We’ve talked about this before but it really hit home for me today. One of the things I love most about working for myself is that there is really no one to tell me what to do. My favourite part of THAT is choosing who I want to work with. I know, for others in business, that makes them happy too. Even if it means you have to let one go, sometimes. Because, when you spend so much time doing your job, isn’t it best to spend time with people you actually like?
For me, that’s non-negotiable.
As the boys filled me in on their weekend (It was a wild one, apparently. Sorry I missed it.) I felt good. The stories made me laugh and the banter is something I choose not to live without. Then I got home and received messages from clients who are now friends. More stories, some responses, but lots of fun and friendship.
There’s something bonding about knowing the ins and outs of someone’s business; it brings you closer together. Not just that, but it’s bonding when you have a shared experience and business is like that. Maybe for you, it’s having kids the same age, or playing on the same Basketball team.
But it’s not just those people. It’s the ones that cross my inbox and the people who want to utilise the blog for some kind of promotion. I choose every single one that I allow into my life, now. I won’t work with brands that make unreasonable demands of me. I turn down more bad fits than I used to be offered in a year. Every step of the way I get to choose my partners in creating my business, and by extension my life.
I want to count on those around me.
Doing business is hard enough, surrounding yourself with great people is important. People who deliver when they say they will and appreciate what you do. And, importantly to me, aren’t afraid to say so. Who value their word and say what they mean and stand by that. It’s an entire thing. I might not always make good choices in business and in life, but when all is said and done, I know what I need and what makes me happy.
It’s like we were talking about on the Facebook Page last night; I’m creating my life. One piece at a time. And don’t you think that choosing the people you spend the majority of your time with is the perfect way to do that? I do. That and the cooking thing. I really need to cook more actual meals so I’m not living on crap. Oh, and procrastinating… I mean, I could do without that too.
So take a look around, who are the people YOU spend the most time with, are they adding to your life? Are they making it better in some way? Do they bring you joy? To rip off that organising lady. I hope they do. I hope even the ones that get on your nerves and let you down sometimes do.
You deserve good people; YOUR kind of people.
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Hi! I’m Melissa Walker Horn. Around here, they call me Suger. I’m the Chief Blogger and doer of all the things here at Suger Coat It. Blogging since 1901; I love a casual ootd, taking photos, and writing about things that irk or inspire me. I love wine and cheese, long days at the beach and spending time with my family. I make stuff for the internet over at Chalkboard Digital. You know, living the sweet life.
Now that I am working back in the ‘professional’ world I really get that. Working at home was tought, because I always felt like I should be working and not slacking off, but I do really get that thing about being able to choose your own type of people to spend time with.
When I started working from home I thought I’d be lonely. Nuh-uh. A. I’m too busy working LOL and B. I still have contact with people, lovely people – online communities, clients, network meetings and events. It’s a great life!
Right!? There’s always something surprising about working from home for everyone. Love that yours was how not lovely you are! The best news. Enjoy.
What a thoughtful post Melissa. Life (and work) is about you and what you make of it. So good to read what your thoughts are. Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 29/52. Next week’s optional prompt is Share Your Snaps. Denyse
Thank you, Denyse. It’s been an interesting process surrounding myself with awesome people. And thanks for having me.
I really enjoy reading along as you talk about working for yourself, Melissa. It’s a completely different world for me as an employee.
Thank you! It’s fun to share, and I feel like maybe there will be something here to look back on one day. My story will be here.