I want it all

Oh, so you’re buys huh? Reeeeeally busy. I hear you. I worry when I hear people put busy before life. I worry for me when I make excuses for not keeping up with my commitments because I’m busy. Busy is one of those vague ideas of something. It really doesn’t exist. Busy is a lie, basically. You can have a lot on. Absolutely. I’m sure there are plenty of you reading this right now saying Suger’s lost her MIND, of course busy is a thing.

There’s that meme that goes around online saying that Beyonce has the same amount of hours in a day that you do… It’s a make the most of every minute, go get ’em, be inspired type thing. But time after time I see people write pffft, lend me your personal trainer, cook and nanny and I’d be a superstar too. Sorry to report, I think you missed the point.

Sure Beyoncé is a successful music mogul, mother, wife etc etc NOW but she wasn’t always. People who have aides and assistants etc. have usually put in the hard yards somewhere along the track using the same amount of hours in the day. Now I hate to sound like the ‘What’s YOUR Excuse’ Mom pitting women {and men} against each other. That’s not my style at all. I want you to run your race, do what makes you happy, using the time you have available to you NOW.

And to start that you need to stop glorifying busy. Making excuses. All that. If something is important to you, you need to make time. If that’s by saying no more often, by setting priorities and tackling the most important first, whatever it is. By responding with an immediate, no consideration, I’m busy you are shutting your mind off to working out any way to make it happen.

Instead I set some guidelines for myself. I decide what my sticking points are and so should you.

I’m writing for 15 minutes a day. 

I make it to the gym or pool 4 times a week. 

I’ve committed to cooking more dinner in than we eat out.

I make myself available for those I love whenever I can, to the best of my ability.

And if what I really want to say is no, sorry I can’t make it work, I say that. No excuses.

So if you take one piece of advice from me this year {it’s a little late in the game for taking your FIRST piece, but I’m willing to let that SLIDE} then do this, decide what’s important to you and what you will not compromise on. Now go about organising your life so these things fit. Give up being busy as an excuse. Let it go and see just how much life you can cram in there.

And if all else fails, get rid of your TV. Those things are a time suck. 😉