What happened when I Embraced

What happened when I Embraced

As a plus size blogger, I consider myself to be body positive. I have to be. For my entire life, people have told me my body is wrong and that it should be different. Someone had to love my body; it might as well be me. So when I attended the local showing of Embrace, I expected to like it, and the short version is, I did. From the opening scenes with Taryn, the film’s narrator, director, creator, and central character, I knew we were in for something honest. Being body positive, loving your body, in the world today is something of a rarity. I knew that my fellow film-goers were about to have our ideas on body image challenged.…

No Chill: A how-to guide

No Chill: A how-to guide

I used to think I was pretty cool. Describe yourself they would say and I would refer to that one time I was called aloof and intimidating. Let’s not even talk about the guy that called me belligerent, which is my favourite thing ever. But I was wrong. I am not now and never have been cool; ask my siblings. It turns out I am an overly excitable mess of feelings and emotions. I have no chill. And what does that means? Well, if I like you, you’ll know. And boy-oh-boy, if I love you expect to hear all about it every time we talk because I’m all about expressing myself. So down with no chill! This is my no chill guide. Why?  I like being…

Panel One: Melbourne Fashion Week PLUS

Panel One: Melbourne Fashion Week PLUS

Hosted by Jessica, Director of MFWPlus, the panel was a great night to kick off things for us. Having missed the soft launch on Sunday evening, we were excited to get to the first of the event scheduled for the week. And if this is an indicator of things to come, then I’m excited. The panel included: Meagan Kerr – renowned New Zealand fashion and style blogger and body positive public speaker Kath Read – fat activist and advocate, prolific and passionate feminist writer, media darling Sarah Harry – Body Image and Disordered Eating specialist, clinician, lecturer, researcher, fat yogi and writer The panel promised to be, and I quote, a passionate discussion on the topic of fashion, lived experiences…

I don’t want to…

I don’t want to…

I don’t want to laugh at a joke when it’s not funny to placate you. It doesn’t matter to me that you find that offensive. I’m okay with a little offence, are you? Can you be with that just a little while? It concerns me that you, and not just you I’m generalising, find it so hard to sit with an offence that people die. That seems extreme right? But let me tell you, I’m not joking. I don’t want to assess every photo I post wondering if it will bring me unwanted attention and advances. That’s my job, right? To protect me from you in the best way I can. I don’t want to. But you say I have…

Body Shame; We taught her that.

Body Shame; We taught her that.

My story about body shame, confidence and finding my way out is too familiar to need repeating. I was a young woman who wanted a body that was different to the one I had. So I starved and strived and exercised and counted and struggled. My body never did change that much. Why did I do that? How did I even know that there was something ‘wrong’ with my body? Because they told me so. They said that thin was in, and waif was the ideal. I am a child of the 90’s after all. When my body had weight and muscle to it, it was nothing like they said it should be. And I was too tall, in case…

Confident You returns for 2016!

Confident You returns for 2016!

It was the first of November 2012 when the original Confident You challenge launched. I’d settled into blogging and I was receiving emails from people who read the blog. They wanted to know about my confidence. Where it came from, how I maintain it and what it took to create living it every day. So I created the challenge. 28 days because it was long enough to form a habit. Long enough to make changes in your life and see genuine results. And people did. My inbox overflowed, the photos came in (and really, Instagram was still pretty new) and we took steps every day to make the change. It wasn’t about you walking out of the challenge with my…

Living your greatness, errr how?

Living your greatness, errr how?

Living your greatness? I know what you’re thinking, how do you even do that? How in a world filled with jobs and mortgages and other more major concerns do you find a way to be who you are and live that? I’m asking. Really. I have some ideas on the subject, obviously. This post will be pretty lame otherwise. But what do you think about it? DO you think about it? Where does your greatness lie? One of my favourite quotes is the one in the image above. Don’t wait for the world to recognise your greatness. Live it, and let the world catch up to you. It implies that you won’t always be met with cheers or acceptance of…

Have you ever asked who ARE you?

Have you ever asked who ARE you?

Aside from your name, what you do, your marital and family status, who are you? As far as figuring things out in life I feel like this is THE thing that matters most. It’s not what you do or anything of things numerous industries are set up to make us buy from them tell us it is. It’s knowing who you are that matters. Finding yourself and your place in life. I participated in a course once, one that if you asked me I’d tell you a million times to do it. The course was aimed at finding your why in life through knowing who you are at the very bottom of things. Knowing what drives you, the ideas and…

Being a happy person

Being a happy person

I sat down earlier this week to write the Suger News and, as I do, had a think about what I’d been up against this week. What were my challenges and what was I dealing with so could share that experience, and hopefully the win, with you guys. Another grueling, gripping tale of struggle with myself and triumph. But, I sort of didn’t want to. Instead I decided to write about being a happy person. How I do it, the things that I repeatedly do and all that jazz. Because I believe that being happy is a practice. A way of living that just takes a little practice. Excluding medical and mental health conditions people, don’t go beating yourself up if you’re unwell,…