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This time next week…

I’ll be 28. 
It feels strange to say. It’s late twenties. For sure. I will have to change my bio from mid-twenties {the high side} next week. It’s not the number, I don’t think, as much as it is the associations I put on to it. Even now when I think, or when I picture, a 28 year old I picture someone much older than I am. More established. More settled. More sure of their path. 
And then I remember that all those comparisons are what drives me crazy. So I stop. 
But mostly, as I reflect on the ending of my 28th year and the commencement of my 29th on this planet I was handed a timely reminder to just how far I have come. A reminder of who I am. Yesterday, in my office, there was a discussion about handwriting. The new lady commented that I have confident handwriting. Large, bold handwriting. That it is confident looking. I laughed and said that it was because I am, pretty, confident. Ms Iris laughed harder and said, pretty! Are you kidding. Hugely, might be a better word.
And I realised that this assurance, this willingness to be ridiculous or to be straight and to be me, while allowing others to be themselves, that IS confidence. And through the training and development I have done. Through life and it’s lessons. And through the wise guiding experience of those around me, I now have it. 
I am {virtually} 28 and confident. Comfortable. Assured. 
And I still get butterflies meeting new people.
And making speeches.
And dancing.
But the best part is, these days, I do them anyway. 
Win!

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12 responses to “This time next week…”

  1. cjtato Avatar
    cjtato

    If it's any consolation, I still feel about 24 (I think that is about as far as I matured) and I'm sneaking up to *ahem* 40.I love getting handwriting compliments. :D

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  2. DangGina Avatar
    DangGina

    Yes, yes! I turned 28 last May (which means–GASP–I'll be 29 in 2.5 months!), and I had similar feelings. It's not that aging is a bad thing; I think life gets better with age. It was that danged realization that I was no longer in my mid-twenties, where I've been quite comfortable for a number of years. Which means I'm in my LATE twenties. Which means I'm getting ever-closer to my THIRTIES! Oy! I better not get ahead of myself…gotta enjoy the last bits of my twenties that I can!It's all good; life is good, birthdays are good…Happy birthday next week!

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  3. Maxabella Avatar
    Maxabella

    WIN! You're still a bubba, though. 28 is grown up but not GROWN. You'll be fine!I like your new profile pic. It is SO different to your previous ones that I really didn't recognise you. I like both styles. x

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  4. Brittonie W Avatar
    Brittonie W

    Birthdays! YES!You're doing fine for the age you are. I am only turning 21 and I am expecting myself to be on a set path and to know what I want to be and what I want to do. Talk about pressure!Good on you for doing all those things! You're one of the most confident, lovely woman I know!

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  5. Katie Avatar
    Katie

    I thought there was a bit more of an age gap between you and I,because you seem to me anyway, that you have yourself organised, house, husband, career,awesome blog. I'd like to be where you are at 28!

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  6. Amy Avatar
    Amy

    28 just seems so grown up, yet I'm only a few short years away from that milestone myself.I keep feeling so much pressure to get my life together in my 20's- every time I beat myself up about not having 'done' enough, I speak to my mother in law. She honestly thinks that your thirties is the best time in your life- she tells me that she never felt more confident, she never made better decisions for herself, and her life finally 'clicked' together.So bring it on!! :)

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  7. Madmother Avatar
    Madmother

    Dear Dog, I could be your mother! Urgh – feeling my age now.

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  8. suburp Avatar
    suburp

    (i keep losing comments so i say this again:)good on you to feel good about where you are in life and be confident with who you are. that is very valuable at ANY age. 28 ? really? lol, you'll see what 30 does to you. Or 40 for that matter (me by the end of the year, yep). It comes up SO big and then it's past. I feel again like 20 right now and I like it. there is some physical 'decay', it's true, but I would not want to go back to where I was heading for then…

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  9. Rianna Avatar
    Rianna

    So far, I'm loving being 28. It feels like a beautiful age to me :) xo

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  10. designed to a T Avatar
    designed to a T

    Hey Melissa, you know what the best thing about birthdays is…everyone of them is just a number. You are as young (or old) as you feel. I'm going to hit 48 this year but I still feel 28, although my eldest son would be shocked…cos he turned 29 a week ago!!!Seriously though, I don't mentally feel my age, but my body…well that's another story.Remember, it's just a number. The only time it should make a difference is when you have those fantastic events in your life…like, I married the man I love at ??, we bought our first home when we were ???. You know, all those types of things, remember them by what age you were, but never put yourself in an 'age bracket', that's when you start to feel old, or older.So as you suggested in your post you are CONFIDENT, ASSURED AND COMFORTABLE (at 28)….T

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  11. Mrs BC Avatar
    Mrs BC

    Congratulations & Happy Birthday! I have only just discovered your blog & I love your confident style ;)I will be 43 on Monday week, so yay me – I win:(Can't wait to grow up.xx

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  12. Cheeseboy Avatar
    Cheeseboy

    Funny how people take so much about your personality from your handwriting. But you do seem like the bold, confident type, good handwriting or not.

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