Those that read this blog often enough will know one of my favourite quotes OF ALL TIME is the one that goes a little like, stand for something or you’ll fall for anything. I keep this in mind whenever I am feeling a little pushed and pulled in all directions. It helps to know who you are and what you stand for. But working that out, well it takes something too.
My Dad prides himself on raising children who know who they are. I am proud of him for this too. I always knew what I would and wouldn’t do. Who I was and where I thought I was going. I was determined, stubborn in a lot of ways but always willing to listen to someone else’s opinion and point of view.
It kept me out of a lot of trouble.
Lots of trouble. Haha.
I remember going to a sleep over once, I knew the kids were planning to sneak out and go swimming in a dam on the property. I was young enough, but there were older kids there too. I knew I didn’t want to swim in a dam at night. I knew it was dangerous and silly. I knew it was something I didn’t want to be a part of. So I called my parents and went home. Boy did I cop flack for that. I was chicken. A sook.
But I knew that what they were doing, I didn’t want to be a part of it. So I wasn’t. There’s a confidence in that. An ingrained knowing yourself, I think, something that I can only thank my parents for. It feels like it has always been there. Sure it wavered here and there as a teen and young adult, but never to the point where I compromised who I was. Not for long anyway.
I put it down to pleasing myself above others. Being able to do that because you know what will make you happy, where your limits are and ultimately on a fundamental basis who you are. As a grownup I nutted these things out for myself; what principals guide my life, what I believe in and who I want to be.
Here they are; I am generous, I am kind and I am determined. I hope to never be cruel, closed minded or wasteful. I practice patience, wisdom and enlightenment. I stand for family, generosity, kindness and open minds. These are the principals I live my life by. It’s who I am. That’s me. What I’m made up of. If what you want me to do doesn’t fit with that, I won’t do it. I stand for that and fall for nothing.
Who are you?