Ummm, prosecco fans, get yourself ready for your summer beverage of choice. You’re going to love this prosecco cocktail with blackberries and mint. The best news is it is easily adapted for one or for a crowd. And speaking of a crowd, it makes so well ahead of time you won’t even be mad at it. Entertainer win.
How to make Suger’s Prosecco Blackberry Punch
YOU’LL NEED
6Ft6 Prosecco
Lemonade
Vodka
Blackberries
Mint
DO THIS
Combine the vodka, blackberries and mint in a jug. I left my mint whole, but tearing or chopping into smaller pieces would work too, as would muddling it in the bottom of the glass or jug. Use one shot of vodka per serve. Add the prosecco and lemonade at approximately a half/half ratio. I prefer mine more prosecco, less lemonade, but you do you. Serve chilled. Frozen berries assist with this on a hot day! So if serving frozen, add berries when all ingredients are combined.
So, you’ve got a giveaway too, huh?
I’ve been on the lookout for a blog wine sponsor for a number of years. My search has proven to be fruitless but it won’t even stop me trying. That’s when I’ll know I’ve made it. For sure. Alas, this is not that moment, BUT the kind people of 6Ft6 wines have provided some goodness to giveaway!
Competition closes Friday 20th October 2017, with the winner being announced shortly after that. You must be 18 years or older and an Australian resident to win. This is a game of skill, Mr Suger and I will be choosing our favourite answer with a little help from the 6Ft6 team.
The prize pack includes THREE bottles of 6Ft6 Prosecco, a set of four 6Ft6 wine glass tags and their new limited edition tea towel valued at $99. Woooo.
To win the prize pack you must be following @sugercoatit and @6Ft6wines on Instagram and tell me in the comments below what YOU would do with your prize pack? Do you have a special occasion coming up or friends coming over? Get creative and the best entry wins. Competition closes Friday 20th October 2017, with the winner being announced shortly after that. You must be 18 years or older and an Australian resident to win. This is a game of skill, Mr Suger and I will be choosing our favourite answer.
EDIT: If you’re having problems with Disqus (my comment system) you can now enter on Instagram!
Office tour, here we go! I took an Instagram poll {which is a remarkably awkward thing to do} and it came back that 88% of those who voted wanted to see it. I’m not going to spend my days wondering WHY some people voted no. Really. I’m not. *sobs*
But the yes vote has it {please let that be a sign for all things marriage equality} so today, let’s take a look inside my office. As I mentioned in the Instagram story, there really isn’t much to see, so I shared some of the books I’m reading. Let’s get started.
Want to see more from my house? Check out the Suger’s Place tag for everything I’ve shared on the blog so far.
Where should we take a look next? I was thinking our bedroom, but it needs a lot of work. We didn’t want to do too much up there as we are hoping to put in an ensuite ONE DAY, but well, that could be a little while away yet. But I’m happy to show you where it’s at now if you’d be into it. Otherwise, I was thinking I’d make Mr Suger clean up the yard and show you around the outside? Let me know. Don’t make me do another Insta poll. Clearly, they annoy some people. {wink wink}
Now, are you ready for THIS jelly? We have gone to the top. The Curvy Fashionista is a resource for plus size women on the internet and it all started with a blog. This blog turned brand and one of THE places to turn on the interwebs for all things plus size news, reviews and more. Join me as we take a look at the website and social media for clues on its massive success.
And as always, there will be takeaways to apply to your own blog.
The video this week has a bit of a revised format to the previous videos featuring Nicolette Mason and Kellie Brown. I wanted to talk to the camera more and add a bit more action. Expect to dive further into pages of the website, social media and other content. I think it works. Let me know what you think in the comments.
And now, how to blog like The Curvy Fashionista.
The major takeaways here can be summed up with these three points (I condensed it from the video summary). As I do. Haha. Some of the points have been made on the previous episodes. These are the ones that are specific to Marie Denee of The Curvy Fashionista. Ready? Let’s go.
One. Pivot!
When things aren’t working with a platform where you’ve already built a community, don’t be afraid to pivot. Facebook is a giant pain in the butt, I know. But it’s not over, not by a long shot. When things need to change, look for ways to engage, utilise things like Facebook Live and Ads to maximise the community you’ve already built.
Two. Get some help.
You can’t do all this work yourself and by bringing on guest bloggers or recruiting writers, you can build on the content you can produce yourself. When blogs are crossed over to brands, they always look to add more voices. More voices mean more content, and more content means more opportunities for your readers to visit the site or participate in social media.
Three. Keep it real as you go.
It can be hard as your blog grows to continue being candid or personal. There’s so much more opportunity for criticism and for people to weigh in on your life. But there are advantages too. The community support and interaction mean so much. But it is hard to live your life somewhat publicly, and Marie is a great example on how to juggle both.
There you go, team!
Another ‘How to Blog Like…’ in the bag. I enjoyed taking a look at a little less personal blog. I hope you enjoyed this look around. I’m such a fan, keep that in mind, this is in no way meant to be a critic. Let me know, what did you take out of this? For me, I learned a lot about staying open with my blog, from Marie, and how to incorporate different content into my YouTube channel. I can’t wait to roll it out.
When it comes to blogging there is only ever three questions I get asked. The one that this post centres around is how do you make money on your blog? Especially since at various stages throughout my career it’s been my full-time job. I don’t blame anyone for asking that. I love to talk about money and business, so let’s do that.
In this video, I take you piece by piece through anything that I’ve used now, or in the past to generate money. Even if it wasn’t much! I did this to not only answer that question but so that you can start to create a business plan for your blog. As far as I’m concerned, the more transparent I can be, the shorter the learning curve will be for you.
How to make money on your blog!
Let’s break that video down a little, shall we?
My income streams include the following;
Paid Content
There are two main ways I generate income with paid content; on my blog and off of my blog. There are the opportunities to do editorial style content in the form of blog posts, photographs or crafting shares for other social media platforms. Then there are the times when brands are looking for me to create content for their blog or social media. Whatever the end location of the post, I always stand for being compensated for my time.
Ad Revenue
Ad revenue is one of those things that used to make up a larger portion of my income but has basically been replaced. From using Ad Networks such as AdSense to delivering my own banner ads using third parties or Paypal. Ad revenue isn’t something to be sneezed at, but no longer makes up a part of my income strategy. I’m just not that into it.
Affiliate
For me, this is the fastest-growing income stream on my blog. Long neglected I have been working with Skimlinks (so easy!) to increase my revenue by over 500% (from not much to more than a little, haha). For a fashion and lifestyle blog, there isn’t a more effective, but less intrusive, way to generate income from the activities you were doing anyway. By taking a percentage of sales referred from your blog, everyone wins.
eBooks and Courses
Creating my own eBooks {and courses, one day} is one of those long-term strategies for the blog. Over the years I’ve built up a bit of a library of books and workbooks that I’m proud of. As I move forward I hope to continue to add to that range and increase the offering. If you’ve never checked them out, pop over and take a look. Let’s just say, I didn’t really pick one subject and stick to it. Haha.
Something I forgot to mention in the video was that you can also be an affiliate for other bloggers eBooks and courses. If you’re interested in a certain subject or already do a lot of talking about a product, you should reach out and ask for an affiliate program or link. I did this early on with Sarah Wilson ‘I Quit Sugar’ books and they were excellent because I was already talking about it.
Workshops and Consulting
Last, but not least, absolutely not least, is the work I do behind the scenes. As a builder of websites, social media consultant and workshop-type person. Which, is a pretty long description but it’s got a lot of stuff to cover. I love doing workshops and consulting because blogging and social media is something I could talk about for days. There’s really no better way that I know of to make a living than doing something you love. I’m a lucky girl indeed.
And that, my friend, is how I make money on my blog. I’ve covered off on everything that I’ve given a shot over the years and tried to detail why I still use them or not. I hope you find it helpful, or at least interesting. Let me know if you have any questions {I tried to cover off on the ones you asked on Facebook or Instagram within the video}.
How to get people to read your blog? Interesting question. Certainly not one I’m a total expert in. There are still times when I ask myself how the heck I encourage more people to read MY blog. Who doesn’t right? Bloggers dream of a large engaged community of people who appreciate the work they’re doing. Fair call, right? There’s a lot of time and effort that goes into producing the content for a blog, it makes sense to want people to care about what you’re doing.
So, what do you do if you’re new or there’s no one reading?
Good news, I have some ideas. And a video {as is becoming my usual}. But outlined below are my top strategies and habits to encourage more people to read your blog AND get them to keep coming back to it. Breaking it down this way reminded me of the bad habits I’ve picked up over the past eight years of blogging. The things I know I should be doing and don’t. And the things I do that I shouldn’t be.
If you’re not into blogging, sorry about this, maybe try this post with a video tour of my house instead? Way more fun. But if you’re into blogging, then, I’m ready when you are, let’s get started. If you’re not watching the video, I’ve also briefly outlined the points below for you to refer to later.
Watch the video: how to get more people to read your blog
Be part of the community
Get out there and participate in the blogging community. Especially on those blogs that share similar readers as yours. It doesn’t have to be another plus size fashion blog. It could be homewares or lifestyle blog. Whatever it is, jump in, participate and become part of the conversation. Just do what you can to avoid the whole, “PLEASE VISIT ME” thing. If your comments and interactions are valuable, people will check you out. If you beg them too, not so much.
Create a Blog Schedule
If you have a plan for how many posts you will do every week, your readers will know when to come back for new posts. Set a schedule. Advertise it on your social media, in your header or sidebar if you want. Whatever it takes, choose those post days and commit. This tip will benefit you, as much as it will your audience. You’ll have something to work towards and a bit of a plan to get you there.
Blog Like YOU
There is SO much content out there in the world. You can Google pretty much anything and find hundreds, if not thousands of articles on that topic. So why should people come to you? The answer is simple; it’s you. YOU are what is going to be unique about your blog, so start practising sharing who you are and your personality with your readers. Show them who you are.
Be Consistent.
When you start blogging {you’ve set that schedule, right?} you should aim to be so consistent it’s boring. Your audience should know when you’ll be posting next and what they should be expecting from you. If you want people to read your blog, then make sure when they try to, there is something there to meet that need. Think of your favourite bloggers (or Instagram-ers, whatever) do they post regularly? Can you count on them?
Create a series
If you want to create a reason for people to read your blog {and continue to come back to keep reading} then think about creating a series. Similar to my Confident You or Fashion Anarchy post series (which later became workbooks). By creating something that people can sign up for or come back for, you encourage people to do just that. What’s something YOU know or would like to share with people?
Let me know if you have any questions or if you have any tips to share with anyone reading this post. Maybe you’re a pro-blogger and you have some info to share, well, you’re welcome to do so. Thanks for checking out the post, keep an eye out this week for an outfit post. Mr Suger has promised me some of his time this week, the wait is over!
Before you go, I’ve put together some AMAZING blog posts from around the interwebs on my ‘Blogging Tips’ Pinterest board. Pin one, pin them all, whatever you have decided to do. There are so many tips for taking the tips I’ve given and put them into practice on your blog through scheduling, planning, and knowing what works on which social media platform.
We’ve been in our home for over two years now. It’s about time to show you guys around. A few of you have asked for this. Anytime I share a video to my story taken inside the house, you’re like, show us more! Well, you asked and I’m obliging. I started recording video, from every angle imaginable and soon I had way more footage than I needed. Not to mention so truly rubbish footage. Haha. But I’ve cut together a video that gives you the gist of what it’s all about.
Take a look at our living areas including the ridiculously good looking hallway. Which, probably shouldn’t be a thing, but it is. Don’t you just love a house with charm and character? When I first walked into this house I knew I could be very happy there. I’d been looking for something unique. Something with style. After years in spec houses, I wanted something with heart. When I found this house, I knew straight away it could be the one.
But, for some people, it looked like too much work.
I heard them talking it over on their way out of the inspection. It’ll cost thousands, they said. It’s so worn out. But, old real estate brat me, well, I knew better. Even if the painting would cost an arm and a leg. After taking Kel through the house, finalising a reasonable time frame for settlement, we were the proud owners of a piece of our town’s history.
Our project began before we moved in. We started with a few minor renovations in the form of a cut through from the kitchen and ripping out the carpets. Then we applied some paint (loads of paint and about 6 weeks) to cover the faded green and salmon walls. As this progressed we ditched the old curtains and blinds; never replacing them. This house was made to let light in. We wanted to let it in.
Soon this 1970’s beauty looked as good as new.
Take a look for yourself.
Want to see more about this house, the renovations and things like that? You’re in luck. Here’s one {some} I prepared earlier. There are even a couple in there from our old house. I miss that place sometimes, but I’ve got to say, this new place feels like home. And didn’t I say that we have a pretty cool looking hallway? I wasn’t lying, right?
There you go team, I hope you enjoyed this look into our house, I can’t wait to share more. In the future, I want to do a walk through how I have my office set up right now, so that’s on the list. Plus, I have some work coming up with Sheridan, so I’ll have to take you into our bedroom. Watch this space. More to come!
I’ve been blogging for almost a decade. Yup, that long. But have you ever wondered how I started blogging? If you have, today is your lucky day. I made a video talking about how I started my blog and some of the things I’ve done along the way. It was fun to take a walk down memory lane {with a few sidetracks, of course} and share this with you guys.
The sound even worked properly. Yes!
And not just that, I talked about how I made a move from Blogger to WordPress, how I named my blog {that E, though} and the blogging community within Australia. I went into some of the steps I took to grow the community around my blog and why that matters. Plus there are classic stories such as the time Blogger pulled my blog down and how I started outfit blogging. It’s jam-packed.
Last night I asked the Facebook community if they had any questions or queries about how I started blogging or why, so I could answer it within this post as a bit of a value add. It was after 9 pm when I put the post up though, so well, it didn’t go well. Who knew you lot went to bed so early. Weird. Are you sure you’re following the right girl?
Here are your questions about how I started blogging.
Taryn asks: What was it that first inspired you to create the blog?
Suger answers: It’s one of those random moments actually. I came across the Blogger icon while looking around Google apps one night. I’ve always loved to write and take photos, so I just started doing that on the internet. Then once I was here, I found plus-size bloggers and they encouraged me to start sharing my outfits. The rest, as they say, is history. Haha. The video pads that out a little. But that was the inspiration; a love of creating stuff.
Carmel asks: What was uh ha moment that led you to hit publish?
Suger answers: I think the only thing that had me hit publish on that first post was that I was anonymous. I’d never planned to share my identity. Haha. Later, when I started sharing outfits, it was encouragement from the community and friends I’d made online
Julie asks: Your writing style is so honest and brave – you put it all out there! Do you ever feel too exposed in front of your audience? (Asking for an introverted friend 🙂 )
Suger answers: I think the only time I’ve felt exposed was when people in town started to recognise me. It felt very real then, like anyone I pass on the street who might’ve read it. But I’m okay with what I share and I’ve learned to be okay with knowing other people read it.
That’s a wrap. I hope you enjoyed the casual format/chat type video and insight into how I started blogging. Getting started can be the hard; where to blog and how to get started. I hope you can see from that video that you have to dive in and figure it out as you go. No one has all the answers; if expressing yourself matters, you’ll figure it out.
How-to wear plus size denim joggers, as told by me. The owner of this blog and general wearer of such things. Jogger pants are the best of both world for me, half jeans and half slouchy tracksuit pant, so when they came to plus size clothing stores, I was IN. So in. Let’s take a look at how I wear them. And can I just tell you, this little project has now been a week in the making so other than being OVER IT, I’m proud to present, my first ever how-to wear that video.
Find your fit. For me, in a jogger pant, I want comfort as much as I want a great fit. The ones I’m wearing are a little snug at the waist (that’s not on the pants, that’s all me) but the fit on the legs is close where you want it close. I have a tendency to size too far up, especially after I wear them in, and lose the shape around the legs. So, keep looking team, find your fit.
Show some ankle. A denim jogger pant outfit needs a bit of ankle. That bit of skin helps to bring the whole look together so don’t be afraid to roll or cuff to get it. I love how the lace up shoe works with this look because it gives that skin down the ankle. It feels like it helps to elongate the leg when joggers can be a little bit responsible for shortening it.
Dressing them up rocks. I love wearing my joggers for casual, slouch around type outings. It’s the best. Easy to look put together and comfy. But don’t underestimate the jogger pants for a really put together evening look. I know we’re talking about denim here, but I have a pair of pleather joggers that I LOVE for evenings when it’s a little cooler. So hot.
Don’t be afraid of the crotch/belly combo. A lot of plus size women I know fear the pant for the crotch or belly displayed. I get it, people have been telling us for decades to hide our stomach and look thinner. But here’s the thing, you can keep worrying about that forever and not wear what YOU like, or you can just go for it. And I think you’ll find that the shape of the plus size denim jogger gives you more room around the stomach than your average jean.
Looking for Joggers? Try here.
My favourites (of course) – 17 Sundays. They have so many in their current range there is something for everyone. Try the cross front ones in the dark grey, life changer, I promise. The white ones I’m wearing are the War Paint cut in white. They’re a little more generous than the Finks if you’re comparing the two and a very similar fit to the knit joggers but with less stretch. I have them all, pretty much, so if you have a question about sizing or fit, let me know.
Keep an eye out on the blog next week and I’ll be sharing some more images from the shoot. Photos, so many photos! But until then, feel free to ask about the different items and where they came from. I’m happy to answer in the comments or refer you to existing posts featuring them. And if you enjoyed this video, I’m open to suggestions about what the next one should be.
Kellie Brown of And I Get Dressed is easily one of THE most stylish bloggers in the universe. My universe anyway. And the plus-size fashion universe, definitely. So, don’t miss this episode as we check out Kellie’s blog, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and YouTube for some blogging tips and tricks.
And, there is a lot of fangirling. I’m sorry about that.
I did the best to restrain myself, but I was totally out of control. Kellie is one of my favourite bloggers with content that makes me green with envy. She has this amazing style and has been featured on my all time favourite blog, Manrepeller. That’s when you know you’ve arrived. Le sigh, so cool.
For me, Kellie is a blogger to aspire to because she transcends that ‘box’ plus size bloggers are sometimes placed in. Kellie has worked with many international brands, her style transcends size (which let’s face it, doesn’t happen a lot) and she works it. It’s a business and the professionalism shows in her beautiful images and ‘on-point’ graphic design and branding.
Lots to see here, team!
There are a few issues with sound in this episode. Ugh. But, if you’ve heard the early episodes of my podcast, it was the usual echo of my giant office. If it REALLY bugs you, sorry about that. AND, I’ve picked up a new mic from my camera so it shouldn’t be a problem moving forward. I feel like this whole make a video a week thing has been such a HUGE learning curve. Thanks for hanging in there with me while I learn.
And I Get Dressed was on my list from the start so I was excited to share it so soon after the start. I hope you guys are enjoying this new series. It’s been fun to be able to check out what other plus size bloggers are doing on their blog and social media. I’m obsessed with finding more bloggers to share, so make sure you let me know your favourite.
Welcome back, team. This mid-week bonus video is My Instagram Workflow + Q&A. It’s all about how I edit my Instagram photos, the apps I use to get to Instagram and some of my thoughts on curating a feed. Plus, while this action is happening I’ve answered some of your questions about Instagram. Thanks for joining in the conversation on Instagram and Facebook, much appreciated.
My Instagram Theme, currently. Haha. Loving it.
As a plus size fashion and lifestyle blogger, Instagram is one of those essentials platforms for defining and securing your brand. The best of the best are competing for views on Instagram, and if you want your piece, you need to consider how your feed LOOKS. For me, the Instagram workflow is what sets me up to succeed.
I always say it, and I hate to do so, but on Instagram, it is what is on the outside that counts. It’s a visual platform with a disproportionate emphasis on things being beautiful, interesting or plain old cool. When it comes to plus size fashion and lifestyle blogging, there are ways to grow your platform faster than others. Ways, that doesn’t necessarily fit into the type of stylised theme that I operate. I’ve listed a few of them below.
Tips for growing a plus size fashion and lifestyle Instagram.
Update your outfit photo daily, if it won’t fit in the grid, put it in your story
Post selfies or photos with friends regularly
Update your feed up to 3 times per day
Link you blog posts in Insta Stories to increase engagement scores
Keep your colours consistent even if you can’t have a specific theme
I hope you enjoy the video. If you’re on YouTube I’d love for you to Subscribe to my channel and like this video. I’m new there and that would really help. But mostly, I can’t wait to check out your Instagram accounts. Leave them in the comment and find me on Insta, let’s hang out!
I guess you’re here because you want to blog like Nicolette Mason, right? I hear you. That’s why I’m kicking off my new YouTube series, ‘how to blog like…’ the top five things you can do to blog like Nicolette Mason. She’s pretty darn fabulous!
We are going to dive into her social media channels, I’ll provide the commentary, for ways to improve your blog. Nicolette Mason is a blogger I’ve admired since I first started blogging. Around the time I discovered her, she secured a column in Marie Clarie magazine. I felt like, WOW, that’s so not something I thought a fat girl could do. Let that sink in for a moment; it’s a pretty massive realisation. The possibilities are endless.
From there I, in a fan-girl-esque fashion, have followed her career closely. From her days as a brunette, through her wedding and on to her launch of her clothing line, Premme. And now, she’s being featured (again) on this blog. That’s how you know you’ve made it, right? Forget fashion week. Pffft. Haha.
Let me say one thing; this isn’t about copying Nicolette’s style or branding. If you do that, I’ll put you in the naughty corner. In this video, I talk about what makes her one of the best. It’s about the tips you can focus on to improve your blog. If you have any questions, want me to clarify anything I’ve said, leave it in the comments. To be clear, all the opinions expressed in this video are mine, I didn’t have access to Nicolette to discuss them nor did she approve this video in any way. I’m just a fan, trying to blog better. Disclaimers aside, let’s begin!
Want to see your favourite blogger featured? That’s simple. Tell me who they are in the comments 9here or on YouTube) and I’ll start making a list. Coming up next, we check out the blogging style of Kellie B of And I get dressed. Can’t wait!
Today we’ve been married for 12 years and in a relationship for 14. So wow! Happy 12th wedding anniversary to my husband-type-person. I really am blessed to share this life with such a generous, kind, warm man. To celebrate this momentous occasion, let’s take a look at the things I’ve learned about relationships. Even though I’m not an expert, the fact that we got here after the last year, well, I must be doing something right. Probably.
We’ll see, shall we? *wiggles eyebrows*
I often write about the funny things that happen in my relationship. Less often now, but it used to be a significant factor in the blog; Sharing the silly or the annoying things Kel does. And there is always plenty. That’s sharing a life and house with someone, right?
Then, sometimes I’d break character and share something sweet, like the way he always kisses me goodbye in the mornings even if I’m asleep. Or when he slept on a mattress on the floor at the foot of the bed while I was sick. Or the time he surprised me with a new knife because I was complaining about the old ones. And, you know, a million stories just like those. I was thinking about it the other day. Thinking that the teasing, the fun, sweetness and laughter that we tend to share online, it doesn’t cover off one essential thing.
Relationships are hard work.
I wasn’t a girl who dreamed of her future husband or wedding. I didn’t plan for children and a household to manage. So nothing surprised me more than falling in love and wanting to marry. As time went on the shock of actually wanting to commit my life to someone wore off, and I settled into the relationship.
Over time, we found a balance and would constantly look for ways to make it work. I cannot imagine that I am an easy person to be married to. And by “cannot imagine I am”, I mean I’m not. I don’t think anyone is. We laughed, cried, fought and spent those horrible times silent when no one would say a thing. I came to realise that this marriage was for life which was a brain bender in itself. I was talking to a friend, telling her that Hubby and I had been married for ten years next year (old story, obvs) and that it was AGES. Such a long time. Soooo long. Ages. She just laughed at me and said ‘honey, you’ve got a long way to go yet’. And it hit me. I do. A long time.
A long, long, long time. God-willing.
Looking that permanence in the eye and deciding that I could continue to be pissy about the pantry door always being left open, or I could be happy. It was time for me to choose. And some days, let me tell you, I don’t choose happy. That cupboard door thing drives me INSANE. Haha. I’ve found that to be married successfully you have to be all in. Open and free with communicating the good and bad and never have one foot out the door. So, a cupboard door can’t be a deal breaker, right? You can’t let it be.
I’m great at relationships that ebb and flow and rise and fall. Ones I can ‘escape’ from. I like space to do my own thing and be on my own without involving them. That’s how I have always made friendships, relationships with my family and colleagues work.
But, I’ve found that you can’t do that in marriage and have any success long-term. You can’t just lock yourself off for extended blocks of time. We are heading very quickly towards me being married for half of my entire life. Not just half of my adult life, MY WHOLE LIFE. Mind blowing. For me, as the years go on, one thing becomes more and more necessary even as I dedicate time to physically and emotionally be ‘with’ Kel.
Being myself!
My point is that when you’re with someone for a while, you have to keep checking in and making sure that YOU are still there. Do you still have interests and relationships aside from your partner? Do you have a hobby or interest that is all yours? My Mum taught me that. Be your own person, have your interests and continue to come back to your partner with new ideas, inspiration and excitement. She’s a wise one, that woman, and not too shabby at this marriage thing after 40 years.
Kel and I have found a good balance when it comes to this. We certainly aren’t the couple that spends all our time together. That works for some people. You know who you are. I think that it’s the finding of what works for you that is the most important. For me, there has been no winning formula that I have been told or shown as an example that perfectly works for us. We found a way that works for us and that my friends, is what it is all about.
Otherwise, it’s a long, long, long, LONG time to be trying to make something fit into an idea you have of marriage. And in my experience, those who are having ‘the perfect’ marriage, with ‘the formula and lots of lines in the sand are the people who find themselves in situations where they can’t forgive the small things. They can’t look at their partner as a whole person with flaws and faults and will one day have that bite them on the butt.
Don’t be that person.
Find your way. YOUR WAY. Work together, keep your feet firmly planted in your relationship and don’t sweat the small stuff (spoiler: It’s all small stuff). Most of all find a way to be married that works for you both and have fun creating a relationship just like that. Do it with lots of love. And sex, always lots of sex. *wink wink*
And now, because it’s Sunday and Sunday is VIDEO DAY, below is 20’ish Questions with Mr Suger to celebrate. Enjoy. If you can give the video a thumbs up, please do so! And if you’re into the YouTube thing, make sure you subscribe. I’ve got a bonus video coming this week that you’re not going to want to miss. How are you going with the videos? The mail opening one is almost at 100 views! Which considering we are like two weeks in, I’m taking as a win. Go team.
