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Decisions, Decisions

I need a little advice from my TTC readers – past and present. If you don’t know what TTC is, I’m not talking to you, carry on scrolling down and read the post about me hating fat people or Safari’ing in South Africa. nothing to see here. If you think you can help. Please read on.

So now it is just us, I have something I want to ask. Hubby and I have thus far gone this without medical intervention. We have seen naturopath’s etc but no drugs or testing etc. Silly you may think but we had been told if we fell that quickly the first time, get things back working again and see how you go. By things, they meant me. And my cycle.

And it came back. For three in a row. And went again. And stayed gone now for almost a month, so late isn’t an option. Do you have any idea how heartbreaking a skipped period is to a TTC when it is a nothing. A blip! Faaark. I am so disappointed. Heartbroken really. Because how to you track anything when there is no start or end point. How do you get anywhere when you don’t know where you are. RIGHT!?

So my question is, where to from here for us. I am throwing the medical intervention after 30 out the window and ready to do what needs to be done. Now. So I guess it is at the doctors but what I am asking for? A referral, tests, DRUGS? What..? Confused and ready to not be.

If you can help me out please comment or email me at melissa@sugercoatit.com
Otherwise, I will stalk some forums. Got any good ones? 

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9 responses to “Decisions, Decisions”

  1. Aneets Avatar
    Aneets

    Have you been charting to check if you're actually ovulating?I found charting told me lots about my cycle and made me really in tune with what was happening. That way even if you get a referral to a fertility dr you will have more information to give them and they may have more of an idea of what's going on.It's hard I know- good luck!

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  2. Queen Belicious Avatar
    Queen Belicious

    I would start charting AND go see your doctor. If you've been trying for over 12 months they will usually refer you onto a specialist, otherwise they will just give you some tips and keep a note that you are currently trying. Have you been tested for PCOS or anything before? They may send you off to have that tested for.

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  3. Katie Avatar
    Katie

    I'm not in the TTC world anymore and never struggled like some others so feel free to tell me to shut up. I have gone through polycystic ovaries with my BFF and endometriosis(sp? with my sister and my advice is go to the docs, find out what you can do (if anything) get everything checked/tested/scanned. Education is your best friend in all of this. If everything is ok then you can relax and if not you can do something about it. Right?

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  4. LisyLou Avatar
    LisyLou

    I am not TTC now but I have done it for 3 years and then 13 months so my suggestions would be start temping/charting, try the ovulation prediction test from ebay and go to the doctors for a referral to a specialist and also the test for my DH was very very easy compared to the test I went through so maybe see if he can do that too.I really hope you are blessed very soon, I know how heartbreaking TTC can be.

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  5. Danimezza Avatar
    Danimezza

    Bugger charting and temping, it'll do your head in. Don't wait til you're 30, it'll just be years filled of wondering and depression… trust me. Research leading doctors in your area who specialise in infertility. Go to your GP and ask for a referral to that specific Dr. Tell the Dr everything you know about your cycle or lack there of and they will come up with a game plan. Take action x

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  6. MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) Avatar
    MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs)

    I have a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I read it before we even started TTC, and it was very helpful to me to understand the female anatomy and cycles. It may be that I should have known those things from 9th grade health class, but I was probably too busy being embarrassed at the mention of "cycles" in front of my classmates. :)I used that book as a reference to begin charting. I agree with the other commenters that that's a great place to start, so that you know a bit about your body before you start talking with any medical professionals.I also had a wonderful ob/gyn with whom I had several consultations. Although he ultimately referred me to a specialist, it was so nice to be able to "brainstorm" with him. I was glad I talked with him from the beginning so he knew our entire history.I understand your heartbreak…hang in there.

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  7. Melissa @Suger Coat It Avatar
    Melissa @Suger Coat It

    Thank you all for sharing yours (and others) stories. I appreciate it so much. I think I'm just a little emotional with the impending birth of my brother's first child (tomorrow Jess will be induced) and wanting that for myself. Thank you also for the VERY special emails I have received. I appreciate it more than you know. Stalker ;o) Haha.

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  8. Miss Ruby Avatar
    Miss Ruby

    As someone who has been ttc for 11 years – if I could only give ONE piece of advice to you it would be this:-Do not wait to get tested, get tested now, rule everything that you possibly CAN rule out as soon as you can, so you know where you stand.Your normal GP will be able to send you for basic testing to find our your hormone levels, see if you ARE ovulating etc [charting yourself won't necessarily tell you whether you are or not, temps can go up and you still don't ovulate], basic tests to check for signs of PCOS [then if more intrusive testing if something shows up] and then if all that comes back clear, send you to a specialist.Worst case scenario – you're like me and there is just no damn reason why you can't get pregnant and stay pregnant. Unexplained infertility is the most heartbreaking of the lot I think because there is just no known reason why it's just not happening. At least if they DO find something, then you can hopefully have a plan of action, take steps to help etc with me, no such luck, we just keep trying and *hopefully* *maybe* one day, one will stick, if not then it's just more heartache and miscarriages.Have you been tested for PCOS because your irregular periods is a hallmark sign [so is weight gain]? That being said, I don't have PCOS and my periods in the past have gone from every 28 days to every 60+ days, right back to every 28 days!Either way, go to your DR and don't ask, demand testing, as a patient, it's your right to do that.Big hugs and I hope motherhood isn't too far away for you!!xox

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  9. Babes Mami Avatar
    Babes Mami

    Do you read The Mother Load? She knows TONS about the medical side.I have one already and we have been TTC for about five months which is nothing compared to some and duh I have one but every month I'm late or skip and it's nothing it's a little stab. I can't imagine the big stab that you must be feeling.I hope that you get tons of fabulous advice and ideas so that you can be on the road to mommyhood soon.Hugs!

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