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One of, and there are many, my all time favourite movies HAS to be Gentleman Prefer Blondes. Let’s face it, you put a whole bunch of singing, dancing, hip swinging, diamond chasing folks in the one place and you are bound to have my attention. Love it! And between Marilyn and Jane {Russell} well I don’t know who I prefer more. But why am I talking about this?

In Gentlemen Prefer Blondes Marilyn’s character says something along the lines of “it’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is to fall in love with a poor man” and it immediately came to mind yesterday when a search term landed on my blog looking for a ‘suger mom to buy a car’. Let’s not even talk about the fact that there is nothing on here relating to THAT topic. Haha.

While I tend to agree that love doesn’t discriminate in such ways and it is easy to fall in love with a rich man {where are those fellows, are they busy?} I can’t help but think of the line my mother always gave my siblings and I when we joke about our next spouse being loaded.

She said “if you marry for money you earn every cent”.

I assume she meant for money alone. And she’s right, of course. Usually is. But do people actually think that marrying for money, choosing a spouse based on their ‘on paper’ credentials is ever going to make for a happy relationship?

Now don’t think I’m speaking to you from some privileged perch over here. Oh no. I’ve been pretty darn broke over the years at times, and it sure as heck didn’t make me a nice person. I know the difference a little bit of money can make to your ability to take care of your health both mental and physical and your well-being. I have often lamented my desire for MORE money to make life a wee bit easier. Always moooore, right?

However if that money comes with strings, lots of them, in what is supposed to be a marriage could it ever work? It’s one of those topics that I feel like you could have a fun and fruitful conversation over dinner about. You could argue both sides, I think. That it IS just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is a poor man. But then, what if the man you love is poor… Do you keep looking for love in loftier financial positions? See? Lots of conversation to be had around that one, I think.

Blog search terms are the best. Look at all this wonderfulness we’ve had now because that one guy decided to ask Google how to find himself a suger mom to buy him a car. So what advice do we give our Googling friend folks? Keep looking for love or money? Or both or neither? Help a desperate, young I’m assuming young, fella out.

  • http://kathrynohalloran.blogspot.com/ Kathryn OHalloran

    Interesting stuff. My mum has gone out with some guys you’d consider “renovator’s dreams”, well until you discover the termites in the foundations and I said I’d never get into a relationship with a poor man but I think it depends on the reason they are poor. If someone has no aspirations and is happy to sit around collecting the dole then no way but if they are poor because maybe they decided on a career change and have gone back to study or they’ve had life circumstances that were beyond their control, that’s completely different.

    If I were in a relationship with a rich guy, I think it’d be in spite of his money, not because of it. When I lived in Japan, I saw a lot of “sponsored dating” (nice word for it). Young girls so desperate to have designer labels, LV handbags etc, they’d “date” creepy old men. Half that designer stuff looks ugly anyway – I’d much rather a $10 bag from Target that I’d paid for myself and freedom + self respect along with it :)

    • http://www.sugercoatit.com/ Melissa Walker Horn

      Interesting indeed. I agree that here would be so many factors in things like this the reasons and the person plus how you felt about them, what your own plans were and how bloody desperate you were for high end goodies {never desperate enough is my answer also. Haha}.

  • http://www.ohheywhatsup.com/ Corrin Foster

    Well, love didn’t work, so I’m willing to try money. :-)

    • http://www.sugercoatit.com/ Melissa Walker Horn

      Haha. Oh my. Well yes, not a bad plan my friend, let us know how you go. ;)

  • Sarah Collins

    interesting… the man i love is i suppose poor, although only in the financial sense. He’s full of love and is a very caring man. We’re both technically poor lol. More money would make things a lot easier but I couldn’t see my life without him.

    • http://www.sugercoatit.com/ Melissa Walker Horn

      That’s it, isn’t it. We have been through a number of stages when it comes to money in our relationship and I’ve always found having a little more easier than a little less but it didn’t change the fact that I loved the man I was with and had chosen him.

  • http://surelysarah.blogspot.com/ Surely Sarah

    Ha my nanna always quoted that line about loving a rich man over a poor one! I had no idea it came from that movie :) That’s hilarious. I think you should always marry for love – money should be a bonus. If you’re gold-digging, it always seems to end in tears/divorce!
    There is a Trace Adkins song called “Next time I’m gonna marry for money” which is very catchy though. I’m going to go youtube it right now actually.

    • http://www.sugercoatit.com/ Melissa Walker Horn

      I like to think that people who lie and manipulate will always be found out in the end. It’s like my Mum’s version of karma or something.

      I’ll be sure to look up the song myself. Sounds like fun.