Yahoo posted an article the other day with the link title, Carrie Underwood says she would quit her job if her husband told her to and the internet explodes. So I clicked on it. OF COURSE. There’s not much to clarify Carrie’s comment, even the author of the article says there’s probably more to the statement than it appears. But it got me thinking about life, love, gender roles and all that.
And yes, I’d give up my job if Hubby asked me to.
But he sure as heck would want to have a good reason. But if he did, I would. If he felt it was important enough, I would. Some things are worth giving up almost anything for. Love and a quality relationship have to be one of them, right? And I would expect him to do the same for me. Kel would; I know him. So that’s another reason why I would if he asked. The article’s writer asked something similar about Carrie’s husband, would he do the same for her?
Errr, you said he already switched teams to live in Nashville, where she is located; I think the answer is yes.
But you know what, I’m pretty sure my Hubby {or Carrie’s} wouldn’t ask. Because when we say job, I am talking about the thing I love, not the job that pays my bills, and I happen to be pretty good at it. I mean this blog. So that gives you some indication of how seriously I’m taking this. I love this blog, I adore my life online, but I’d give it up for him. For us, mostly.
I would worry about resentment, though, if I did. I don’t think I would give anything up unless I felt that I wouldn’t resent it. But wouldn’t I resent my job, my life online if it cost me my relationship too? I would. Absolutely. Much, much more than I could ever resent my green-eyed, generous, kind husband. Much, much more. It would cost him big time; in shoes probably. Haha.
What say you? Would you give up something you love for your partner?
Hi! I’m Melissa Walker Horn. Around here, they call me Suger. I’m the Chief Blogger and doer of all the things here at Suger Coat It. Blogging since 1901; I love a casual ootd, taking photos, and writing about things that irk or inspire me. I love wine and cheese, long days at the beach and spending time with my family. I make stuff for the internet over at Chalkboard Digital. You know, living the sweet life.
After knowing my now fiance for only 4 months I moved just over 1500km away from my family to go and live with him in crappy Port Hedland. We both hated it there and moved back a month later lol but we have been together ever since and I love him to bits. I would give up anything for him if there was a good reason.
Oooo! Gusty. I love it. I tend to agree, for a good enough reason I’d give up almost anything. Except my family {completely, not like you did} and my self.
I’d happily give up my job and he wouldn’t even need to ask!! I hate working, I have absolutely NO career aspirations, no desire to climb any higher in my job than I currently am and if we were in a better financial position, I’d quit tomorrow and I’d have his blessing. He would prefer me not to work but in order to live the life we enjoy, I need to work, albeit part time but work. I’m lucky in that I only work 4 days a week and really they’re only half days, so it’s not too bad.
That being said, when we were making plans to move, to downsize and simplify, I was willing and wanting to work full time, so that he could take on a part time role, one with zero responsibility [NOT a management role, which he has now], that would allow him to go in, do his work, come home and leave work at work. I was willing to do that FOR him because I want him to be healthy and happy.
“I don’t think I would give anything up unless I felt that I wouldn’t resent it.”
On what you wrote here….I’ve given up on motherhood because the only real option left for us is fostering and Guv won’t even consider it. Do I resent it? Yeah a little bit but I also know I’m extremely lucky to have a man who loves me completely and utterly and that I’m extremely lucky to have found him when I was only 20!
I love this comment. It’s everything that goes through our heads. I’ve give up my part time and go full time {thus probably sacrificing this blog} if he needed to take time. I have in the past. I know what you mean about resentment too. I think it being there for a while is normal, as long as it’s getting smaller not bigger.
Thanks for adding to this conversation so beautifully Rach. xo
A hard one to answer without being lengthy in my response. I guess before giving up, there would be compromise if the situation allowed for one.
Really hard, right? I kept coming up with yeah buts with every point I had. Haha. Absolutely as a last resort after all the options had failed. For sure!
I would give it up IF my husband had a good reason because like you I’d rather lose the job or whatever it was over losing my husband. But then he’d have to give in and buy the house I want that isn’t so much his cup of tea.
IF there was a good reason indeed. I think that’s important. It just can’t be something like because I said so… Haha.
A tough question for sure. BUT I am with you, if my husband & friend, asked me to quit my job (the job I LOVE) if I knew that he had given it great consideration and that there was a valid and real reason behind it, I WOULD, without a doubt, its not even a question really. And do you want to you what Suger? I think I am lucky that this is how I feel, because it means that right now (even after nearly 18 years of marriage) that I have been blessed to find the ONE! I know its corny, I know its sappy, BUT HEY, I don’t care!!!! At the end of the day if for the rest of my life I could only see one person, I would choose him 🙂
Love it! Soppy to the max but all kinds of wonderful. Who would’ve guessed we were such romantics. 😉