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When I first agreed to get married I went through a whole world of emotions and had a whole range of thoughts. While I was excited and madly in love, I felt like I was selling out on some dazzling future somewhere far, far away. I had ideas about what I thought marriage meant and what it would be to be married. To have the same man by my side forever was a reassuring and threatening concept. It was all there. And it was mine to choose. 
My Hubby was mine to choose. He offered himself freely and willingly. And I did. A picked him. I wanted him by my side. I wanted him. And the opportunity to declare that and have it recognized by all people {legal or whatever} was in some ways validating and humbling all at once. I felt part of something ages old that women for centuries before me have experienced. But with the colour and flavour of my space in time. 
I was thinking about all of this today. As they discuss a conscience vote in parliament about legalising gay marriage. Thinking that I have the right to do as I please, to freely choose, to marry or not. And my Hubby was able to willingly offer himself to me. And were able to declare that and stamp that and be part of history. In our own small way. 
Why wouldn’t you offer that to all people. Why deny a person the right to that. I guess I don’t understand what the against argument is. Two people committing to love and partnership, of making a life together and living it until it is the present, of growing and developing and being together is marriage for me. And in my opinion, that must be available for anyone.
It’s late. And I don’t feel very eloquent or articulate right now. However I really needed to get the swirling mass of thoughts and opinions and memories out of my head. I hesitate hitting publish out of fear of turning my little place of fun into a political soap box. Afraid that I have no idea what the arguement is really about and I will prove myself ignorant. I fear that you will try and convince me, educate me or bring me around to a point of view. I am afraid of being judged. 
But mostly I was afraid not to say what it is I had to say. Because for me, that would be the end of here.

Suger

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5 responses to “Marriage”

  1. Babes Mami Avatar
    Babes Mami

    I am all for people in love gay, straight whatever to be happy. If a couple wants to be married then they should be. A gay couple getting married isn't going to ruin my marriage!

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  2. Fiona Avatar
    Fiona

    I see your point because it is simple, eloquent, open and unbiased.There isn't a lot more to say. Love is always love, and as those of us who have been there know only too well, you don't always get to choose the time, place, or indeed person. Sometimes it really does 'just happen', and for me personally I think any opportunity to celebrate love should be grasped with both hands.I guess that means I don't get the 'against' arguments either. But maybe those making them don't get the 'love' argument. Maybe they haven't been that blessed in their lives yet, because if they had why would they want to deny someone else such joy and completeness?

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  3. naoise.x. Avatar
    naoise.x.

    I understand the against argument- but only because so many of my friends are against it. I think most of the time it stems from a religious point of view. I grew up in the salvation army and though it is a welcoming church it's not an approving one. I know of ok's (officers kids-kinda like pastors kids) not being able to come to church with their families and do what they have always done every Sunday because they have come out. I'm not saying that this is the reason all of the people that are against it, are.But i know that it strikes up some questions about god in alot of people if they are against/for gay marriage.the other reason i think is just social conditioning-which i guess is linked or likened to religion as well.the other part isn't as simple and a lot of the time i get people mad at me for saying this but for the sake of argument;; When people are afraid of something their fear can become offensive and protective. a good example of this is communism. we didn't understand it-wouldn't listen to anyone to try and understand it so we feared it. This links to the social conditioning part aswell. if thousands of people are scared of something,and the media is telling you that you should be..wouldn't you fear it a little?People get scared that legalizing gay marriage crosses into the dark. they believe its un-holy-ing a scared vow between man & woman like the bible says. Unfortunately they just don't get that not legalizing gay marriage it keeping aust. in the dark ages and preventing the social equality needed for peace. I ramble when i believe in something. sorry! love.x.http://stylefashionlifelove.blogspot.com/

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  4. Catherine F. Avatar
    Catherine F.

    It amazes me that the basic belief of 'treat others how you would have them treat you' seems to go out the window sometimes …..

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  5. Noelle Avatar
    Noelle

    Stopping by from cheese boys blog. I love that you are true to how you feel. Thank you for sharing.

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