This week brought some unexpected changes in life. Changes that will see me once again taking the opportunity to work from home and blog. All. The. Time. Exciting news but when it came down to it, the entire process left that bittersweet after taste in my mouth. I hadn’t been ready and I had no immediate plans. But, I decided it was time to cut my losses and go.
So how did I do that?
How when there is a situation that no longer serves your goals do you walk away. I took a few steps to prepare myself and figured maybe there was someone out there who would need the push too. By sharing that slowly, piece by piece, I was letting my dreams for what I wanted to do slip through my fingers day after day.
I want to say everything but am aware too, that matters like this require sensitivity. Just know that I woke up often and wondering what the heck I was doing, where I was going, and how the heck I got there. I worried about making the jump, leaving behind the team I worked with, the safety of a regular paycheck. Would I be able to do it? For me. For everything, I’d planned for myself.
So I gathered my courage, checked in with the people whose opinion matters most to me. I asked them their thoughts and requested their advice on how to manage the change. Their advice was varied and extensive. I made a mental note of all the beautiful things they had to say to me and shelved it for future reference. People are the best resource for ideas. You have to ask them.
Next, I considered the options.
I considered what chance I’d have of making it through the next week, month, quarter and year without a day-job. I scribbled notes on paper all over my house. My mind had gone into overdrive; that happens apparently. I had opened the floodgates by deciding to make a move. Ideas flooded to me, and I grabbed at them, aiming to save them for later. Then I made a stand for what I wanted, and I said goodbye — the end.
Here I am on the early days of the other side. I am madly attempting to wrap up outstanding work to claw an income from the tiny threads that are hanging around for me. I am at this moment, a full-time blogger and social media consultant. Monday I woke up, wrote, entered some data that remains outstanding, made coffee and smiled to myself. I’d made the right choice.
Now it is time for me to live confidently the ‘sweet life’ I talk about on here so often. My life was good, really good and full and exciting but I knew I wanted more. Today I stand here, having cut my losses and taken a leap of faith towards my dreams. Again. I’ve done this and failed before; you remember that right? I’m okay with that. And I’m even okay if I fail again this time. If that happens, I’d cut my losses and move on from that too because it turns out all that happens is that you need to suck in a big, deep breath and go for it.
And hope like hell! Fingers crossed folks, fingers crossed.
Hi! I’m Melissa Walker Horn. Around here, they call me Suger. I’m the Chief Blogger and doer of all the things here at Suger Coat It. Blogging since 1901; I love a casual ootd, taking photos, and writing about things that irk or inspire me. I love wine and cheese, long days at the beach and spending time with my family. I make stuff for the internet over at Chalkboard Digital. You know, living the sweet life.
Good on you. I did the same thing 2 years ago. I left a job I had come to hate. I’d worked in it for 30 years. I went back to study and now am finally working in a job I love. I know smile when it comes time to go to work
I love that! Perfect Louise, what a success story you are. Thanks for sharing. x
Wow … that must have been such a difficult decision for you but I love that you had the courage to make it! Your passion and positive attitude will see you succeed! Congratulations and good luck!
Thank you Sandie. It was and I’m so glad I did too. Amazing things have shown up since I did it and I can’t wait to see what is next!
Just came to read this after reading your newsletter, you made the right choice lady, congratulations on you new contract, you must be over the moon 🙂
I think you will absolutely flourish
All the best x
Thank you Katie. It’s exciting. I had my first day today so the blogging thing was a bit of a fail but tonight I’ve set up a new routine, settled in and started writing and it’s still there. Exciting times ahead. And mostly, thanks for reading my newsletter! Haha.
Melissa it seems the right time for us to take big steps, mine you know about and yours well…..they are big and I wouldn’t expect anything else from you. You’ve always dream BIG and share from the heart, been inspiring and courageous and I know this year holds amazing things for you. xx
Thank you my friend. I appreciate your love and support as always. Here’s to amazing things for us both this year. x
I’ve decided it’s a congratulations. You go girl, chase your dreams, I believe you can do it and you will flourish! I know it! xx
Thank you Em. Me too. Thank you so much. x
Amazing, exciting and scary! Even if you fall short of your dreams you didn’t fail because you went for it. good luck! x
Oh yes, ALL of the above. Haha. Thank you Sarah, fingers crossed.
Hold on to your hat! What an exciting journey to be starting. Best of luck.
Will do SSG, will do! Thank you. x
Huge congrats and best of luck… Though I’m sure you’ll make your own 🙂 It’s amazing to read such inspiring, vulnerable and raw posts, thank you for sharing. x
Thank you Rebecca. I hope to, that’s for sure. I’m glad you liked the post. Sometimes I forget that the things we do, the struggles we have, they are of value to others. So I appreciate you saying so.
Congratulations! All the best for your grand plans.
Thank you Dorothy. About time I got back to them. Next stop, world domination. 😉
Congratulations!! You just go. I can’t wait to see what happens next xx
Thank you! Me too.
It’s scary on the other side but you already know that. Just remember I’m always here x
Ha. For sure I do. This returns us BOTH back to entirely self-employed, eeeek, what a rush. SO exciting. Thank you, that’s SO appreciated.
Best of luck! Mr Wright and I have jumped a couple of times – never fell flat but never reached the heights we hoped for (although the second jump is still in progress, really). I’m hoping for you too 😀
I know, right!? I’m ok with jumping. One of these times will be THE time. And it’s brave, lady, to keep trying. That’s life summed up right there. I’m hoping for you too!
Good luck! I want to jump top but I’m too scared. Would love to know your journey x
Thank you Carly. One day you’ll just have to take the plunge and go for it my friend. I’ll keep you posted. 🙂
Good luck Melissa , if anyone can do it it’s YOU , your inspiring lady ❤️
Thank you Wendy. Let’s hope so. Haha. 🙂