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You have to be your own happy…

In relationships. At work. With friends. Maintaining relationships with family. Everywhere. You are responsible for your happy. As you you are the only one who can make you happy. You own the switch. The button. The lever. It’s all you. Liberating and exciting as that is. Which, in my opinion it is. It comes with a flip side called responsibility.
You see this ownership of your happy comes at a cost. And that cost is the ability to blame someone, anyone, else for you being unhappy. Every time, no excuses it all lies with you. Hmmm. Not as much fun. You see my favourite past time of all time was blaming Hubby for me not being happy.

It went a little like, it was him, his habits, the way he talked and those annoying habits. Of course I couldn’t be happy while he was being so god dam annoying. We were at the beginning of our relationship and I didn’t know it then but we were in trouble. And one day someone was talking and I was listening and they said;

Wherever you go, there you are.

I have since heard it applied to a number of things. But on this day, I heard, if I was unhappy with him, I would be unhappy with the next guy and the next guy and the next. That I was the problem. Or the source. That it was up to me to be happy. He couldn’t do it if he tried. And by gosh, he was trying. I had to be my own happy.

And all of a sudden, he wasn’t so annoying anymore. Ha! Double bonus. So tell me. Where in your life could you do with being your own happy?!

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10 responses to “You have to be your own happy…”

  1. Bronnie and family Avatar
    Bronnie and family

    Lovely post.I've been bringing my happy back this year. It's about rediscovering who I am and what I like and what I don't. And acknowledging that there are a lot of peoples and things that make me happy – like my kids,animals, health, and having enough money for us to live comfortably. (I'm working on the latter!) But ultimately I'm responsibly for my own happiness. Me. No one else. I've found it so empowering, and even if my world is falling down around me, I can still find aspects of my life that makes me happy. I'm glad you've found your happy too!

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  2. Bronnie and family Avatar
    Bronnie and family

    Lovely post.I've been bringing my happy back this year. It's about rediscovering who I am and what I like and what I don't. And acknowledging that there are a lot of peoples and things that make me happy – like my kids,animals, health, and having enough money for us to live comfortably. (I'm working on the latter!) But ultimately I'm responsibly for my own happiness. Me. No one else. I've found it so empowering, and even if my world is falling down around me, I can still find aspects of my life that makes me happy. I'm glad you've found your happy too!

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  3. Karen Amanda Hooper Avatar
    Karen Amanda Hooper

    So true. I just watched The Secret this past weekend because I needed a reminder of exactly what you're talking about. :)

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  4. Karen Amanda Hooper Avatar
    Karen Amanda Hooper

    So true. I just watched The Secret this past weekend because I needed a reminder of exactly what you're talking about. :)

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  5. tinsenpup Avatar
    tinsenpup

    This comes as a timely reminder for me. Today was a hard day. I'm going to take this with me into tomorrow.

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  6. tinsenpup Avatar
    tinsenpup

    This comes as a timely reminder for me. Today was a hard day. I'm going to take this with me into tomorrow.

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  7. Life In A Pink Fibro Avatar
    Life In A Pink Fibro

    Great post. So true.Thanks for Rewinding at the Fibro.

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  8. Cate P Avatar
    Cate P

    So true, I have said similar things on many occasions. Just I hope I live that way. I think I do.

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  9. Cate P Avatar
    Cate P

    So true, I have said similar things on many occasions. Just I hope I live that way. I think I do.

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  10. Romina Garcia Avatar
    Romina Garcia

    I can so relate to this post. I think every element in my life could do with a dose of my own kind of happy at the moment!

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