Sometimes I like to take a moment and remember why I blog. For what reason. To what end. Why? I ponder the opportunities that have been presented to me. The brand events, the conferences, the lunches. The friends, the amazing jaw dropping stuff, the trolls. Every now and again I think you have to sit back, take stock and be grateful. It wasn’t that long ago that my little blog had its first ever follower. It’s first 100 page views. It’s first event invitation. I’ll always be grateful for those firsts.

Lately I’ve been trying to figure out where to from here. I’m loving the fashion posts. I miss randomly rambling sometimes but they never seem to come when they are called upon. I love to write. I love to shop. I love to share my weight loss and fitness journey with you guys. The funny part is I’d imagined something else entirely for this space, for me, by now. I think it had something to do with world domination or something. But it has faded a little for me.

I’m not sure I want to pay the price required. I’m not sure I want this place to be somewhere for haters to live. That appears to be the trade-off. I love the audience I have. I’m not keen on throwing open the doors to a bunch of people who just don’t get what it’s about. Or get me. Or who aren’t as generous with me as you guys are. No matter how cool world domination would be. And we all know, it would be pretty darn cool.

So I think about why I blog and for me it comes down to this. I blog to express myself in whatever means that comes. It used to be collages and quotes. Then it became musings and stories. And lately it’s been fashion and a life explored. I like to be able to explore my life, to question my thoughts, ideas and experiences. To process and to plan. My blog is my place to do that. Come what may. The experiences are a means to do that. So is the content. It’s completely about me and life, doing its thing. And that’s my why.

What’s your why?


  • Hi Melissa. What a beautiful post. It’s great for the mind, heart and soul to reflect like you have. As a new blogger I was so frightened to put myself out there and be up for judgement. So many things going through my mind – do I write well enough? am I interesting enough? am I fashionable enough? It’s taken 29 years to go against the voice in my head that has been pulling me back. I haven’t looked back; and it sounds like you haven’t either. Well done. Thank you for having the courage to put yourself out there. Forget about the haters. It’s not hard to criticise and pick people apart – anyone can hide behind social media and the internet as a faceless and often nameless person. On the other hand it takes major talent and guts to write from the heart and put yourself out there like you have. It’s something to celebrate x

    • Thank you Rose. Thank you very much. We’re the same age and there is something that happens in these final years of our twenties, I think {or it has been my experience} that just sees you being comfortable with who you are, more so than ever before. Do you feel that? Good luck with your blogging journey. Be yourself, I think. That’s the only thing to do.

  • Amy Rea

    I have been thinking a lot about why I blog lately. I am happy where I am at the moment. I was trying to link up to every meme/linky and trying to comment on loads of blogs plus all the social media that goes with it and it just wore me down. My house and family suffered and really they have to come first and blogging after everything else.
    I have a happy medium now, but I often feel like I am missing some of the connection of made on twitter when chatting every night… I now blog when I have the time, I am not blogging for world domination, I am blogging for fun, it isn’t about page views, it’s about me expressing myself in my part of the interwebs.

    I am loving where your blog is going at the moment, but then I like your ramblings too. Hell, I’ll happy take whatever your offer up to us. xx

    • Thank you Amy. Well, would you believe I just scheduled a ramblings post for the morning. Turns out they were till in there somewhere. Just hidden. Or bored maybe. Haha.

      I love that your why is expressing yourself too. And the rest, you can take it or leave it and it really doesn’t make much of a difference when it comes down to it. I used to think social media was the be all and end all for my blog, it turns out being myself is the be all and end all. The rest is promotion. Enjoy your life. You’re not missing a thing. xox

  • Mumabulous

    World domination or not, by blogging standards you are very, very successful. You should be proud of what you have achieved. Your writing style is so natural and accessible. I cant imagine why anyone would “hate” you.
    No matter what your reasons, cheers to you and your continued success! 😉
    PS: You can send your trolls my way – I wont feel like I’ve made it as a blogger until I’ve been trolled.

    • Thank you VERY much. I really love when you visit, you’re always very kind to me. But a word of caution… Be careful what you wish for, the trolls are what they are. And they’re no fun, no matter how thick your skin. I wouldn’t wish them on anyone.

  • I think you are so good at this stuff because how you blog is how you are, In real life you are just as awesome as how you are on paper and on paper you are just as awesome as you are in real life, that honesty and genuine attitude shine through and are a very pleasant experience in this world for your readers

    • Tony, thank you. That’s too kind. Seriously. I’m proud to have you say that. You know? I’ve always tried really hard to just show myself here. To be myself. To hear this made me all kinds of happy. Thank you. xo

  • bodyandfeetretreat

    I blog as a reason to document just what I have been up to – often it is so that I feel accountable in a forum where there is no judgement only encouragement.
    I think all blogs evolve and so long as you are true to yourself, it doesn’t matter what direction you take it.
    Have a great day !

    • Thank you. It certainly is an evolution. A process and I agree, if I’m true to myself then it is all I have to offer here. And that will be enough for me.

      And I did have a great day, thanks!

  • I think that you are just fabulous and that whatever you’re doing is working because it’s coming from the heart, you’re evolving your blog as you evolve instead of trying to keep it as a concrete space and I think that’s the key.

    • Well thank you muchly Miss Pink. I love this. A concrete space just wouldn’t work now, would it. Thanks for the reminder.