For me. This makes perfect sense. It CALLS to me. But then, in a lot of ways my Dad reminds me of one of these guys. Smart, underrated by some, successful, generous and wise. I’m not going to bag out my generation. There’s good and bad in all of us. I’m not going to say that we all need this reminder or that we need it at least when raising our kids. I’m just saying, hey, it works for me. Gets me excited about, well, just stuff!

What about you?

Agree or disagree with the points made? And yes, clearly it’s from the nineties, don’t you think? VERY nineties references.

  • I’m going to sound frightfully old here.

    Those rules are common sense which one (hopefully) picks up as one grows up.
    When I was growing up these things weren’t really an issue, so it must be a generational thing.
    And I don’t want to bash the generation this is aimed at either, well not all of them because it really isn’t their fault.

    It’s a societal thing. Somehow at some stage it became bad to be real. Everything had to be nice. No one lost a race, teachers couldn’t drag you out of class by your ear, exams are open book – everyone suddenly walked and still walks on tiptoes around the growing generation lest they fuck up and get in trouble.

    In my books, fucking up IS real. Reality doesn’t have to be depressing or threatening. It is what it is. Why hide it from the young’uns and then have them I’ll prepared with unrealistic expectations.
    It makes for interesting family conversations.

    Anyway, in case my waffling didn’t make it obvious. I agree with you. To me they make a lot of sense.
    I look at my 18yr old Spawn who “isn’t interested in work right now” (what????) who was outraged that an employer expected him to sweep the floor.

    • Thank you so much for the contribution to the conversation. A great addition. I LOVE the line about the bad to be real thing. LOVE.

      Go kick that 18 year old’s butt! 😛

  • My iPhone moved a few sentences out of order at the end. Pretend it’s a game and fit together how you think it should read 🙂

  • Yes, yes, yes! So wise and so true.

  • Love it! Thank God is sounds remarkably similar to what my parents ( my dad especially ) taught me growing up. The world doesnt owe you a damn thing, but you do owe yourself – arent just given to you but when you find them you should take them. If you dont, or you dont make the most of them, its no-ones fault but your own. So take a cup of cement and HARDEN UP!

    • You and I were very lucky. Our parents sound similar. The world doesn’t owe you a thing is something my Dad says all the time. It’s more like, what do I owe the world?

  • Sheri Bomb

    I totally agree, but I absolutely hate all the generation bashing that surrounds these types of topics.

    There’s no doubt that some of the smart-mouthed, disrespectful, self-entitled younger generations piss me off majorly at times BUT there are older people who can be like that too.

    I also think that as infuriating as their attitudes and theories can be, they did not just one day decide to be punks. Their parents, their school, the media and society have all contributed to them slowly developing this attitude.

    I almost pity them, because they are at the end of so much angst and hate by older generations but it’s not really their fault. They had to learn it from somewhere. It’s not something they just made up.

    And of course, as is the case with anything, there are plenty of exceptions to the rule. But in general, parents, schools, the media and the bleeding hearts and “do gooders” of society have wrapped these kids up in cotton wool to the point where they have no idea about the real world.

    I understand as parents you want the best for your children, you want them to be happy and having learned the harsh lessons of life and failure yourselves you know how hard it is and how much it can hurt sometimes. And you want to protect them from that. I get that.

    BUT THE REAL WORLD ISN’T LIKE THAT. And by trying to “protect” them you are really only setting them up for worse failure and hurt later in life. I guess the way I see it, just as you would encourage your children to try new foods and tastes, they should also be exposed to life lessons such as the value of money, hard work and that not everyone can win all the time. Of course at an appropriate age and in an appropriate setting.

    But if your kid came last in the race? No they should not get a trophy. You give them a pat on the back, say good try mate at least you tried and finished what you set out to achieve. Maybe if you really want to win we can go for a run around the park each week and you can practice so you’re faster for next time. COS THAT’S WHAT HAPPENS IN THE REAL WORLD.

    Sorry for the rant 😛

    • yep….what she said! 🙂

    • Teaching my kids about life, without cynicism or cotton wool is my intention. Feet grounded firmly on the floor. And with friends like you in my life, I’m sure you’ll be there to remind me if I forget.

      A contribution to this blog once again, dear Sheri Bomb. Thanks for sharing.

  • I’m with you – real life is not like school. When I was teaching high school, my students didn’t like it when I told them that!

    PS My husband thinks I may have forgotten that I’m not supposed to spend so much time in coffee shops, and not go to work. I’m claiming its a stage of life thing ;o)

    • Ohhh! You would’ve been THE BEST teacher. Sorry I missed that. Oh, and my Hubby too. Coffees and iPads don’t count apparently. Haha.

  • Agree.
    Life isn’t like school, life isn’t like tv, life isn’t like Friends, life isn’t easy…….but I personally wouldn’t have it any other way, LIFE is what YOU make it.

    • It’s not like FRIENDS! Darn it. I was relying on that happening. 😉

  • I agree with all of those points, but especially #8.
    If they learn in school that there are no winners and no losers, the real world with real jobs and bosses who expect more from you, is going to be an enormous shock. So many kids are being set up for major disappointments and loss of self esteem.
    I’m so proud of my two eldest grandchildren, they’re 16 and 18 and have both had weekend and holiday jobs since they were 15.

    • It’s so true. My parents equipped me well. I walked out of school and was prepared for life. I held to my principals and was not easily swayed. So many of my peers still had that to discover leaving school. And they did it with varying consequences.

      Congratulations to your children and grandchildren.