Body Shame; We taught her that.

Body Shame; We taught her that.

My story about body shame, confidence and finding my way out is too familiar to need repeating. I was a young woman who wanted a body that was different to the one I had. So I starved and strived and exercised and counted and struggled. My body never did change that much. Why did I do that? How did I even know that there was something ‘wrong’ with my body? Because they told me so. They said that thin was in, and waif was the ideal. I am a child of the 90’s after all. When my body had weight…

Where the lines overlap.

Where the lines overlap.

I’m unwell, you might have noticed me mention that, I’m a terrible sick person. I could almost deal with it and just keep slogging on if being sick and sad didn’t focus such a bright shining light on everything that I feel like isn’t working in my life. And you’ll find, under a blinding, unflinching light there’s a lot of faults and flaws to be seen. Balls dropping to the floor. Deadlines eyeing me knowingly as they loom. Suitcases left unpacked and open on the floor causing injury and harsh words. I live a blessed life, I know that, and…

What IS the moral of the story here?

What IS the moral of the story here?

Being a woman is a tough gig. We were talking on the weekend about how the expectations placed on us are different; especially when it comes to being women, mothers, daughters, lovers, friends. These conversations between women, assuring those amongst us feeling the weight of that pressure, are essential. Because if we don’t call bullshit on this stuff, no one will. What was the moral of that story, I wondered. Why had I endured the length of that story with gazed eyes and a bored, half asleep expression? What IS the moral of this story? That mothers can’t leave their…

Slouchy Sporty Casual for Winter

Slouchy Sporty Casual for Winter

Winter finally dipped a tentative toe into the waters that are my hometown this week. We even lit the fireplace a couple of times. Whoa. Progress. So when I took an early mark from work (post-holiday blues have hit me hard) Mr Suger and I decided to grab some dinner out and forget our grown up problems for a few hours. Because that’s what grown-ups do. With nothing to see at the local cinema and a cold evening settling in we settled for sushi at our local. And sushi always calls for the slouchy, stretchy goodness that is my current…

Oh heeeeey, a New Zealand Update!

Oh heeeeey, a New Zealand Update!

I’m logged into tonight, from our camper in Rotorua, to finish the first couple of days of Confident You’s first week. Because well, nothing says live an impressive life you love like that does. I’m loving the digital nomad life. I dream of the day when we can travel around all the time and blog and eat and drink and live. The people I’ve met, the places I’ve seen, well that’s just what life is about. And you thought I was a talker. That Mr. Suger, HE is the talker. I often get left off the side of conversations wandering…

Oh hey New Zealand, heading your way!

Oh hey New Zealand, heading your way!

Mr. Suger and I planned to honeymoon in New Zealand not long after our wedding. With young businesses at the time, we thought it might take us a year or two to get around to. Fast forward and as our 11th wedding anniversary looms large (in August) we decided we’d better get the heck on with that. Then our friend Fi mentioned she was having a 40th birthday bash and WELL. Game on. New Zealand, brace yourself, the Sugers are coming. Kicking off in Auckland, we are travelling a few hours for a friend’s birthday party, after a few days…

Grey days call for white jeans

Grey days call for white jeans

My grey hair is actually washing out like no one’s business. I’m pretty much a golden girl now and I’m with that. My Aunty Dell and I could pass for sisters, not a bad trade my Mother and Aunt barely age, like ever. I’ll take it. But before that went down I had one of those rainy days where all a girl needs is some comfy layers but what she gets is a visit to her accountant to finalise a tax return or two (personal and business because we ALL know I learnt my lesson when it comes to lodging…

All the newness for winter

All the newness for winter

Tonight the local show kicks off for the general public. Event and stall holders and the like have been here a while, but tonight with a bang of fireworks, it all begins. It’s show time. A hot topic of discussion leading up to this week is where is the normal show weather. Where are the cold nights, the temperate days, the sunshine or the rain (we alternate between both). There has been none of it. Until yesterday. Yesterday there was a killer sunset and bam, the cold descended and we find ourselves with a heaping helping of show weather. Mr…

Suger’s Place Office Makeover

Suger’s Place Office Makeover

Oh yeah, it happened. Or IS happening. It was office makeover time. If you follow me on snapchat (sugercoatit, derr) you would have seen progress as we went through the first day. On Instagram, I shared a before and after of the floor. But what you didn’t see is the transformation of this once single garage turned 90’s bedroom into the home of my business Suger Social. I mean before, it was bad. Smelly bad. Old blinds and stinky carpets bad. This bad. And yes, my entire house prior to her recent paint job was that lovely shade of 90’s…