Last week, before the madness of the weekend arrived, my sister asked me to go with her to the Target Baby Sale to put on a lay-by for the stuff they would need for their impending bubby. Of course, I said yes! She’s my sister and no amount of wanting a baby would keep me from this chance to share in this with her. So we went. We left home at almost 3pm for the Sunshine Coast {our local Target is a ‘Country’ store and laaaaa-me!} planning to shop, grab some dinner and shop some more. We were ridiculously unprepared. Sort of.

They had selected the car seat they wanted, a breast pump and a few other things but as we stood in the aisle staring at row after row of baby things we both got a little panicked. Well I don’t know for sure about her, but my heart was racing, the bottles started to blur into one big expensive pile of plastic and well, I felt a little clammy. Overwhelm. Well and truly. So we did what we, as sisters, do best. We started making jokes about it while my sis whipped an app out.

Do you need to buy baby shampoo if you baby is bald? I asked. A passing mother thought this one was particularly good and gave it a laugh out loud sized laugh. Thank you, thank you, I’m here all week. But really, do you? Or should you just use body wash..? Also, can you just put baby bottles in the dishwasher? and if not, why not? I said that maybe they were like SodaStream bottles and it ruined something about them, but I was winging it.

While we were there we watched a guy struggle with every single pram on the display, pulling them down, pushing them back up again and replacing them on the display. One after another after another. We admired his dedication. And patience, holy heck that takes patience. So in the end, when he made his selection I scribbled down that pram name because I figure, it’s as good as tried and tested. Meh. Save myself, and my sis, the grunt work, don’t you think?

That said, it was also quite strange to be again helping a younger sibling through something I know so very little about. As the eldest I always prided myself on leading the way. I moved out first, moved away first, got married first and even fell pregnant first. I will be the last to have a baby. That’s a weird thing to let go of. The first thing. It’s not even as much about competition as it is about keeping them safe and showing them how. Now I can’t. this time it will be their turn to show me how. Gosh I hope they get the chance.

Until then I am more than willing to make a fool of myself in the baby section for their benefit.

More than willing to put my hurt aside.

More than willing to crack jokes when it all seems a little bit overwhelming.

More than willing to be at their side when they need me.

More than willing to go last. This time.

  • Cassandra J

    My older sister was the same but it always meant the world to me to have her there.
    My advice on baby shopping is quite simple, if you have two cars get two car seats don’t mess around trying to change them all the time. Get the thinnest pram possible, aisles aren’t made for prams. But my best piece if advice is none of it matters too much you will make anything you decide on work, even if it’s the biggest car seat possible in the back of a two door barina and the biggest pram available in the boot (and the front seat)!!

  • Rachel

    You will be the best Aunty & a great role model for the little one.

    • Thank you. I’ve had lots of practice at the whole Aunty thing, this will be my eighth!!

  • You’re going to be terrific you already are. As much I know you thought and wish it was you leading the way you and your sister are blessed with each other. She will likely be or is overwhelmed with all of this at times and at times you are for a whole set of different reasons. It’s understandable and all ok. I’m so grateful for you that you have the ability to use humour in all situations in life. I foresee there being moments in the future when your sisters baby arrives you swooping in on a difficult day for her when she is overwhelmed and you save the day and sanity. I’m sure because of the wonderful person that you are that when it comes the day when you have a babe in arms and your having your moment, you’re going to be incredibly lucky and blessed to have to siblings swooping in to help you. Until such time Hun in the meantime heck yes have fun in baby section, make nervous overwhelming jokes every parent and parent in waiting has been there before its just the done thing. Oh and a hint the feeling of being overwhelmed by choices is often a huge indicator that you don’t need half the stuff, trust me you end up getting rid of so much when you realise in real life practice it’s a pain in the arse.

  • sydneyshopgirl

    They will get the chance. They will.

    SSG xxx

  • They will Melissa x
    Also I just boiled baby bottles in water in a saucepan for a bit to sterilize. Is that wrong? Oh well!!

  • You have a super special job to do you are an Aunty and a bloody good one I bet. You also get to use there kids as guinea pigs and figure out, through the piles of baby stuff what you will actually use and not have sitting in a draw unused as most first time parents do. Not to mention all the stuff they hand down score..

    • I am a REALLY great Aunty. Trust me, I took a survey. Haha. Hand me downs I’m counting on. 😉