I sat down earlier this week to write the Suger News and, as I do, had a think about what I’d been up against this week. What were my challenges and what was I dealing with so could share that experience, and hopefully the win, with you guys. Another grueling, gripping tale of struggle with myself and triumph. But, I sort of didn’t want to.

Instead I decided to write about being a happy person.

How I do it, the things that I repeatedly do and all that jazz. Because I believe that being happy is a practice. A way of living that just takes a little practice. Excluding medical and mental health conditions people, don’t go beating yourself up if you’re unwell, that never helped anyone. See your Dr, do what they suggest and get better. I’ve been there.

And if you’re ready, start whenever you like to take on some habits that are going to promote happiness in your life. How to turn yourself into a happy go lucky type person who makes other people sick. Because it’s fun and you deserve to be happy.

So get reading, here we go.

Being a happy person | Suger Coat It

My top 5 tips for being a happy person.

1. Let it go.

There are things, thoooose people and situations in this life that, even if you were to go up against them every single day of the rest of your life, they wouldn’t change. Do yourself a favour and just accept that it is the way it is. It’s time for you to either move on or enjoy the good bits from the situation.

Don’t carry the weight of your concerns, worries, or negative bs with you every minute of every day. And sure as heck don’t carry anyone else’s crap! Tackle your worries head on and then leave them behind. Worried about something that may never happen? Let it go. Stop giving your happy over to a bunch of things you can’t control. And if you can control them? Then get on with it already.

2. Laugh with your mouth open.

For a long time, I’m not sure when it started, I would cover my mouth when I laughed. Or do a sort of closed-mouth chuckle. It was weird. Someone asked me about it one day, and I said that I didn’t know why I did it, but I assumed it was to muffle my rather a loud laugh. Why the hell would I want to do that? Laugh with your head back and your mouth open, it makes the funny things better.

Gather your friends and laugh until it hurts. Find a movie you’ve been waiting to see or an old favourite that always makes you laugh. Flick channels until there’s a sitcom type television show you love and have a laugh. Do nothing else, put everything else aside and laugh as loudly and as long as you like. Don’t be afraid to be the loudest laugh at the cinema, those people usually have the most fun. Trust me, that person is always my sister or sister-in-law, and they are always having the time of their lives. Haha.

3. Get MORE sleep.

Lots of it. As much as you can. It is SO much easier to be happy when you’ve had enough sleep to function as a human being does. Sleeping more could mean going to bed an hour earlier, grabbing an afternoon power nap (seriously, 20 minutes will change your life!) or enjoying long, lazy mornings. Find a way to make it work for you and get those extra moments in, get MORE sleep.

And I hear you, sometimes that’s not possible. Start small. Start by reading a book instead of your smartphone so you get drowsy earlier. Try trading off the extra 15 minutes sleep in with your partner. Send your kids for a sleepover once a week (fortnight? month?). Try putting your clothes out at night and setting your alarm 10 minutes later. Carve out the time, your body needs the recharge to fuel your mind and spirit. Plus, tired people crave carbs and sugar, cravings like that always make you feel worse in the end.

4. Be nice to people.

I find that when I’m out there being a nice person, I feel better about myself. It’s, a win-win. And no, I’m not talking the nice that sees you walked all over and left you feeling bad. I mean the nice that has you use your manners, exercise patience and be generous with your opinion of others. The nice that makes people’s day or puts a smile on a strangers face or makes a hard time better.

Be that person for someone else and you get that warm fuzzy feeling inside. Just try and feel bad when you chat politely with the cashier, or pay for someone else’s coffee as a surprise. I challenge you to find a way to feel like crap when, for no reason at all, you are kind to the world.

5. Express yourself.

Sometimes your happiness can be tied to a certain situation. There might be something going on, and all you can do is feel bad about it. It sucks the happy right out of you. These times are tricky and sometimes all it takes is to express that blah feeling. Expressing yourself means not withholding your feelings, telling people the impacts of their actions or expressing your concerns. You can do that, and when you do, you clear up space to feel better. To ultimately, fell happy!

Expressing yourself could mean having a conversation you’ve been putting off for a while. Maybe you need to resolve a situation that leave you with an icky feeling every time you think about it. Or it could be about asking a trusted adviser their opinion on how to deal with something. Whatever you do, you’ll find that communicating and expressing yourself is a great way to restore the happy in your life.

Well, that’s my top five team. What do you think about THAT!?

Some are easier to do than others, but all make great habits to get into. When you are taking on these things day after day, piece by piece, you find that happiness because more by default for you. You start happy, and you have to go out of your way to get unhappy. You did it. You made it. Well done you!

  • Mahina Hathaway

    Totally agree. Being happy is a conscious decision that you make a million times a day. My tips on how to be a happy person are:
    SMILE! Not for anyone else’s comfort or pleasure. Smile for yourself. And if you can’t conjure up a fake smile, then think of something that makes you smile. Even if it’s just a little teeny smile that turns up the corners of your mouth. You know that ‘smile’ feeling you get even when your mouth isn’t doing the big cheesy grin thing. That’s what I’m talking about.
    APPRECIATE. Find something in your day to really appreciate. Something that makes you glad you got up out of bed. Even if it’s something as cheesy as seeing a child bumble down some steps. Even better, take action and create something to appreciate. Do something nice for someone, and apprecaite the goodness in it.
    ACCOUNTABILITY. Realise that someone else doing something shitty to you is actually their cross to bear and not yours. You don’t have to take on their crap. You can actually just shed it and move on.
    PLAN. Make a plan, whether you write it out or just have it in your head, as to what steps you need to take to work through an issue. Personally, I love writing the steps out so I can tick them off as I progress.

    Here in China, we get so many comments on how happy we are, how we don’t seem to let anything bother us. Which we find funny because of course things bother us! It bothered us when my parents had to go to Hong Kong right before New Years for their visas, but no one could tell us why or what they needed to do! It bothered us even more when it turned out Dad had to go back to New Zealand and get certain documents from the NZ government departments. There are many things that bother us but being constantly bitchy and grumpy about them only brings us down and means that we miss out on so many amazing things that happen all around us all the time. And I am not willing to let these things rob me of these awesome experiences. So I smile, I appreciate, I decide what I am and are not accountable for and I plan on how we’re going to get through it!

    • This is so great, thank you for sharing this here. Ugh. I’m so grateful you took the time! And I agree, life doesn’t always (ever? Maybe ever) got to plan and you can chose how you react those circumstances.

      • Mahina Hathaway

        Hahaha tell me about life NEVER going to plan! We had planned to spend 2 years here in China. That was our plan. Then of course life throws us a curveball and we get offered an amazing sailing gig in Croatia thats far too good an opportunity to turn down. We have to be in Croatia this May. Bye bye China plans 😛 I am gutted and I am appreciative at the same time. Guess it just means that we really make the most of our now very short time here in China!

        • Oh wow! That is a change lady. Never a dull moment over there huh? Enjoy your remaining time in China and all the best for your NEXT adventure. 😀

  • I was nodding my head in agreement to this whole post. One of the things I wanted to focus on this year was happiness in all areas of my life. Some areas are harder than others, but I’ll get there.

    • You absolutely will Jaylene. I think Mahina has added some great additions to the post too, between the two you’ll be all set to tackle all areas in your life with new happy habits.