So a few of you had questions. They were made in statements, emails and even filtered through in comments over the past 6 months. How? You asked. How do you set a task, a challenge and get there? Well, here’s some things I have learnt along the way. From my parents, from courses I have done and people I have met. So from me to you, here are my top five tips for getting done what you said you would get done;

  1. Every word is a promise. Every single word that falls out of your mouth is a reinforcement of who and what you are. Are you making loose, wishy washy promises? Well, it’s time to stop. Time to clean up the messes you’ve made with people by breaking your promises so bit by bit YOU can relate to yourself as someone who does what they say they will do.
  2. Make a plan, take where you want to be and break it down into milestones. Not only does it make it seem possible, but it gives you warning signs if you are falling behind. Be descriptive. If you want to run 5km in 11 weeks, mark how many km’s you want to have run week by week or how long you plan to run every week, what you’re going to eat, what you’ll do if it rains etc etc etc. Plan to win.
  3. Make yourself accountable. Open up your mouth and tell every man and his dog that this is what you are going to do. If you spent some time restoring your word with people {as suggested in point one} then you won’t want to undermine that again so soon. This will motivate you.
  4. Get a great team. So not only are you going to tell everyone, but you are going to rally th troops around who are your resources. People to motivate, boss and push you. People to love you and see you at the finish line long before you see yourself there yourself. A team splits the load and backs up that accountability thing.
  5. Be kind to yourself. But not too kind. When it comes to achieving something that matters to you there are going to be times where you are down and feel like being out. You’ll stumble, fall, face plant even. Be kind to yourself and know that it is ok for that to happen. But don’t you dare give up. Calls your support team, cry and wail if you must, acknowledge that what you’re up to is BIG and of course it’s going to take something. Then get up and get going all over again.

So there you go. For everyone who mentioned that they don’t know how I do it. That they don’t know how I set myself a goal or task and go about achieving it. That’s how. Just do those things and you’re there. Promise.


  • Awesome advice. Totally.

  • Great tips and love your advice. I think having a great team around you makes a huge difference to achieving your goals. I am trying to rope my kids into being my team with not much success. I think I need to wait until they get a little older 🙂 N x

    • Thank you! Rally the troops. I’ll bet they get behind you and are your most powerful source of being held accountable. 😉

  • He Melissa,
    They are really good tips and great advice, it is important to have your support “team”
    One thing to always remember but, is that if for some reason you don’t reach your goal,
    everybody will still love you just the same, as should you yourself! 🙂
    Congratulations on achieving your goal!

    • Thanks Tony. A great response. For sure if you don’t make, but you played your heart out, that’s something to be celebrated too. Then refocus and go again. Haha.

  • Elle

    WOW – what a great post!! Love it! I watched this great video just this morning about the Key to Success being as simple as “Do what you say you are going to Do!” I think the universe is sending me a clear message today!
    Check the video out its only short – but powerful!

    • Are you hearing it? I hope so. When these things happen, it’s the answer to your request. Grab it and run with it! Thanks for sharing the video. xo

      • Elle

        Hearing it loud and clear! Getting slowly better at it!

        • Excellent! I’m a bossy boots, huh? But that is great news. 😉

  • Sheri Bomb

    Such great advice! Although I think another important aspect of setting and achieving those really hard goals. You have to REALLY want to do it. It’s easy to say ‘yes, I want to get fit, lose weight and be healthy’ but this can be a very hard goal for some people to achieve and unless they REALLY want it, it’s easy to give up. You have to fully commit to yourself first. Once you’ve done that, follow this advice and you’ll be at the finish line in no time.

    • I think that comes into point one, if you are careful and conscience of your words and their impact, you wouldn’t commit to something that you don’t REALLY want. And I know, in my experience at some point that wanting fades. Or we can talk ourselves out of it. So the commitment to your word is all that is left. And, in my case, my brother holding me to account.

  • Rhonda

    Great advice.
    I love your list.