My whole life I’ve had this body. It has been smaller and bigger. Shorter but never taller. Unless you count wearing heels. We’ve had our good days and our bad days. I like to think of my body as an old friend. Or a sibling. You aren’t always going to get along, but you love them {it!} unconditionally. So yes, my body is my bestie. But it’s been a long road. 
When I was a child I considered myself athletic and strong, just like my other family members. I wasn’t as fast or as talented but I was an athlete, of sorts. The first time I was called fat by an adult it shocked me. I was tall. I was strong. I was fit and healthy. Yet, I was fat. 
I didn’t know much but I knew that apparently this was a bad thing. So as I grew older and taller still, my aim was to be thin. Skinny. Svelte. Bit by bit the disordered eating began. It didn’t really work. I got thinner. But it was never far enough. I was never thin nor skinny nor svelte. I was bony. And hungry.  
Soon, I got sick of being hungry. Not long after that I was fat. Really fat. If only that first adult could see me now. I kept getting fatter. Not long before my wedding I hit the heaviest I had ever been. Since then, year by year I have chipped away at the weight I gained. Weight on, weight off, feel good, feel crap. Over and over. 
No sugar has made an impact and kilo by kilo the weight slips away. To date I haven’t actually even been back on the treadmill. But I’m looking forward to it. My aim and thinking is now focused towards fit, strong and healthy. Thin, for me, can go, errrrr JUMP {I had did have the F word here. But this blog is PG and mostly curse free. So picture if you will}.
So yes, I heart my body. And yes, I have some work to do until we are besties again. I think it’s probably mad at me. I haven’t been a good friend to it at all. I’ve been abusive and inconsistent. Mostly I didn’t listen to it. My body however has always been a faithful friend. Resilient and consistent and loyal. 
Are you about done with this metaphor? I am. Short version. I heart my body. Have a little faith in it. Treat it nicely. Maintain it well. Enjoy all it offers. Thinking happy thoughts about it. And try it remember that…
It’s the only one I’ve got.  
See a whole world of body love conversations at We Heart Life’s second annual I Heart My Body
Better late than never for a link up. Right!? Haha. 

  • Sarah Mac

    Great post Melissa and it's so true that our bodies take a lot of punishment from us and forgive us a great deal.We should think of them as a friend rather than an enemy and look after them as they do us.

  • Sarah

    Treat it nicely!! Love this so much. Awesome post:)You can't look after something you don't like.

  • Melissa, I have only one thing to say…You are a very wise woman!!You're words resonate, and I bet not just with me, but with many many women.Okay…so that's more than one thing.But that's because this post is awesome!

  • Surely Sarah

    We could all do with treating our bodies like friends I think! Love this post, made me think more about my relationship to food and how it impacts my body.

  • Shelley @ My Shoebox Life

    I've been a bad friend to my body these past few months. Emotional eating is so destructive, and yet can be so easy to hide from the outside. As of yesterday I have decided to get off the rollercoaster. Thank you for sharing and inspiring. x

  • Amy@MyLifeasaCake

    I like this. Body being a bestie- sometimes you get along, sometimes you fight, but at the end of the day, you'll be together forever and have mutual respect for one another.What a great post 🙂

  • I really enjoy your posts. I love the funny ones but the deep ones are really good too. Above all I really like that you're human and we get to see many sides of you. No one is ALWAYS happy or ALWAYS sad. It's really good to see that you are a person and though you have flaws you're genuine and that is priceless :)Karlene

  • LOVE! I am liking the sibling analogy…xx

  • You might be done with the metaphor, but it is a good one. You're awesome, Suger x

  • toni

    This is such a beautifully written and deeply moving post. This is why we keep coming back!

  • Zoe

    Very wise.. Healthy is much nicer than skinny 🙂