I sit quietly and I watch. I watch the people walk past me, some brushing me as they go by and I watch online. I watch the actions and reactions to different things. I consider my choices and watch them come to fruition. For better or for worse those decisions are mine. I love to be quiet. To just sit and watch. You can learn a lot from being quiet my Dad used to always say. As a loud and opinionated child and teen I rarely agreed with him.
It turns out, once again, that Dad was right.
I’m more likely to observe a situation that is new to me before leaping in. A boots and all girl I find myself treading on less toes, finding a common ground with the people around me. Some might say I am editing myself, being a little reserved like this, but I like to think of it as allowing others to be themselves too. I can be quite overpowering. Big body, big voice, big personality… I give people room to be them, and soon enough I get to be me too with much more space than if I exploded me all over them. Wow what a visual THAT is.
So I watch and I notice a shift. I struggle to find my place in this new way of things at first but piece by piece things fall into place. Moment like these there’s a contentment there. I know what I want, I can see a path clearly to there with excitement and focus. As the ideas come to me I take the time to scribble them onto the page. For now they are senseless words. Later they will become something.
The silence works for me. I love to take the time. It used to close in around me. I needed sound, noise in the background to separate me from my thoughts. the louder the better and the more constant, the happier I was. Now more and more I like sitting quietly. With people, with myself and when I have things to do. Who would have thought you’d see the day when…
I highly recommended taking the time to sit quietly.
Hi! I’m Melissa Walker Horn. Around here, they call me Suger. I’m the Chief Blogger and doer of all the things here at Suger Coat It. Blogging since 1901; I love a casual ootd, taking photos, and writing about things that irk or inspire me. I love wine and cheese, long days at the beach and spending time with my family. I make stuff for the internet over at Chalkboard Digital. You know, living the sweet life.
I’m a loud person, big mouthed, unfiltered and LOUD. It is hard to sit quietly but I have to agree it is so rewarding. There is something about taking the time to melt into the background and quietly observing. Taking in your surroundings and analysing. There is also a power in being quiet and letting others do the talking and share their stories without putting forth your opinion too quickly.
Quiet is nice.
But it is oh so good to talk and be loud too.
Oh SO good to be loud too. It’s nice to have learnt to be quiet though. For me, all that noise was a method of distraction. To be quiet is one of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever learned.
Love it. Taking time as you’ve described is like letting your mind take a deep breath, the quiet fills you. Such a powerful thing to do and something I try and do whenever I can during the week. Some days when things seem relentless at home with the kids an no ones happy, I start eliminating the noise for everyone to gain control , calm and clarity, if the washing machine is whirring off it goes for a bit, the neighbours dog is barking I close the door, the TV gets turned off etc, etc. it’s amazing how in stressful times just walking around and turning off all the extra noises and whirs in our day to day life, so quickly gives us better capabilities dealing with all sorts of situations in life.
Thanks Trudie. It really is a mental deep breath. I do something VERY similar when things are banking up on me. And just quietly, how LOUD are washing machines. Mine is going now and it’s driving me bonkers.
Yes I agree and I love solitude. In the words of Gail McMeekin ~ “In order to be successful and capture our power of innovation, we have to be dedicated and take time to be alone with with our thoughts, away from the stress of our everyday lifes. So often, this is when the gold shows up!”
Yes! I love this quote. I’ve scribbled it in my notebook as a reminder.
I love doing that. Just sitting down quietly and observe the situation.
I once had a teacher tell me, that if you can remove yourself mentally from what is going on as you are doing something with a lot of people around for one second you can come back with a different and better mindset.
Something i try to do.
That is GREAT advice. Extraordinary advice in fact. Thank you for sharing.
Living in the moment,having wonder at each small thing instead of rushing ever forward to what?Children have it but we lose it as we get pulled into the adult world.silence is golden …hgzzz
Children do indeed have it. We as adults need to reclaim it. Silence is indeed golden.
Beautiful words….and I couldn’t agree more xx
Thank you Tatum.