You’ve heard the saying right. Say it with me. When life give you lemons, make lemonade. Inspiring right…? Hmmm. Sure, except that dusting yourself off after what appears to be a moment of pure random cruelness, a personal (insurance term) ‘Act of God’, a travesty of monumental proportions… well that isn’t always easy.
In fact what is easy is to wallow in a moment of self pity. Add to that the agreement provided by those that love you just enough not to piss you off by telling you to make some gosh damned lemoney beverage. It is comfy there. Safe. Completely justified.
But
When you do get off your backside and turn a yucky, bitter, twisted situation into a positive (a real positive, not just a rah rah, go get them positive) then you are victorious. Proud. Joyous. Even dare I say, grateful for those gosh awful lemons. So when you feel even a teensy bit like doing that, come back and start reading.
What you need to do. Or so I am told. Is just to acknowledge that the situation sucks. That you really don’t want to do anything, least of all turn it around. That it’s hard work and that you don’t deserve it. This random universal punishment, whatever it is, was obviously destined for someone more deserving, someone meaner, uglier, more annoying than you. Get it all out of your system. Some great suggestions are;
- Write a list… It may be huge. Write it all out.
- Set a time limit and go to town with the pity party. It is, I assume, why they coined the phrase ‘entertain your feelings’. Show them a good time. Get down and boogie with them. And as far as the time limit goes my recommendation, use an egg timer.
- Find a friend and dump every thought and feeling that you have about it into their lap. Tell them it isn’t necessary for them to hold onto it. In fact it would be better for everyone if they nodded, smiled and uh haaa’ed at appropriate times and that is it.
- Play loud music and scream or shout about the unfairness of it all.
- Ummmm, that’s about all I can think of right now… Will add more if they come to me
And now… Do you feel that? Hear it? The quiet. The space of nothingness that you have now. It’s perfect. That space, that is where lemonade happens. Take the opportunity now. Make some lemonade before the window closes. And what if the pity and the bah humbug and the boohoo come back? Repeat the above until you are back to nothing.
Remember. I said it wouldn’t be easy. It’s more of a process. Like rinse, lather, repeat.
Suger 
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