I want to talk about something with you. It’s about the way that women invest so much energy into controlling our bodies. You know the story; food, dieting, exercises, surgeries and all that beauty standards b.s. Patriarchy, blah, blah, blah. At this time of year, between the summer body hype, food and drink excesses, and family expectations conversations.

It’s a lot.

I have a thought for you about how to frame ALL of that for a more positive experience. For you, because that’s what matters to me. We’ve all been there. Stuck in the cycle of endless, honestly wasteful, conversations that don’t add to our experience as a person. They go on and on never once changing anything. I mean low-carb will always be low-carb, and women will always be expected to care more about how attractive they are. But what if…

Next time you look in the mirror, find yourself in a conversation about weight or berate yourself for food choices, I want you to ask yourself one thing. Ask yourself, what could I be doing instead? Seriously. WHAT is there, in this whole world of possibility, for me to be doing now that would be a better use of my time. Go big or think small, whatever it is that breaks you out of it.

What could I be doing instead?

And not because you should always be productive or busy, but because who knows what you COULD achieve if you just stopped. Imagine it for a moment. Take all that you spend in these conversations with others or yourself and imagine. You could take up a new hobby or finally do that thing you’ve always wanted to do. Maybe you’d eat the thing and not worry about it. Perhaps, without giving a thought to what others might think, you pull on those swimmers and jump in!?

plus size woman on a pink flamingo pool float celebrates happily

Photos by AllGo – An App For Plus Size People on Unsplash


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