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You are weak.

You let people tell you that the things you want are out of your reach. You let them call you naive, and silly, for being optimistic. For standing firmly in the corner of good. For taking another view. You want for this world to be a place of kindness. Of love. And of communication. But you let them tell you it’s not possible. 
You are the child in class who doesn’t have the right answer and feels the shame burn your cheeks. The one that try’s too hard. Cares too much. You are sensitive. And open. You feel the pain of the world. Some times you think the worlds pain must be your own. 
So they tell you to toughen up. To grow up. To harden yourself against the brutal nature of this world. And we do. But by doing that, by numbing ourselves to the suffering of others, do we get stronger like we thought? Or really does that just weaken us as a whole. Weaken what is good, and right, and beautiful about human being. 
When was the last time you told someone what really matters to you? How did they react? Will you do it again!?

For me. What’s important is that I make a difference to people. To the world. And that my contribution be of value to those that receive it. that I am great with my family, friends and colleagues. But also the people who I am in contact with for mere seconds. Like the people in a grocery line.
What matters to you?

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7 responses to “You are weak.”

  1. Madmother Avatar
    Madmother

    Hallelulah!So many times I hear the "he needs to harden the f**k up" about my kids. Yes, because they still retain a sense of integrity and compassion. You know what I notice? It is always the parents of the little thugs who say it. The kids who call your child a pussy or chicken because they aren't stupid enough to pick on another or join in a group bashing session. And I tell my boys that those are the children they need to feel the most compassion for.

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  2. Kel Avatar
    Kel

    I told my husband that what matters to me is not the material things, but having him present. He seems to think if something happens and I get upset, that buying something will fix it. It's taking time, but he's learning that love, cuddles and quality family time mean more to me than anything material ever could. And this is a quality that I am trying hard to pass on to our daughter.I think people these days can be very materialistic and focus too much on what they don't have rather than what they do. I have days like that – we all do. My biggest mission is to make those days fewer and to appreciate our life and family as it is. It may not be perfect, but it's ours and I am proud of it.

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  3. Sydney Shop Girl Avatar
    Sydney Shop Girl

    Amen to that, Melissa!A post of strength and inspiration.Thank you!SSG xxxSydney Shop Girl blog

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  4. Lucy Avatar
    Lucy

    This is so vital, so you.I stand my ground on a few things.I am farily zen about a great many things, but some things make my internal value gauge roar. xx

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  5. stink-bomb Avatar
    stink-bomb

    i'm on a steep learning curve of how to become zen – how to let things just be. Guv says i'm so angry all the time because i have this crazy need to correct the worlds wrong and that i'll never do it and you know what – he's right, i know it's easier to just let things be…now to actually do it!~x~

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  6. Joni Llanora Avatar
    Joni Llanora

    This has been a touchy issue at home with my daughter's disability, her dad is overly protective & sometimes teaches her to learn to be tough. I however disagree & is less cynical.

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  7. Penny-lee-R Avatar
    Penny-lee-R

    telling people your feelings is big for me..but tho you get things of chest..does it really matter..when its not taken in by the people and your left feeling worse or end up with the "I don't care, whatever thoughts"so come away feeling same or worse? or maybe its just my depression that doesn't let me feel better..who knows, some times just to hard to even try to tell loved ones your feeling when perfect strangers listen more..sry long comment but you touched a nerve with that post.

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