Sometimes you come across a person who pushes your buttons and makes you reconsider your position on murdering people {I’m anti-murdering people generally, FYI}. This person pushing your buttons, ruffles your feathers, fires you up, makes you want to scream. And maybe I want to. Maybe I think that the best way to get through to them is to do that. Treat like with like. Match them with rudeness. Match them with temper and unreasonable shouted demands.

I think they call it, getting on their level.

Except that their level isn’t somewhere that you want to be. Their level is a place that makes you unhappy with yourself. It costs you the your word in the matter of who you are. You see, for people, I like to contribute joy, openness and love. They can count on me for that. They can walk up to me on the street, call me on the phone or knock on my front door and count on me to BE that.

But not on THEIR level.

Their level costs me all my joy.
And costs me all my love.
And costs me all my openness.
And costs me ALL I have to contribute.
And it’s not a cost I am willing to pay.
Not any more.

I’ve remembered who I am. I remember what I am committed to being. And your level, is not it. It will never be it. And so your anger, your demands, your harsh words, they go past me. Who I am is who I say I am. Who you can count on me to be and I won’t be you. From me you’ll only get contribution, joy, openness and love.

And maybe a kick in the junk.

  • Oh I love this post!! Thank you xx 

  • It is really good that you have stepped back  and taken an objective look Mel, because in the end it is a decision that is made on how we are going to respond, and this in itself can make a huge impact on whether the situation continues to be an unpleasant one, or just fades away.
    Sorry to be so deep on a Friday, but you started it!! 😛

    • I cannot comment other than in reply, but as I say to my boys: “You cannot control the actions of another, merely your own actions and reactions!” xx

    • Thanks Tony. I have to keep reminding myself who I AM. That’s what matters in this situation. And all that matters. xo

  • You are a freaking legend that’s what you are x

  • abearmadethis

    very well said. I agree it’s more important to stick to your own standards than to allow them to drag you down to theirs. also thanks for your lovely comment on my blog xx

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