There’s some conversation online about this style of dress. With its over-sized shape and modest, for lack of a better word, lines it has been labelled an unflattering sack. Gosh. Because people on the internet just can’t hold it in, right? But once again, the people of the internet and I disagree.
Strongly.
There’s this thing that happens in plus size fashion, this hyper-sexuality and femininity that is ‘required’ of us. Be feminine in the body they told you isn’t sexy, or delicate or desirable. To embrace your body, you must expose it and dress in ways that either flatter it or show it off. It’s a confusing, opinionated world out there. That is why I chose to dress for me, and you should dress for you, in whatever makes you happy.
I’ve talked about missing the ‘girly girl’ gene before. When it came to my clothing, I’ve never felt comfortable in anything overly femme. This girl was Sporty Spice inspired leaving Baby in the corner. That doesn’t make me right; it just makes me me. In the same way, if you prefer bodycon over slouch, that’s your business. Or ruffles over stripes.
See where I’m heading with this.
When you immediately dismiss something over-sized or slouchy as a sack and decry it on Facebook, you’re telling me, and those that dress like me, that we’re wrong. And really, who died and made you boss of what any of us wear?
I sound a little ranty, right? I get it. But I’m sick of heading onto plus size clothing retailers Facebook or Instagram pages and being inundated with complaints. Buy it or don’t, let me tell you, the retailer knows the outcome of sales. But can we quit with the whole ‘ripping’ on everything thing?
You’re making my wedge dress super sad.
Wearing 17 Sundays Seamed Wedge Dress in black {AU24} and City Chic Peep Toe Ankle Boots {42/11} {check out the link for similar}.
Hi! I’m Melissa Walker Horn. Around here, they call me Suger. I’m the Chief Blogger and doer of all the things here at Suger Coat It. Blogging since 1901; I love a casual ootd, taking photos, and writing about things that irk or inspire me. I love wine and cheese, long days at the beach and spending time with my family. I make stuff for the internet over at Chalkboard Digital. You know, living the sweet life.
Yes I think its great to do your own thing and wear what you feel happy in! This looks awesome on you and its cool that it can be dressed up or dressed down to make it suit different events 🙂
I totally agree. Thank you, Adele, it’s a great dress and serves so many purposes.
I love that you’re doing your own thing. I think this dress looks awesome on you! And perfect for dressing up or down!
Thank you, Kristy! And that it is, perfect for dressing up or down. 🙌🏼
I love these dresses, have 3 and I live in them. I have broad shoulders, small boobs, big tummy and chicken legs, but have found going down a size, these dresses are cool and comfy for the hot summers here in Adelaide. Anyway, I’m running out of “fucks” with other peoples opinions xxx As usual you look amazing xxx
It’s such a great style for summer, so cool and easy to wear. As usual, I couldn’t agree more. Haha. No fucks given.
So pleased you love this shape. I love it until I put it on. For a plus size gal I have smaller boobs so this style…. Is not my best. There is just too much fabric. I do however love and agree totally with your philosophy – wear what you love.
Thanks, Jan! As a big shouldered, big boobed girl, this works for me. Haha. Which is, exactly the point, right? We wear what we like and what we feel works for our body in whatever way we are clothing it. Hope you have better luck next time. 😉
I’ve stopped caring if other people are fans of oversized or things that don’t show my shape. I’m loving them and am comfy AF, so anyone who has an issue with that can get bent. Loving this dress on you Sug!
Thaaaaaaanks, lady. I get what you mean, for sure, I do what I want more now than ever. Haha. It’s not that I’m defending my right to wear it, I feel like I’m reminding people that there are plenty more fish in the sea, so if this isn’t for them, why take a dump on it, you know?