I was watching the final season of Sex and the City last weekend and we were at Charlotte’s second wedding {to Harry} and she’s freaking out because nothing is going right and she thinks it’s a bad sign. Carrie catches up with her in the bathroom and tells her to eye her eyes to the wonderful that is happening around her. To stop looking perfection and start looking at how great everything is. It go me thinking, too often we focus on perfect and forget to live.

Your hair won’t always be perfect {see above. Ha}.

The sun won’t always shine.

Your partner, or kids, or friends won’t always be who you want them to be.

Your clothes won’t always be cool.

Your keys won’t always be where you left them.

You will probably spill stuff on yourself.

Sometimes you might even trip and fall.

Your day certainly will never go to plan.

Sometimes life will do what it wants and to hell with you.

So take a deep breath, forget needing everything to be just the way y0u want it to be. The way you think it NEEDS to be, because surprisingly life will go on without your knuckles being white from holding on so tight to the control reins. You’ll be happier. I promise. So practice it today, you don’t own the world, let it goooooo.

And smile, because the planet keeps spinning.

  • My Vintage Vow

    Sage advice, advice I’ve given to many a friend who has been trying to push through life at breakneck speed trying to have or get it all, but complaining about it. Life really is lived more harmoniously when you accept where you’re at, dream of where you want to be and you let your energy and the universes energies deliver you where you need to be right now.

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thanks Trudie. I agree completely.

  • Kirsty

    At nearly 40 years of age, I am finally starting to come to the realisation that not everything needs to be perfect and that life just keeps getting better and better when I just let go, sit back and enjoy the ride. 

    Thanks for the reminder 🙂

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      You’re welcome. I’m glad to hear it. Life getting better and better is a fab thing. 🙂

  • Deborah Cook

    I need to try this today because I’m suffering from a crisis of confidence (of sorts) for a range of reasons. 

    Plus I’m one of those people who’s spent their life ‘waiting’ for everything to be perfect before I start actually living – half of it’s gone already!


    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Great! Take it and run with it. Because I guarantee there is no perfect time for anything.

  • Elisa {with grace & eve}

    Love everything about this post! Maybe a little because I’m forever spilling things on myself? Haha x

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thanks! Haha. Me too. Big boobs is my excuse, catches so much. 😉

  • Sarah

    Perfectionism is such a imperfect flaw! It’s much easier to find a way for things just to be as ‘acceptable’ as they can.

    I’ve always got a stain on my top, the worst hair ever and a perpetual mess. That will probably never change!

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      I’ve always thought perfectionism is an excuse not to get stuff done. Seriously. What are you waiting for? So I agree, acceptable is more than enough compared to nothing.

      Haha. You and me both!

  • Serialstyler

    I am slowly learning that if everything is going a little too well for too long, don’t get too comfortable. I don’t mean that in a pesamistic way but in a realist way. Life is too short to only enjoy the ‘perfect’ parts, you have to embrace the good, the bad & the ugly. It was only when my hubby had a pretty bad accident that I realised the universe has plans less than perfect & no one can get in the universes way!

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      I think you should absolutely enough in whatever form there is. Good, bad, ugly, there is always something to be savoured or experienced.

  • Such wonderful, simple advice.  x

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thanks Danielle. And thanks for sharing. xo

  • Stellar advice, now is all we’ve got, don’t waste it by thinking ‘what if?’ It’s always good to get a reminder. x

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Thank you. 🙂

  • No, no, this is wrong. Well, some of it is wrong.
    I have days that go to plan often enough to be noticeable, and more importantly, my keys *are* always where I left them. Always.
    I’ve never watched Sex and the City.

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      Ha. Gosh River, too literal. Waaaaay too literal. 😉 

  • BBeingCool

    Okay… have you been in my loungeroom tonight? Are you behind the couch?

    This is so where we are at at the moment…. 

    Thanks for linking in with #teamfriday. Love it!

    • Melissa Walker Horn

      I absolutely was. I’m a crazy stalker like that. Haha. Glad it spoke to you. Happy to have made the link up for once. 😉 

  • Me

    Thank you for reminding me that it is OK to let go – that is just what I needed to hear today !!!
    Have a great Friday.
    Love, hugs and positive energy.

  • My keys are usually exactly where I left them. Like the outside of the door, or in a gumboot in the hall. The trouble is remembering not to put them somewhere stupid.
    If I tried to do life perfectly I’d probably hurt myself.

  • Stacey-Lee

    I am one of those white-knucked uptight folk who just can’t get their head around things just not being/going the way I want them to.  Slowly, I am learning to let go and live life a little more.  Great Advice