Happy New Year Sugers!

Welcome back to a whole new year of Suger Coat It. 2013 the year of the Me. I couldn’t find the words to express this intention over the past week. I knew I wanted to declare it somewhere for you all to see. A permanent reminder for myself that I committed to this. But I would sit down to write and it wasn’t there. It always came out sounding like this was going to be a year of having my head up my own butt. Something I try to avoid.


This video came across my path in the same way SO many things do, on Facebook. Alongside someone’s impassioned plea for a sequin mini and just below yet another like to be awesome, ignore and your granny dies, type of thing. There it was, on the very day I declared that in 2013 I would resolve to do one thing. Be myself. This video which says so much about so much. It’s elegant and personal, it spoke to me of being myself and thus providing a space for others to do the same. Take the time to watch it if you can, listen to the words she speaks, really hear her, and hear the value of being yourself so that others can see.

My aim this year is simple. It is to be the best version of myself. A lean, clean, Melissa machine. {Yeah, I made that up right then, wank factor one thousand}. I am looking for something at the moment. Looking for a missing something that I can’t quite put my finger on. It’s not even a big missing, it’s just some form of expression that I plan to put my finger on sometime soon. I want a purpose, if that makes sense, a reason for doing what I do, for being who I am.

So watch this space Sugers.

And watch this clip when you can.

She’s worth it, I promise.

Here’s to 2013. Another great year.

  • Patrick weseman

    That all we can do-Be ourselves.

    • It’s the simplest and the hardest thing sometimes. 🙂

      • Patrick weseman

        Yes it is. And being an old man I relish in the fact that being myself is all I can do at this point. I am too old to try to be anybody but me.

  • Maxabella

    All you can ever be is yourself, Melissa. It’s you, all you, regardless of whether you love it or loathe it. Embrace everything about yourself and peace will be yours. Happy new year, dearest. x

    • Happy new year Bron. You’re so right. Love or loathe, it’s all me. 🙂

  • THAT is exactly what I needed to watch xx

  • Rach aka Stinkb0mb

    If you’re not you, who are you? The answer is no one, which is why being YOU, regardless of the cost, is SO important. Grab you and flaunt the hell of her because if you didn’t already know – she’s pretty darn amazing.


    • SO important. I think it costs you way more to be someone else, or to try. Thank you Rach.

  • Michelle

    Don’t really get half of what she is talking about but to each their own!!

  • Kim

    Thank you Melissa & Lana, for sharing. I choose to be more me without the worry of other people’s opinions because you both shared. Thank you for helping to make it OK xxx

  • Just beautiful, thank you again for sharing 🙂 So very inspiring to watch through (even if I did need to have a little toliet break halfway through!).
    I know for 2013, the only way I could articulate what I want for myself, is to “be the best version of you you can be”. Then I read your words and it was exactly how I was feeling. I want for this to be the best year yet… For it to be my turn, and that it’s my time, and that I have the ability to make it so.
    The other words I have been carrying around for a while, but have never felt more strongly about… “I will do today what others won’t, so that I can live tomorroy like others can’t”.
    May 2013 bring us all any blessings, loads of laughter, and a million opportunities x

    • Sometimes it’s hard to find the words to articulate a feeling or a hope. Absolutely. Wishing all the good things in 2013. Thanks for sharing this. xo