Body image and respect for your body doesn’t appear to come easily to humans. Large or small. Tall or short. I’m not sure I have met a person who could say to me that they have treated their body with the reverence and care it deserves for every day of their lives. There’s a pretty large blame game going on out there about whose fault this is, who started it and who’s going to finish it.

I’m going to finish it.

I just decided right now. I’m going to start with me. I will be respectful and kind. I will treat it with the care and concern I haven’t done for my entire life. That’s for sure. A cycle of dis-ordered eating has left my body ravaged with the scars of demons past. Too little. Too much. Always looking for something that was outside of myself, hurting the most precious gift I have. It’s something I regret. Almost daily as I wind back the clock.

Perhaps you’re in the same boat?

Your issue might be big or small. It may be that you cannot outwardly see the scars of disrespect. For you, it’s hidden. It’s a battle waged inside, more privately than the one I’ve faced. Publicly. I see it everywhere, in conversations with all women. An underlying dissatisfaction. An unrest. The biggest battles I’ve faced is within myself. Harsh words, unkind thoughts, crime and punishment.

And I’m going to finish it.

I think I start by being kind and reverent, whatever my body’s current state. 

  • Lipgloss Mumma

    It all starts with that voice in our heads. Changing the dialogue is the hardest part. Fantastic post and one all women should read x

    • And Men

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thank you. That little voice has a lot to answer for. For sure.

  • Nice post Melissa – finding comfort starts by honouring yourself 

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thank you Liz. Absolutely it does.

  • Suger, I really relate to this blog post… I write (endlessly) in my diet blog about self-image and confidence etc and am a LONG WAY from where I need to be. 


  • Melissa Walker Horn

    Thanks. It’s an internal battle and like any stuggle, a bit of kindness goes a long way.

  • I’ve done wrong by my body too. I’ve stuffed it full of all sorts of things it doesn’t need. It isn’t the voice in my head that worries me though, thta voice is quite sensible, saying things like “you don’t need that”. No, my problem is my mouth, it just loves to taste and chew. Spot a cheesecake? My mouth is right there saying gimme, gimme. Devilled chicken wings? Gimme. Mashed potatoes? Gimme. I really should gag the traitor.

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Haha. Love this River. 🙂