’t what I want for myself. I want my body back to the way it USED to feel because not having it is making life a struggle. And I say that, with all the privilege that comes with a body that has always been healthy and under my control. Which is remarkably arrogant of me, I know. Yet, here we are.
I’ve never had the kind of body people longed for. Healthy and strong as it was, that’s a bit of a wonder to me. But still, super tall, super broad and practically always fat, there wasn’t much in the way of inspo, apparently. More fool them. Though I’m sure some people wished they had my boobs.
My body is normally the picture of health and determination.
Maybe not the picture you would see in a magazine or on tv, but a picture none-the-less. It is capable and has always toed the line no matter what I have asked of it. In fact, it has only seen fit to refuse me on one specific, baby-related occasion. And in the end, that all worked out for the best. So, why then, was it so hard for me to show it appreciation before now?
Why did I not see all that it has done and will do for me until it was a spotted, sore, painful mess? Why are we as women so determined to withhold appreciate or praise for our bodies until they meet a very specific set of demands?
I mean, it’s bullshit.
Scrolling through Instagram I saw a post where I woman was describing her shock at how comfortable she was in her post-baby body. It was heavier than normal and understandably different from what it had been before. But she was good, she said, impressed by what her body had DONE, not by how it looked for once. And it hit me.
That, right there, is the problem that women face when it comes to our bodies. We are taught to value how they look over how they function. In fact, we are taught to value you them so highly as a part of who we are, that it becomes impossible to see them as the vehicle they are.
I see it everywhere! (and now I’m sure you will too).
It is in the books I read by authors who refer to fatness vaguely and always in the negative. It’s there in the stories we tell each other about what is happening for us in our lives. Measured somehow by a number on the scale or in the back of our jeans.
It’s even there in the women and men of the body positive movement when they determine a cut-off, a point of no return, for what represents an acceptable body or not. Or in who gets to be heard on the topic. How is it that we are being represented by the “same” people over and over when what we really need is for them to step aside so someone else can be heard.
Think about it for a moment.
My body is having a tough time right now, and I’ll support it in whatever ways I can to get it back to the place of reliability and health. But it’s no less effective at keeping me alive than it was before. It’s no less worthy of attention or care than it was before. In a lot of ways, now is the time to commit more of my focus to it.
Not to make it conform to some ideal or to punish it for not performing for me the way I wanted it to. But because I owe it for my time here, for this opportunity to be alive. Now is my chance to be grateful and show it some love. To be loving and kind when right now I feel perfectly justified in beating it up and shaming it into line.
Now is the time to practice what I preach. It’s now or never.
This could be a VERY short post. A super short one, but well, you know me. Short version? I refuse to be AFRAID to wear a bikini; being afraid is for spiders or clowns or being murdered in your sleep, not someone seeing your stomach.
It’s clothing, folks; it’s nothing to be afraid of. And if you’re anything like me, then a bikini might work out better for you. Firstly, interchangeable sizes and no length issues. After that, it’s the same as the tankini (which I’ll talk about later this week) but with a little less material and a little extra oomph.
Since Gabi from Gabifresh launched her first “fatkini” in the market 3 (ish?) years ago plus size women everywhere have been embracing their bellies. For years, women who hadn’t worn swimsuits were parading in front of their mirrors, by the pool and on the beach in their bikinis. And that vibe, it spread.
No longer the domain of the ab exceptional amongst us, the bikini is cool. Everyone is doing it. Whether your style is sporty and functional or stringy and sexy, there’s a bikini in the marketplace somewhere FOR YOU. It’s fun. Because that’s the point, it’ll soon be summer, and I want to see you happy wearing whatever the heck makes you happy.
Maybe a bikini won’t be your thing. But if it is, and you’ve been afraid to wear it, then I one hundred per cent am behind you doing what you want. Wearing what you want. I always will be. A great way to ditch the fear of wearing a bikini is to build up to wearing it in public. Practice at home by wearing it around your house. Get used to the wind on your belly, then build up to beach days with family and friends.
But let me assure you of one thing, you have every right to wear that bikini. Every right! There are zero reasons to be afraid to wear a bikini. And bonus, as far as I know, I googled it, so I’m pretty sure a bikini hasn’t killed anyone yet. Oh man, I hope you’re not the first. Haha.
