Being kind to yourself

Being kind to yourself

This was a conversation that I started on Instagram yesterday. It needed to be continued, so here we are. I’ve been watching a lot of YouTube lately; tutorials, workshops and loads and loads of LadyLike (by Buzzfeed). Inspired by the people there and their willingness to give it a go, I thought I’d grab some video while snapping an outfit photo in my office… Well well well. Wasn’t that interesting. You see you can fake defined jaws and chiselled features in a photo but there’s no tricking a video camera. Not from that angle anyway. There’s certainly no hiding when you start talking or moving around. It freaked me out, to be honest. Why? Firstly, I knew I’d put on…

15 women, 1 dude and me; what body confidence means to us

15 women, 1 dude and me; what body confidence means to us

It’s been a big week so far for the Confident You Body Confidence challengers. Wow. We’ve talked about everything from our insecurities and body shaming to celebrating our body wins and those people who love us no matter what. To say I’m proud of where we are as we enter the home stretch is an understatement. As part of the challenge, I sent out a crazy number of requests for body confidence related quote, thoughts, and tips. The people you see below are those that responded (I could have done better representation-wise, I will spread the net wider again next time) and became our daily poster child. It’s funny how with a pre-planned idea of daily emails, that these quotes all…

Starting the conversation for body confidence.

Starting the conversation for body confidence.

I want you to hear me out on something. Your body, how you feel about it, all of that stuff just as it is right now, is FINE. Perfectly, imperfectly fine. You don’t have to wait to weigh less or be fitter, to be well or anyone’s version of healthy to start. You have to start now. Now is the only time that matters when it comes to taking back control of your body and loving it. Meagan Kerr | www.thisismeagankerr.com Think about it, are you going to wait to be shorter to start? Until your skin is a different colour or your hips are suddenly not as wide-set? Impossible. Literally impossible. So instead, consider this. We all know the…

How the Confident You Body Confidence Challenge will work.

How the Confident You Body Confidence Challenge will work.

We are only days away from kicking off the 2016 Confident You Body Confidence challenge. Holy heck. Time flies when you’re having fun and writing your butt off on a new challenge. Haha. I wanted to make it clear how the challenge will work. A frequently asked questions, of sorts! So, let’s do this. Erika | The Queen of Confidence Email Subscribers. You guys will receive daily challenge emails delivered to their inbox. This is where the magic happens. I’m asking the over 200 people subscribed to the emails to really dig deep, to tackle the challenge day by day and see what results show up for them. There is a Facebook Group to support this, click over here to join…

Confident You: Body Confidence Challenge

Confident You: Body Confidence Challenge

Ladies, brace yourself. Confident You is back for the second time in 2016 with a TWO WEEK body confidence challenge. Starting 1st December this short and sweet challenge will see you question, and in a lot of cases break through, the ideas you have about your body, how it should look and who has a say in what you do with it. It’s about confidence and being at home in the body you have NOW. The one that has loved and supported you through all the challenges life has thrown at you. The one that, to date, has never quit on you. It’s about saying to yourself once and for all, I AM GOOD ENOUGH. Because you are!  PLUS, we…

No Chill: A how-to guide

No Chill: A how-to guide

I used to think I was pretty cool. Describe yourself they would say and I would refer to that one time I was called aloof and intimidating. Let’s not even talk about the guy that called me belligerent, which is my favourite thing ever. But I was wrong. I am not now and never have been cool; ask my siblings. It turns out I am an overly excitable mess of feelings and emotions. I have no chill. And what does that means? Well, if I like you, you’ll know. And boy-oh-boy, if I love you expect to hear all about it every time we talk because I’m all about expressing myself. So down with no chill! This is my no chill guide. Why?  I like being…

I don’t want to…

I don’t want to…

I don’t want to laugh at a joke when it’s not funny to placate you. It doesn’t matter to me that you find that offensive. I’m okay with a little offence, are you? Can you be with that just a little while? It concerns me that you, and not just you I’m generalising, find it so hard to sit with an offence that people die. That seems extreme right? But let me tell you, I’m not joking. I don’t want to assess every photo I post wondering if it will bring me unwanted attention and advances. That’s my job, right? To protect me from you in the best way I can. I don’t want to. But you say I have…

What IS the moral of the story here?

What IS the moral of the story here?

Being a woman is a tough gig. We were talking on the weekend about how the expectations placed on us are different; especially when it comes to being women, mothers, daughters, lovers, friends. These conversations between women, assuring those amongst us feeling the weight of that pressure, are essential. Because if we don’t call bullshit on this stuff, no one will. What was the moral of that story, I wondered. Why had I endured the length of that story with gazed eyes and a bored, half asleep expression? What IS the moral of this story? That mothers can’t leave their children but fathers can. That women can’t talk to married men but if he started it, then that’s ok. That…

Confident You returns for 2016!

Confident You returns for 2016!

It was the first of November 2012 when the original Confident You challenge launched. I’d settled into blogging and I was receiving emails from people who read the blog. They wanted to know about my confidence. Where it came from, how I maintain it and what it took to create living it every day. So I created the challenge. 28 days because it was long enough to form a habit. Long enough to make changes in your life and see genuine results. And people did. My inbox overflowed, the photos came in (and really, Instagram was still pretty new) and we took steps every day to make the change. It wasn’t about you walking out of the challenge with my…