Let’s go out, he said. I’m sick of being cooped up, let’s get out of here. Air conditioning has that effect on him. Too cold, too perfect, too much. Actually any thing with four walls freaks him out after a while. And so, we go out. Usually for a drive. Sometimes for dinner or lunch or some version of meal. It’s the way dates look when you’ve been together a while. In our case anyway. Any time we try too hard to make a plan, set a date and go out, it never works out.

I prefer the impromptu date.

I prefer to just be with him and drive.

I prefer to have him next to me doing something mundane then not have him there at all.

Except the groceries. I hate having him with me when I do the groceries. He loves to wander off, with the trolley just as I have an arm load of stuff to put in it. Or leave it unattended with my handbag sitting on top. A waving red flag of steal me sitting there for everyone to see. Yes, I absolutely prefer not to have him with me for that.

Errr, what the heck was my point? Oh. Right. Dates for old, boring, married people. It turns out that sometimes, in these busy times it takes something to make time for each other. Sometimes all it takes is little bursts of time, spent well with each other. That’s what I think.

What do you think? Planned date nights or impromptu mini dates? Or worse, doing the groceries together?? 

  • Amy Wells

    With the kids, most of our dates have to be planned. That being said, sometimes the best moments are when we say to my parents ‘ do you mind watching the kids for an hour? ‘….. Then we go do something mundane at Bunnings/ Big W/ Auto barn and stop for a quick afternoon tea together before we pick the Bambinos up….

    • http://sugercoatit.com/ Melissa Walker Horn

      Yeah, sometimes when life is busier you really do have to MAKE time. But I agree, some of the best moments are those stolen, quick ones.

  • Ezmae Reid

    My boyfriend and I do better impromptu dates too, I think the best are going for a weekend drive someplace new and having a walk and seeing some nature. Whenever I try make a nice dinner at home and surpass him he ends up being late home haha

    • http://sugercoatit.com/ Melissa Walker Horn

      It IS, right!? Lots of fun. And yes, I’m a bit like that too. Try too hard and all of a sudden we are both caught up or the fridge breaks down and the food is spoiled or some other comedy of errors. So we don’t bother and go all impromptu.

  • Michelle

    I think both. Plan time away and then just spend everyday time together. My husband and I have been out together twice in the past 4 years. That is what living away from a support network, and having a small child, will do to your life!! lol

    • http://sugercoatit.com/ Melissa Walker Horn

      Absolutely both. And if it makes you feel any better, when Hubby and I first started our first business our date nights were at the business. Ha. We didn’t go out or spend any real time away from that business until we sold it. So I hear you, even if the circumstances are different. ;)