I used to think I was pretty cool. Describe yourself they would say and I would refer to that one time I was called aloof and intimidating. Let’s not even talk about the guy that called me belligerent, which is my favourite thing ever. But I was wrong. I am not now and never have been cool; ask my siblings.
It turns out I am an overly excitable mess of feelings and emotions. I have no chill. And what does that means? Well, if I like you, you’ll know. And boy-oh-boy, if I love you expect to hear all about it every time we talk because I’m all about expressing myself. So down with no chill! This is my no chill guide.
I like being excited about stuff and I don’t think it’s a bad thing to expect respectful treatment. I like having no chill when it comes to telling people how I feel about them and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to do what makes you happy. But most of all, I like being a fan-girl. So if that makes me no chill, then awesome. I’m one hundred percent in.
Mostly, I refuse to buy into this idea that to have ‘no chill’ is the worst thing that could happen to me as a woman. I hate that this is what girls are told to be these days. It’s a throwback to this crazy, irrationally emotional woman idea used to ‘keep us in our place’ over the last century or so. It’s bullshit.
Want to know about me and how I manage to function with no chill? Well, I’m a predominately sensible, emotional, grown woman who manages to juggle a number of amazing relationships, a career, a small handful of businesses and a life that I’m proud of. So don’t tell me that if I tell you off for treating me badly that I need to chill out. Because boy, I will end you.
Do you want to know why?
Be the most joyful, excited expression of yourself; that’s what it’s all about. My sister and sister-in-law are horrifying to go to the cinema with (in the best possible way) they are so into the movie that they laugh, gasp, cringe, and boo at the top of their lungs. They’re engaged. They are invested in the experience of the movie and don’t care who knows it. It’s both hilarious and empowering to watch. Those two, at movies especially, have ZERO chill. And I love that about them.
Life, it’s for living, so say what there is to be said, stand up for who you are and what you want. The right people will always be able to handle it. And I say that as someone who on occasion needs to be told to rein it in. Be excited about stuff, it’s the best feeling in the world. It’s why you can’t help but love a geek; the joyful glee that comes from loving so freely is like sunshine.
Be brave, stop trying so hard to avoid the no chill.
Chief Blogger at Suger Coat It; An Australian lifestyle blog for women who work for themselves. Melissa is a social media consultant & lover of stripes. Most weekends you’ll find her at the beach or home on the veranda kicking back. Around here, they call her Suger. Feel free to do the same.