Pay Yourself First {Confident You}

I’d started a new post for this morning. I had it almost ready to go and got distracted and ended up on Pinterest. There I saw pin about paying yourself first and immediately moved today’s post to write this one. I am a MASSIVE believer in paying yourself first. Here’s why.

Firstly, there’s something about saying I have enough that does wonderful things for your attitude and {without getting to alternative on you here} your energy. A bouncy, happy, filled to the brim with enough person just seems to drag more of that to them. Like attracts like and all that. So when you believe you have enough then most of the time, you actually do. Wonders will never cease.

Then there’s the your worthy of it take. The of course you should provide yourself with care, time, money and the rest first. Then you are topped up and ready to offer them to someone else. No matter what the little voice in your head says you cannot care for people long term without first caring for yourself. You can’t provide people with financial, emotional or physical support unless you are strong in that area.

Build up your personal bank; it’s not greedy, it’s just good business.

How do you go about paying yourself first? In a budget it’s easy, you take 5% or 10% and it goes into a separate account long before you ever decide that the electricity bill is due and the kids need new shoes. But it’s not as simple when you are talking about emotional pay yourself first, right? Or maybe, it is. Maybe it just means sitting down at the start of the week and blocking out non-negotiable you time. For the gym, to read a book, for an at home facial… Whatever.

And I know, some of you are saying BUT SUGER, it’s hard, I have kids/partner/work/life and they/it place demands on me. This is true. Very true. But like a buying a toy at the latest big toy sale or stockpiling sugar laden treats, ultimately the choice is yours. Nobody can make it for you. No one will insist it happens for you. Trust me, people love to keep other people busy and running around.

But the question is are you important and will you make time to pay yourself first? Well are you?

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Suger

June 29, 2013

Confidence

8 responses to “Pay Yourself First {Confident You}”

Mrs BC

June 29, 2013 at 12:15 pm

Such an important reminder, thank you! It’s so easy to put yourself and your needs last and that isn’t right. Someone once said to me that ‘If you are the support pole for the tent around you, you need to make sure your supports are there and strong, otherwise the tent will fall down.’ Weird analogy, but I totally get it.
xx

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1. Melissa Walker Horn
  
  June 30, 2013 at 9:23 pm
  
  I like the ten analogy. It’s great. Glad it was a timely reminder! :)
  
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river

June 29, 2013 at 10:05 pm

I’ve been paying myself first for a long long time. Emotionally of course, and in my budget. I’m living tight, I take a certain amount each week and put it aside as savings, another amount is put aside towards the power bills, another for the rent, and the rest is for groceries and “extras”. There’s not usually much for extras, but I’m happier knowing the power bills are covered, and my savings have built to the point where I can now go and visit my brother and his partner in WA for a week.

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1. Melissa Walker Horn
  
  June 30, 2013 at 9:23 pm
  
  Awesome River!! Enjoy your hard earned break, I hope you have an amazing time.
  
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Vera

June 30, 2013 at 4:18 am

Good reminder! In some ways I do pay myself first, I think I have to remind myself not to indulge too much. hehe :)

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1. Melissa Walker Horn
  
  June 30, 2013 at 9:24 pm
  
  HA! That’s the other side of it, I guess. Getting self absorbed. But I’m sure for most of us, we’re well away from that point.
  
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Kp

July 4, 2013 at 9:10 am

I used to be really good a this, but of late I have taken on a HUGE project and it needs all my time. The project in itself is paying myself emotionally as I am investing in a dream, but at the same time to make It work I need to be investing all my time outside ( my paid job) to make it happen. Thanks for the reminder, I think I need to remember hat no matter hat a little ME TME I needed & it’s really about planning!
Another great post Mel
Thanks xXx

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1. Melissa Walker Horn
  
  July 4, 2013 at 2:51 pm
  
  Thank you KP. Glad this could serve as a reminder for you! It becomes even more important to make and take the time when you have such a big project on our hands, like you do. Enjoy!
  
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