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I’ve never really had many friends. Sometimes it felt like I didn’t have any. It’s something that plays on your mind, I think, the why don’t I have more friends? Maybe I was a bad friend, lost touch or maybe they unearth my badly hidden secret that I’m a total goof ball… But let’s face it, that secret was totally out.

If you get really real about it, it rips your heart out. Not to have anyone to turn to, anyone close by, when things are hard. To sip a wine with. To shoot the breeze. That’s hard work. You really feel like you are out on your own in the world. No amount of family love and support makes up for that. I should know, I have a biiiiiiiig family.

Then I decided to host a blogger meet up. And hey presto I had friends. Friends who jumped from the internet pages. Friends who sent gifts and checked in on my like the best of friends do. They might not have been in my backyard {some where!} but they had my back. Thanks to them I stepped out of my comfort zone more and more. I introduced myself to and hung out with new people. I made some friends.

What a relief. I mean really. What a relief. To be able to laugh with someone. Cry. Whinge. Celebrate. All of that.

Thanks ladies. You know who you are. xo

  • Leanne Shea Langdown

    Ahhh. That’s so sweet! I am glad you have your own posse now.  You seem so cool and lovely and  being a goof ball is a good thing! From where I sit you deserve to have a friendship army …

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Naaaaw, thanks for saying that. I’m lucky AND I just did what I needed to do. Even when it was mad {like drive to Brisbane for lunch on a workday – Haha}

  • CassandraHodges

    Shit…. I just realised that I need some of those friends… I think I’ve been consumed by being a Mum of a bub lately.  Before Bub, I was working… so my work friends are still busy working.  For someone with 350 fb friends I’m pretty bloody lonely.  You are so right you know… I miss having friends like that (I don have them, but they live on the other side of the country now).  Perhaps I need to stop procrastinating and join the local play group.

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      For sure! Go you. I’ve never been in a play group, but I hear good things. As long as you find one that suits YOU. Good luck.

  • My Vintage Vow

    I haven’t been in your back yard.
    But this is what I know and I hope you do too.
    You know I love ya? I’m in your corner, I want the best for you and most of all I consider you my friend.
    Blogger meet ups are sometimes hard to acost someone and nail them down for a good ole chin wag. But I always look forward to seeing you.
    You know when you’re down my way…..we have an open door policy here, and I’d always love for you drop in. X

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thank you Trudie. You’re so wonderful. I count you as one of my friends, for sure. Even if our catch ups are en mass. 😉

  • I’ve been in the no friends boat for many years. Way back in my school days I had tons of friends, in adulthood not so much, and it’s to the point now where I don’t really even have any friends that are not just online friends. Fortunately my husband is my best friend and even after 20 years I would take hanging out with him over anything else anyway. But as a woman sometimes it gets depressing not having someone for girl talk, shopping or going out for coffee with, I’ve never had much of that. I’ve also been used and treated like crap by so many “friends” and family that I’m extremely guarded with who I let into my life. I apparently have “walk all over me” written somewhere LOL. 

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thank sucks. Your hubby sounds nice, mine is too. But it’s still hard. Sorry to hear someone has taken advantage of your lovely nature. That’s the worst of it. 🙁

  • Sarah

    Friends on the internet count, right? I’m similar to Jolene in that I am so thankful for the internet and the social relief it brings, yet wish I had more people who aren’t my husband close by.

    I’m very thankful for the ones I do have though. I met them on the internet:)

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Absolutely. Because I can only catch up now and then, I keep up with most of my friends via various social media. I hear you. Sometimes you just want someone to go for a walk with… Someone that is not your hubby. Someone.

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Absolutely. Because I can only catch up now and then, I keep up with most of my friends via various social media. I hear you. Sometimes you just want someone to go for a walk with… Someone that is not your hubby. Someone.

  • I tend to just have a few friends rather than zillions that I’ve collected from stages of my life. I have casual friends I’ve met through work, and old school friends I keep in touch with, but three close friends I met in my Uni / post Uni days (20+ years ago).

    I think it’s hard as you get older, as they’re in different stages of their life now (partners, kids etc). So I also rely on those I’ve met through blogging and twitter for support and advice!

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      A diverse bunch, for sure. I love the friends you’ve had forever. They just are so comfortable. So easy.

  • Aaaah, friends. About seven years after I moved to Brisbane I can finally say I have as many friends as I need here. After years of feeling a little lonely, it’s a lovely feeling. Everytime my husband and I talk about a possible tree-change down the track, I have to weigh it up… Would the lifestyle improvements be worth the loss of our community? I’m glad you’ve found some good mates through blogging 🙂

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      It’s such a balancing act. Building a community takes time, but trees are SO lovely. 😉

  • Danielle Andreoli

    Love ya guts!

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      You too. xox

  • Jacqui (CRAP Mamma)

    Aww now I have Donkey singing that song to Shrek in my head lol.

    I hear ya sista! I can call so many wonderful people my friend since having joined the blogosphere. You’re one of them hun xx

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Ha. Sorry about that. But welcome to my world. my head is a constant soundtrack of random songs.

      Thank you. Right back at you. 🙂