Those that read this blog often enough will know one of my favourite quotes OF ALL TIME is the one that goes a little like, stand for something or you’ll fall for anything. I keep this in mind whenever I am feeling a little pushed and pulled in all directions. It helps to know who you are and what you stand for. But working that out, well it takes something too.

My Dad prides himself on raising children who know who they are. I am proud of him for this too. I always knew what I would and wouldn’t do. Who I was and where I thought I was going. I was determined, stubborn in a lot of ways but always willing to listen to someone else’s opinion and point of view.

It kept me out of a lot of trouble.

Lots of trouble. Haha.

I remember going to a sleep over once, I knew the kids were planning to sneak out and go swimming in a dam on the property. I was young enough, but there were older kids there too. I knew I didn’t want to swim in a dam at night. I knew it was dangerous and silly. I knew it was something I didn’t want to be a part of. So I called my parents and went home. Boy did I cop flack for that. I was chicken. A sook.

But I knew that what they were doing, I didn’t want to be a part of it. So I wasn’t. There’s a confidence in that. An ingrained knowing yourself, I think, something that I can only thank my parents for. It feels like it has always been there. Sure it wavered here and there as a teen and young adult, but never to the point where I compromised who I was. Not for long anyway.

I put it down to pleasing myself above others. Being able to do that because you know what will make you happy, where your limits are and ultimately on a fundamental basis who you are. As a grownup I nutted these things out for myself; what principals guide my life, what I believe in and who I want to be.

Here they are; I am generous, I am kind and I am determined. I hope to never be cruel, closed minded or wasteful. I practice patience, wisdom and enlightenment. I stand for family, generosity, kindness and open minds. These are the principals I live my life by. It’s who I am. That’s me. What I’m made up of. If what you want me to do doesn’t fit with that, I won’t do it. I stand for that and fall for nothing.

Who are you?

Daily Challenge: Decide three things that you are, three things you never want to be and three things you are practising to be.

  • sheribombblog

    I AM: Caring, Generous, Positive

    I NEVER WANT TO BE: Ungrateful, Cruel, A Bludger

    I AM PRACTISING: Being more open, Standing up for myself, Patience

    • That stinking patience gets a lot of us. 😉 Thanks for sharing yours Sheri. xo

  • Ninette

    Hej, I just started to read your blog and I think you do an amazing job by trying to get the people to be more confident. I’m going to read the 21 other posts during the next days but till then…

    I am: honest, kind, open-minded
    I never want to be: cruel, coldhearted, indifferent
    I am practising to be: patient, more positive and standig up for myself (yes me too)

    P.s.: I’m sorry if my english isn’t that proper, I’m not a native speaker but I try my best 🙂

    • Thank you. I’m glad you found us. New people have been arriving every day, I’m glad someone finally said hi. Haha. Feel like I’m shouting into a void here sometimes.

      Beautiful, thanks for sharing. And your English is more than fine, promise. 🙂

  • Leisa Flanigan

    Great post Melissa, I have been reading them all, just not commenting sorry. Thank you for all the work you have done with these confident you posts, I have looked forward to each new post. Have a great day, Leisa 🙂

    • Thank you for letting me know Leisa. And you are so welcome. I’m glad they’re out here in the world now, doing their thing. I’m proud of that.

  • I know of lots of things that I am, but if time has taught me anything it’s that I am also always changing. Sometimes for the better, sometimes….well not so much for the better, but I am changing and I hold the power to choose to change things about me too.
    In a funny likeness of the minds I blogged today how I know that I am genuine. I love that I wrote that a few days ago before reading this and now I come here and see you have asked us to do this. Maybe I’m not so off track with a confident me as I thought I was getting?

    • Who you are will always change and shift as you grow I think. There are core values that will always be there but who you are is different. I think so anyway.

      I love this! Love that we were on the same wave length and that the series was working on you without you even knowing, or without the series even knowing. Haha. Can you share a link to your post with us?