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It is not YOURS

My parents – In stealth mode
On Saturday I clicked away grabbing photos for the blog of the cake that was being rescued. We chatted about putting them online. about the blog. Blogging. 
And the conversation we had about privacy, displaying faces and sharing stories made me think. Mostly, the stories I tell are mine. Some are Hubby’s. And occasionally, VERY occasionally they are someone else’s. 
Two great stories came to mind on Saturday. Well, one was basically dropped in my lap. A story of someone being stung on the butt by a bee. Seriously. And the other, a memory of someone having such a big night they threw up in their hall and proceeded to vacuum it up.
I had great fun recounted or being recounted to and I’d planned to retell them both. In full. But I realised that while one would be ok, with some sweet talking {the bee one!} the other would probably never be ok. After all the occasion of this big night was 18 years ago. Things have changed. Lots has changed. And if I was to cause issues for the spew’er, then I wouldn’t be happy or proud of that. Oh, and bee boy would probably be embarrassed now. ;)
So I decided no go. That the small mention here is as much coverage as they will get. Because I don’t want to be that friend that you always have to say ‘don’t put this on facebook/twitter/your blog please’ to. After all, I am already THAT daughter. Right, Dad!?   
So what say you bloggers, where is the line for you and your nearest and dearest when it comes to telling tales, sharing photos or opening up online? Has there been a time when you crossed it? Who put the line there in the first place?
Tell me, would you.

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10 responses to “It is not YOURS”

  1. Amy xxoo Avatar
    Amy xxoo

    I've crossed the line before – i ranted about someone IRL because my blog was the only avenue i had left and not only was she not happy about what i said, she wasnt happy that i'd put it online for the world to read. Had she bothered to return my calls or texts, or hang out more than twice in 8 months, i would have been able to say it her face. And maybe she didnt like being exposed for what she really was?Either way, what was done was done and because it was MY truth i wasnt backing down from it…

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  2. Daisy, Roo and Two Avatar
    Daisy, Roo and Two

    I try to be very careful with what I put on my blog. If someone is mentioned, or there is a photo with someone else in it, I usually ask first: "haha that's great, can I put that on my blog?". I've never been told no, and have a blanket "yes" from a few people. I still ask every time though, just to be sure. There's probably only one venting post I've ever written, way back when, that might have been going too far but the person it was written about either didn't see the post, or didn't think it was about them (no names, only vague allusions), but if thy ever said anything I'd only be able to apologize and take it down if they requested.

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  3. Katie Avatar
    Katie

    Hehe I took some funny photos of hubby and he gave me the stern face. Dont you dare put that on your blog. Boring man. My children wil probbaly hate me when they grow up for putting loads of their photos and stories on my blog but for now they are blissfully unaware. Muhahahaha

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  4. Hi I'm Rhonda. Avatar
    Hi I’m Rhonda.

    I crossed the line when I wrote openly about my feelings about my biological father. At least they (meaning my stepmother, and siblings) thought I had. I was just being honest.

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  5. Mrs BC Avatar
    Mrs BC

    I try really hard not to tell anyone elses story, because it's not my story to tell. I put this limitation on myself, & I think it's a good one, because really, it's my blog & I can only tell my story. If I ever talk about someone else or have a photo of them, I don't use their real name. for me it is just common courtesy, treating people how I would want to be treated. Although sometimes it is very tempting….x

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  6. River Avatar
    River

    I created my own line when I started my blog. I don't put up photos of my kids or grandchildren and I don't tell anything from their childhood that I know they'd be unhappy about. If it's something that I know they themselves would talk about, then I feel okay blogging about it. Like the pomegranate hockey story I put up recently.

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  7. stink-bomb Avatar
    stink-bomb

    i don't even put photo's of myself on my blog [and rarely on facebook], no matter anyone else. i think once i may have put an odd angled blurred photography of Guv on my old blog.my blog is my blog. i talk about Guv on it but never anything overly personal about him because that's not my information [nor place] to share. if i talk about anyone else, names are not used and i reveal nothing that could identify them.x

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  8. Melissa *Suger Coat It* Avatar
    Melissa *Suger Coat It*

    Hmmm. Very interesting. thanks for sharing everyone. So mostly we impose lines based on what others have requested or what you know they won't like. Sometimes after the fact. Very interesting.

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  9. Danimezza Avatar
    Danimezza

    I don't talk about steve at all except for sharing the odd photo. Details about Aidan's health and development are off limits unless I really feel like I need to vent about them or want advice. I've been hurt too much in the past by strangers/friends comments to really open myself up to criticism in that way. I try and make my posts about me (Vanity) because I'm the only one I have to answer to or to blame… does that make sense :PWhen it comes to Aidan and writing a post about/involving him I think about how he would feel when he googled himself in the future. We think we're tech savvy and have all the info… imagine their technological future!

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  10. Jane Avatar
    Jane

    Very interesting question.I suggested that a (once) friend blog in an endeavour to deal with some stuff in her life. She did, and gave me her address to read her stuff.Apparently, though, when I commented on something to her IRL, this was not allowed. She had never told he this before giving me the address. She stopped blogging at that address and started a new one that I wasn't supposed to find, but came across. Apparently, even though it was a PUBLIC blog, I wasn't supposed to be reading it.Said (ex) friend has some real issues, and they aren't just about me reading her blog when I wasn't supposed to. I think honesty is the best policy. I haven't blogged much yet, and when I started I felt the need to vent about a couple of issues, but I do it in a way that identifies no one. It is a public blog and I don't care who reads it, but I don't do it to make anyone feel bad about what I am writing.

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