You know that person. Thoooooose people. You pass them in the street, see them on TV or have known them your entire life, the people who just oooooze confidence. You see them walk into a room, head high and striding through the door and you think, wow! Those people. Or maybe for you it’s a celebrity or musician? If you have never really thought about it at all, today you are! Today you’re going to find yourself some confidence role models.

This isn’t about replicating them. It isn’t about being them. It’s about having a role model to model your behaviour after. Like the ‘What Would Jesus Do’ movement. What would *insert confident person’s name here* do? Until the day comes when you know for yourself what YOU would do.

For me it’s always been a mashed up version of my parents. My mother is an extrovert  She derives energy from people and loves being around them. People are her people. I loved her confident to walk up to anyone, anywhere and say hello. She makes friends easily and is a fun person to have around but she’s terrified of public speaking. And then there’s my Dad. He’s a quiet man, a man of few words especially in a crowd. He is a loyal friend but doesn’t go out of his way to make new ones. He is a man of great wisdom and delivers one heck of a one on one conversation and an impressive public speaker.

The hybrid combo that would be my parents mashed together, which ironically I am in some ways, was my idea of a perfect role model for confidence. Every time I was challenged I would think to myself, what would the hybrid parent do? i would channel my Mum in crowds, for making friends or at parties. I would look to my Dad for speaking in public, being a loyal and committed listener. I would look to my vision of them until one day I chuckled and knew exactly what was next for me.

Who will it be for you?

Daily Challenge: Make a collage or list of people who you admire for their confidence. Who are they and why are they on your list?


  • Your mumma and pappa are wonderful.
    I’m going to have to have think about this one, crazy huh because I think most people would be able to rattle them off straight away. Role model vs people I admire, I need to work out if that’s the same or different things for me.

    • They really are. Do think it through, I think you can admire someone’s confidence and it be a separate thing from them being someone you emulate or model your own behaviour on. Take a look, they’ll be there.

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    The Man is the equivalent of your Parent Hybrid. I am always looking to him for inspiration on feeling strong and happy, especially in crowds and social situations where I don’t feel 100% confident. I’ve not mastered it yet but I’m getting there. Sometimes I set myself little challenges. Like when we are in a big crowd and the same person is sort of hanging around in my peripheral vision. Maybe they are on their own? Maybe they just want someone to hang with? I KNOW The Man would say hello to them, strike up a conversation. So I take a deep breath, turn to them and say hey. I did it on Sunday in fact. Made me feel good.

    • Great example! He’s so cool and he was so nice to me the first time I met him and then again later of course, but I remember how easily he just let me tag along on the way out of the Melbourne airport when I had nooooo idea. He would definitely say hi. Great work you. xo

  • Okay….Olivia Newton John for her healthy lifestyle, Carla Coulson for chasing her dream, my daughter for never backing down, My Mum for her incredible strength and teaching me i can do anything, Joy for her insight, YOU for your honesty and willingness to put yourself right out there, Susan Sarandon for her edge, can I mash these all together and find myself?

    • Yes!! I think you absolutely can. Thank you for the mention, I admire your daughter for her energy and charisma. She’s so cool.

  • I have to think about this one, but I’m thinking the mash up for me includes you as well. A sprinkling from each of my parents too, and also a lot from my grandparents who were both leaders in our communities until the day they died.

    • Do, I took a lot of time working out who it was for me. People I not only respected as people but who appeared confident and warm too. It’s a short list. So thank you, I’m humbled to have been even short listed for yours. xo