How are you feeling today?
No, I’m really asking.
Take a moment before you answer.
HOW ARE YOU FEELING?
Are you feeling moderately confident or not at all. Wondering why the heck you clicked over here when you feel like you could never, ever have more confidence than you have now? Or maybe you were here and didn’t realise that this was even happening!? Well, surprise! go with it, okay? Do you have other things on your mind that make you sad, angry or deliriously happy? Whatever it is, just be with that for a minute. Good, bad, the ugly. It’s ok to feel however you feel. It’s all ok. It is just what it is. I said so. Some smart, learned people said so too. So trust me on that one.
The first time someone told me it was ok to feel like I was feeling, ok to be where I was, ok to have what I have I burst into tears. I sat there and sobbed my little heart out. I thought, oh my goodness it absolutely is. If a friend said to me that they were struggling with something, felt they were going nowhere or that they were unworthy I would tell them it would pass. I would hug them, smother them in kind words and tell them to keep going.
And yet, I would never have thought to do the same for myself.
No, for me it was all put downs, harsh words and ultimatums. It was do it or else. It was crime and punishment, success or failure. Being ok with how you feel right now is the first step to being confident. Being kind to yourself is essential. And it’s a practice. A habit you form, which is why, it’s the first cab off the rank. This one may very well take you until the end of this series and beyond to nail down. So don’t get frustrated with yourself. Hang tough, like the eighties cat poster cat.
Today’s challenge is easy peasy. We’re breaking you in easily. Simply find a place, somewhere you see everyday and post a reminder to be kind to yourself. It can be a sign, a collage, you might even want to write on your mirror in whiteboard pen {it works, it’s awesome, my favourite thing}. You can even pinch the post image if you wanted to, I’m happy to share. Just do something. Because today you are changing how you talk to yourself.
Daily challenge – Make a reminder to be kind to yourself.
Chief Blogger at Suger Coat It; An Australian lifestyle blog for women who work for themselves. Melissa is a social media consultant & lover of stripes. Most weekends you’ll find her at the beach or home on the veranda kicking back. Around here, they call her Suger. Feel free to do the same.
