what others think of you is none of your business

My general rule is that if someone doesn’t say it to my face, then it’s none of my business. A lot of people, women especially, love to tell a good tale. Dob even, on those talking about others behind their back. It’s a bit of a game. But I don’t want to hear about it. Sometimes even when people are saying to my face, I consider what others are saying about me none of my business. They can think what they like about me, I still have the same value that I always had. I read that on a quote somewhere, from a bloke named Rain, from memory. The same value, whether I knew, other people knew it or whatever. It was always there.

SURE I’d be concerned if I was hearing the same thing, from everyone, over and again. Especially if it wasn’t the way I saw myself at all. Then a little thought has to go to, are they right? Maybe they were right and they don’t know I’ve changed? Maybe I need to look at how I am being with people. You’ve heard me talk about this before. About how during a training seminar I was told that I was really intimidating and closed off. I’ve never been so darn shocked in my life. That was 4 {?} years ago now and most people who know me today laugh at that. They just don’t see me like that. Unless I’m MAD. Then watch out.

So I guess I’m a little on the fence on this one. Sure, what other people say about you is none of your business. Some people just use other people’s lives as sport for their conversations. I don’t know if it means they need to get out more or what. Those people don’t add value to who you are. They question you chasing your dreams as much as they would question your choice of coffee. Or, you know, tea. But sometimes other people are right and you need to listen to grow and change into the person you WANT to be. So where is the tipping point? When do you disregard and when do you listen? Or do you just need new friends? Tricky.

What say you? Do you listen sometimes, all the time or never?