Confident You: Body Confidence Challenge

Confident You: Body Confidence Challenge

Ladies, brace yourself. Confident You is back for the second time in 2016 with a TWO WEEK body confidence challenge. Starting 1st December this short and sweet challenge will see you question, and in a lot of cases break through, the ideas you have about your body, how it should look and who has a say in what you do with it. It’s about confidence and being at home in the body you have NOW. The one that has loved and supported you through all the challenges life has thrown at you. The one that, to date, has never quit on you. It’s about saying to yourself once and for all, I AM GOOD ENOUGH. Because you are!  PLUS, we…

I felt like no one wanted to kiss me…

I felt like no one wanted to kiss me…

Oh, Kylie. I read those words, and I felt sorry for the child you were. That girl, she was all of us. Did anyone ever tell you that? That girl worried about if boys will like her, was all* of us. We all wanted to be liked, valued and unfortunately, in this world for women, your attractiveness is the thing that matters. It breaks my heart. For every girl who has been there and every girl going there. I just want to scoop them up into a hug and make that longing to be wanted go away. And if Kylie was my sister, my niece, my friend, that is exactly what I would do. Not only that, but I would…

Why I refuse to be afraid to wear a bikini

Why I refuse to be afraid to wear a bikini

This could be a VERY short post. A super short one, but well, you know me I’ll make it long just because. But the short reason I refuse to be AFRAID to wear a bikini is because, afraid is for spiders or clowns or being murdered in your sleep, not someone seeing your stomach. Right? It’s clothing folks, it’s nothing to be afraid of. And if you’re anything like me then a bikini might just work out better for you. Firstly, interchangeable sizes and no length issues. It’s the same as the tankini (which I’ll talk about later this week) but with a little less material and a little extra oomph. Since Gabi from Gabifresh launched her first “fatkini” in…

Weight Loss, Dieting and being Body Positive

Weight Loss, Dieting and being Body Positive

The week I got home from Melbourne I felt like rubbish. Months, literally, of late nights, partying, eating poorly and little to no exercise had caught up with me and I was wrecked. It took me a while to acknowledge that I wasn’t taking care of myself. I wasn’t doing what I know to do to keep myself running at my best. So, I started an exercise and eating plan. Some people, they would call it a diet. GASP. Especially from those who just weeks before listened to the SUGER+INK episode where I proudly declared myself a diet industry drop out. Not for me, I adamantly said. And I stand by that. But how, right? How can mere semantics declare…

What happened when I Embraced

What happened when I Embraced

As a plus size blogger, I consider myself to be body positive. I have to be. For my entire life, people have told me my body is wrong and that it should be different. Someone had to love my body; it might as well be me. So when I attended the local showing of Embrace, I expected to like it, and the short version is, I did. From the opening scenes with Taryn, the film’s narrator, director, creator, and central character, I knew we were in for something honest. Being body positive, loving your body, in the world today is something of a rarity. I knew that my fellow film-goers were about to have our ideas on body image challenged.…

No Chill: A how-to guide

No Chill: A how-to guide

I used to think I was pretty cool. Describe yourself they would say and I would refer to that one time I was called aloof and intimidating. Let’s not even talk about the guy that called me belligerent, which is my favourite thing ever. But I was wrong. I am not now and never have been cool; ask my siblings. It turns out I am an overly excitable mess of feelings and emotions. I have no chill. And what does that means? Well, if I like you, you’ll know. And boy-oh-boy, if I love you expect to hear all about it every time we talk because I’m all about expressing myself. So down with no chill! This is my no chill guide. Why?  I like being…

Panel One: Melbourne Fashion Week PLUS

Panel One: Melbourne Fashion Week PLUS

Hosted by Jessica, Director of MFWPlus, the panel was a great night to kick off things for us. Having missed the soft launch on Sunday evening, we were excited to get to the first of the event scheduled for the week. And if this is an indicator of things to come, then I’m excited. The panel included: Meagan Kerr – renowned New Zealand fashion and style blogger and body positive public speaker Kath Read – fat activist and advocate, prolific and passionate feminist writer, media darling Sarah Harry – Body Image and Disordered Eating specialist, clinician, lecturer, researcher, fat yogi and writer The panel promised to be, and I quote, a passionate discussion on the topic of fashion, lived experiences…

I don’t want to…

I don’t want to…

I don’t want to laugh at a joke when it’s not funny to placate you. It doesn’t matter to me that you find that offensive. I’m okay with a little offence, are you? Can you be with that just a little while? It concerns me that you, and not just you I’m generalising, find it so hard to sit with an offence that people die. That seems extreme right? But let me tell you, I’m not joking. I don’t want to assess every photo I post wondering if it will bring me unwanted attention and advances. That’s my job, right? To protect me from you in the best way I can. I don’t want to. But you say I have…

Body Shame; We taught her that.

Body Shame; We taught her that.

My story about body shame, confidence and finding my way out is too familiar to need repeating. I was a young woman who wanted a body that was different to the one I had. So I starved and strived and exercised and counted and struggled. My body never did change that much. Why did I do that? How did I even know that there was something ‘wrong’ with my body? Because they told me so. They said that thin was in, and waif was the ideal. I am a child of the 90’s after all. When my body had weight and muscle to it, it was nothing like they said it should be. And I was too tall, in case…