Did you date much? – I met and married hubby fairly young and really quickly. So I never really had to suffer through the whole dating thing. But is it suffering, or would you say it’s exciting? I wonder sometimes {not for long, mind you} what life would have been like dating. Would it have been months, years, decades of dates? Would I have excelled at dates, or made a wonky, touch your hair awkwardly first impression and never be called back?

I’m date curious, can I say that?

Maybe I’ve finally got the seven-year relationship itch, 10 years in. Sometimes I day-dream about life without my relationship. And it’s not that I’m unhappy. I’m happier now than I’ve ever been. But I guess it’s a grass is always greener thing. I wonder about things I never had or did. I assume it’s normal. What I don’t think is normal is that neither of us ever really dated. I’m not surprised actually to figure out that Hubby and I are abnormal. Just add it to the list.

I don’t think either of us would have been great daters.

I also wonder about couples with regular date nights. How and why come to mind first. Do you get dressed up? Is there wine? Do you find that regularly scheduling a date makes it just one more thing to do in a week packed with things to do? I’m not pro or con dating your partner or matrimonial partner, no way. I’m just curious. We have never been able to make it work. Hubby occasionally suggest dinner. Usually when I’m face down on the couch attempting to lift my head enough to care. Or visa versa.

Apparently, snuggling on the couch isn’t a date.

Who makes the rules anyway? Can’t us driving to get Thai take out together be considered a date? Do I have to wear lipstick to make it count? Because if that’s the case I’ve never been on a real date. Ever. I don’t really wear the stuff. It ends up on my rather large front teeth. I’m ok with that. Mostly. I love the idea of dressing up and heading out somewhere nice. I might even do it too. If I felt like it. Maybe I should make the effort?

In relationships, is it possible to never date and stay happy?