You thought it was just about you, didn’t you? You thought that the relationship you are having with your body is private and no one else cares. Didn’t you? Well, it’s not true. Your body shame impacts us all. And we kindly request that you stop body shaming yourself. Like now. If not for you, for us. I hope that you’ll do it for you but start with doing it for us.
For the mothers and their daughters, the aunts, nieces, cousins, the sisters and the friends. The lady you bumped into in the shops that one time. For the women who listen to you criticising your body because of an ideal that never existed in a real human anyway. Stop now because you do it so often that they question their own beauty. For all those times, we were brave enough to tell you that you are beautiful, strong and gorgeous just the way you are and you called us liars.
We don’t care if you have stretch marks from carrying a baby, from carrying extra weight, or for hitting 6 foot by your 12th birthday. We don’t care if you just got fat, thin or muscle on muscles. Your body deserves your respect and your admiration for the way it carries you every single day and sustains you. Literally. Without it, you’re a head in a jar like on Futurama (I’m pretty sure that science isn’t actually there yet so you’re in trouble).
We deserve better than you perpetuating a myth about beauty being the sole purpose of your body. Who said that you need to be beautiful, the ideal, perfect, to be free from shame? You said anything but perfection is a life sentence of hatred towards yourself? Well, they lied. Beauty may be found in the symmetry of a perfect face or perfectly positioned boobs, but it can also be found in the silvery lines of stretch marks and the crooked nose that dominates the face. It can be found in any old place you look if you stop being blind to what is out there. Shame makes you blind. My guess is you only see imperfection in others too. Faults to be fixed?
We really wish you’d stop doing that.
Most of all do it because you have nothing to be ashamed of. You should stop shaming your body because every time you do you reinforce for everyone out there that your body contains shame. And I’m here to tell you it needn’t. Here to say that it doesn’t matter how you carry your body at what size, shape or state of perfection, how you dress it or what you choose to do with it you have nothing to be ashamed of. No matter what. There is no but coming.
You. Have. NOTHING. To. Be. Ashamed. Of.
Nothing; so kindly stop doing that.
Images are taken from Rugged Grace Tumblr.
Read more about the Rugby team that created these images and the powerful message they are sending about body love at the link above.
Chief Blogger at Suger Coat It; An Australian lifestyle blog for women who work for themselves. Melissa is a social media consultant & lover of stripes. Most weekends you’ll find her at the beach or home on the veranda kicking back. Around here, they call her Suger. Feel free to do the same.