There are a few thoughts that have been rolling around in my head. Prompting a sort of mid-blog crisis. Maybe it’s just better to say them out loud so here goes. I worried as someone who has witnessed, experienced, and beaten consumer and credit card debt by showing lots and lots of great things for people to buy that I was encouraging them to be irresponsible. After watching a documentary or two, I was concerned about the people who make my clothes. Where they are and how well they live. Then, and perhaps most selfishly, I worried about not adding anything of real value to the world because fashion is just one thing that no one really takes seriously.
I worried about and then over thought it all.
Everyone who asked how blogging was going lately got some version of a rundown on all those things. My girlfriends said I was overthinking things. Kel said that I should do what I love and forget the rest. My bloggy friends told me that I wasn’t responsible for the choices of others. And I know that all of that, I really do. And I am aware that I should trust the intelligence of my readers.
They were right. Sure this is a place for me to discuss what’s going on in my head, the clothes I love and places I’ve been and plan to go. But, I don’t need to censor that because you guys are smart. You’re smart and savvy and listening when I say credit cards never made anyone happy for long. You hear me when I say that life’s too short to hold grudges. Or not to wear exactly what you want when you want. and, if I stop for a moment and think about it, I knew this about you and I knew this about me too.
I had just gotten a little wobbly for a moment.
Or, a bit wobby, as my niece Arleigh would say.
It matters to me to think, process and reach a conclusion. It matters to me to exercise my brain and come to a solution/resolution that I’m happy with. I’m glad I got here and proud to have processed something that my mind had been fixated on for too long. In reaching this conclusion, I’d considered all sort of out there resolutions. But in the end, I’m going with the survival of the fittest (with the love, of course) approach. For you, for me and any ideas that I may have as we go along.
It’s a gift, this thinking business; it means all my basic needs are taken care of. I’ve made it past survival mode and I have brain space left for all sorts of next-level things. I can imagine, dream and ponder. What a blessing that is.
Now before I go, tell me, what’s on your mind right now?
Hi! I’m Melissa Walker Horn. Around here, they call me Suger. I’m the Chief Blogger and doer of all the things here at Suger Coat It. Blogging since 1901; I love a casual ootd, taking photos, and writing about things that irk or inspire me. I love wine and cheese, long days at the beach and spending time with my family. I make stuff for the internet over at Chalkboard Digital. You know, living the sweet life.
The fact that you do worry about – and WRITE ABOUT – these things is what makes your readers keep coming back Melissa. You can’t take to heart people doing idiotic things – like Ron White says, “You can’t fix stupid.”
Listen to your hubby – you’re doing what you love, and yes there may be criticism – but learning how to deal with it and have intelligent debate with each other is what being adults/good humans is about, I hope!
Thank you Sarah. Indeed you can’t fix stupid. And I think I will, he’s right of course, while I love it I’ll keep doing it and keep expressing what’s going on for me. I think it’s important to share all of it, debate where it’s needed and do my bit to alter views of people in whatever way I can. Thanks for your part in all of that. x
I’m struggling to blog because of worry too but my worry is a little different. My worry is over my current circumstances, not wanting to upset those in my life for sharing my thoughts and feelings and not wanting other people to look at me like I’m a bad taste because I’m not coping with how intense life has been. I’m confused and hating emotions and wishing they had an off switch. I’m angry at the lack of reaponsobility some prole take for their OWN actions. I’m upset with myself for not being able to make decisions purely based on logic. Sorry to brain dump.
I’m glad you had a spot where you could brain dump. I know what you mean about worrying about processing in your own blog space. Who will read it and whether you need to sensor it or not. You know my comments box is always open.
And for what it’s worth, I know you’re probably coping much better with whatever you are dealing with than you think you are. I’ll bet that it’s just you not seeing the forest for the trees. You, my friend, are strong with an amazing amount of courage and guts. Show ’em who’s boss.
Can you give me your blog link again? I forgot the exact name of your blog, lost my bookmarks with a new laptop and feel like I never see you any more. I’d like to come and visit. x
Aww gosh!
My blog is http://themummyautobiography.com
ha ha, I loooove my credit card. The balance payable is always zero. I like that.
I like that too. Nice one!
How sad I am. Have had a bad week with my 5mo and hubby hasn’t helped at all and chosen his work over us. I had a meltdown and called him and he declined it. Sent me a text message asking what was up. He’s ignored me since. It took me five hours to get my daughter to sleep tonight and if my sister hadn’t of answered my cal I don’t know what would’ve happened.
Oh hun. Spending you lots of love and support from afar. I hope things look up and that your husband’s work slows a little so he can offer you both more time. Hang tough lady. All the best. x
Thanks Melissa. It’s slowly getting better. Turns out bub was looking for her dad! He didn’t get home till 1am so he gave her last
Bottle and she went to sleep. It’s amazing what little babies notice!
You know I know, I know you know, the answer to these quandaries is do what you feel like doing. If you’re doing it with passion, authenticity of self and smarts everything else will come together. I fully believe amongst the questioning and quandary there are opportunities for expansion and answers to the matters you pointed out that concern you that you mentioned.
What’s on my mind right now……the concept of sleep and how the full moon sends this house into chaos with sleep problems for young and old.
Yeah real hard hitting on my mind stuff there.