What do you do when you want to steal your friends friends..?

… And I don’t actually mean steal them. But be their friend too because they are just sooooo awesome. You meet them. It was new. You get along well. You want to see them again. You know how it goes. 
And I have met some great women through my cousin Trina and my friend Dee {Hi girls!} and I was wondering what the protocol is for making friends with your friends, friends. There must be one. I assume it must be a bit of a mine field. Especially when it comes to women. Let’s face it. 
And what if their friends don’t actually want to be my friend. Will that make future gatherings together a bit weird? Like running into an old boyfriend or something… After I meet someone and I’m like, she’s cool, I want to be her friend, I go to this weird place like maybe I imagined that we had a great time and enjoyed hanging out and all that! Hang on. Oh gosh. I just realised I sound like that chick from he’s just not that into you. But about girl friends. Ha! Loser. Heehee. 
So enlighten me. It’s just something I was wondering about, given that it wouldn’t hurt for me to make some new friends. So tell me. What are the rules? Do I approach through the friend? Do I just find them and add them on facebook? Will Trina and Dee kick me in the butt for friend poaching? And yes, I play well with others, I know how t share… 
Tell me, ok?

8 responses to “What do you do when you want to steal your friends friends..?”

  1. Ooh – easy. You just let it happen. Get to know them at group get-togethers. When organising something, ask cuz and friend to include those people in the invite. Let them know you enjoy their company, and sit back and see what happens.I believe friendship is like throwing a rock into the pond. The circles just get bigger and bigger.

  2. What Madmother said.And thank you cousins for introducing them to you. Pay her the compliment of telling her she has cool mates.(But don't do what my SIL does – she tries to nick my friends and then tries to exclude me. Very embarassing for all concerned. Ick.)

  3. I must be the least sophisticated person in the world… I just say 'Hey! I like you! You like me! Lets be friends!' I've never had a knock back yet and people seem to respond well to a bit of goofy honesty. Some has since reported that they thought my approach quite loopy and therefore they hung around with me to see what other weird shit I'd say. Either way – I got 'em!!

  4. Interesting, really…I've never really thought about this before, which is kinda baffling really. 'Cause I've met some super awesome folks through MY super awesome folks. (I really know how to pick some stellar friends, just so you know.) I agree with Madmother: plan a group thing with your friends, make it biggish and casual, and tell your friends to invite those specific friends 'cause they're cool. Things'll happen…when you click, you click, right? Keep us posted on how this goes, please:)

  5. Uh, I don't think men worry about this sort of stuff even a little.

  6. I'm with Cheeseboy on the nonchalance. These days if I get along well with someone I'll typically add or be added by them on FB. If there's that instant connection, I've no reservation about swapping numbers, guy or girl. If you have separate circles of friends that you want to remain separate for whatever reason (eg: polygamist; secret agent), don't introduce them in the first place =)

  7. go for it. my bestie from high school has totally biddied up with a few of my uni mates and they've become some of her favourite people. to me, it's kind of flattering. like, i have good taste in friends :)

  8. Your cousin knows they are awesome too – I'm sure she will understand. Why don't you invite them and your cousin over for lunch or whatever?

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