My Neon 30th Birthday Bash - Suger Coat It

Today is the day of my big 30th birthday bash. Well, tonight to be precise. It’s got a hashtag. Yes, I’m THAT person {follow along at #sugersneon30th}. Tomorrow I turn thirty, so I thought now would be a good time in all the rush, the hustle and bustle to take a minute and take stock of the past 30 years. Remember what I can. Be grateful for it all. So I’m going to make a list. Because that’s the way, my brain works and I like lists.

Ready? Let’s go!

From day one I am positive I knew just how lucky I was to be born to such amazing parents. They were everything a girl like me needed in this life. Strong, independent and generous and they made me that way too. My Dad will tell you, this was a deliberate effort on their part, so congratulation to them!

Despite every reason as a parent not to, they encouraged my voice and my spirit, as challenging as I’m sure that was. It allowed me to be me when most parents would have tried to kerb those traits in some way. They had known me before I did, they saw it in me from the start. I’m very grateful for them and all they have shared with me. They’re genuine people, my parents. Good people.

Great people in fact.

Later I was joined by two siblings who have enriched my life beyond measure. These two fools are the best thing that could have happened to me. A brother AND a sister. The best of both worlds. I love those guys so badly. Their families, ever-growing it seems like, make me proud to be there sister.

I’ll never forget my last night at home, curled up in my double bed together, we talked the night away and cried a little that life was changing. Even after all this time, I still feel that way when I’m away from them too long. They are a piece of me. I am grateful every day to have them in my life and that I share in theirs as they grow and have their story.

I was born into a large family.

Not my immediate family, there are only five of us. But my extended family. My Dad is one of eleven and my Mum one of five. I had cousin’s coming out my ears since before I was born. Cousins who were {and still are} the best friends a girl could want. They challenged me, argued with me, laughed and cried with me. Got into trouble, got out of trouble and everything in between. I would not be who I am without their input. Thank you to them all.

I always joke that I don’t have many friends. Any friends, in fact. But I have been blessed in this life to have known friendship in the way I have throughout my life has been the greatest of gifts. I learnt what it was to care, to share and to fight for who I am; that putting yourself out there is scary but worth it and people are pretty much good. I’ve been stepped on, over and around and I’m better for it.

Then late in 2009, I started a blog.

The internet was calling me, and I answered. Who knew what a world it would open up for me? The friends I’ve made, the adventures I’ve had, the opportunity to say stuff and people, somewhere, listen. Being online has shown me, people, I’ve learnt a lot about who people are, what they have experienced and who they want to be. I’ve journeyed with so many of you. We’ve come a long way. So, thank you to you, I carry you with me too.

And then finally, last and by no means least is my Kel.

Kel is the husband that 20-year-old me didn’t know she wanted but was smart enough to get anyway. The man who laughs at me when I am being crazy but held me tight when the crazy took over. Loved me before I knew how to love myself properly and shared this life with me long before it existed. I never thought I’d admit this out loud, but he has MADE my life. He has made my life the funniest, weirdest, greatest thing I ever could have imagined.

Gah. Crying.

Give me a second.


And just like that, I’m ready to party! Ready to don my neon finery and party like it’s 1999, because baby, this is my 1999. Tomorrow I’ll be 30, and I cannot wait to see what life has in store for me from here on out. Over and out Sugers. See you on the flip side.

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  • Have the BEST time EVER!

  • Merryl

    Happy birthday for tomorrow!

  • Bambi

    Welcome to the dirty thirties!!! You’ll LOVE it!! X

    Dude, 30 was the BEST year of my life. May it be for you too xo

  • Joolz

    Happy Birthday, gorgeous you!

  • Happy birthday!!!! 30s are the best!

  • Bev Williams-Krause

    Happy 30th birthday party day! I loved the ‘whistle stop’ tour 🙂
    Party hard and enjoy every second x

  • Happy 30th to one of the toppest chicks on the interwebs xx


  • sydneyshopgirl

    Happy 30th, dear and inspiring Melissa!

    This was a fantastic post. More so thn usual.

    SSG xxx

  • Renae

    Happy Birthday Suger! Can’t wait to see the photos from the event of the year 🙂

    • Thank you Renae. You shouldn’t have to wait too long. Hoping to get them up somewhere this afternoon.

  • Patrick weseman

    Happy Birthday to you.

  • happy birthday! cannot wait to see pictures, the set up so far looks awesome, have an awesome night!

  • I hope you have an incredible night! 30 is going to look great on you xxx

  • Jamie

    Have a beautiful birthday!!

  • Suger it’s your birthday… happy birthday Suger!!!!
    I’m so excited that your big day is finally here and I hope you enjoy every wonderful neon second of it!!!

  • Happy Birthday! xxx

  • SpiikerKat

    What a lovely post! Happy Birthday beautiful fabulous lady! Hope you have a awesome party!

  • Happy 30th Suger! I really celebrated my 30th too, not quite a bash, but a happy dinner with people who matter 🙂

  • Mel

    Happy birthday gorgeous! I hope you have a fantastic night, you deserve it! Xx

  • Well as I type it’s officially the day of your birthday. Your 30th birthday! Your 30th birthday did you hear that? Happy birthday my sweet, I hope it’s a magically special one for you. Your 30’s are going to rock, it really is the best. Your 20’s are all fun and games but your 30’s are where it’s at. Lots of squishy love and hugs. X

  • Deanna Buckley

    Haaaaaapppyy Birthhhhdayyyyt!!!!!!! Thanks for being such a lovely person who shares so much with us all and lets us feel a part of all your loveliness … Love reading your posts and they sure do show that you must be part of an awesome family… Which you so deserve! … Wishing you a happy day and can’t wait to see party pics 🙂

  • HumbirdsSong

    Happy Birthday my darling Miss Suger! I hope you had a super fantastically wonderful night, did you feel me there in spirit? 😛 Embrace the dirty 30’s lovely lady, they really are phenomenal years. Love to you! xx

    • Thank you Rhi! Oh yes indeedie I did and you certainly were. Probably somewhere around my second wind on the dance floor. Haha. xo

  • Wow! Happy 30th! Such a young poppet…the 30’s are a blast. Enjoy -xx-

  • A gorgeous post! It even made me sniffle! So happy we can now follow you along on your next 30 years of adventures! xx

    • Thank you Liv. Me too. You’re too much fun to not have along for the ride.

  • <3 <3 <3 Hope you had an epic and fun filled night! Happy Birthday! xo

  • Happy 30th Birthday my sweet. I hope your night was truely wonderful and that your 30’s are amazing and bring you all of your desires.

  • kim from feather and nest

    Happy Birthday to you, lovely Melissa!!!! xxxxxxx

  • Lovely piece of writing, I can only hope to have the courage to blog this honestly someday! Happy belated 30th, sounds like you had a blast!

    • Thank you CC. I absolutely had a blast. SO much fun.
      I hope so too, there is a freedom in saying what there is to say for you. xo

  • Thank you! {Sorry, your comments got spammed for some reason!}. I’m looking forward to everything my 30’s has to offer. SO excited. Even if my experience so far is a virus complete with chesty cough. NOT a win.